Am I a bad daughter?

@arvee17 (730)
Philippines
May 2, 2007 11:39am CST
A couple of hours ago, my youngest sister called up and was asking me to go to my dad's house to check up on him. My father and I stopped talking to each other for like months now. My family is a quite complicated one. My parents are divorce. And my dad for his age had been to different relationships and got kids with every women he goes out with. I stop talking to him because I am totally fed up with his never ending selfishness and I never felt he truly cared about his children. Now he is living with a girl far younger than me. That girl could be her youngest daughter but my father doesn't care. And now I heard that he made the girl pregnant. My father's live-in partner called my youngest sister and told my sister that my dad is having a heart attack and they need our help financially. I told my sister that I won't go there and that I don't care. My sister got hurt about my reaction but I told myself that it is not my responsibility. I am second to the youngest in my family and if my father needs help, he could go to my older brother or sisters. I don't want anything to do with him. A part of me is saying that I am bad daughter. But a part of me also says i just did the right decision. Then just 2 hours ago, my older sister called up and told me that she also didn't want to go to my dad's place but having that she run out of choice, went there. And she told me that my father was just making a scene. He's got a fever but not even near of having a stroke. So, do you think I just did the right decision or I am but just a bad daughter?
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@rodeotexas (1154)
• United States
2 May 07
I think you made the right decision. I don't talk to my dad either and like you I wouldn't have went. I don't think that makes me a bad daughter it's just that I don't care to talk to him for the way he acts.
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@arvee17 (730)
• Philippines
2 May 07
I totally agree with you. My siblings find my dad as a weak person and needs of constant attention from us. And even though my parents are already divorce, my oldest sister still wants them to be back together. I am really disgusted about the idea of them being together again. My father had slept with different women and made them pregnant, like that is the only purpose of women to him. To give him babies and leave them. And now he made not a woman but a young girl pregnant. I am totally grouse by it. And don't want him to be part of my life. I don't want my son to find that his grandfather is an imbecile fool.
• United States
3 May 07
Don't worry, you did the right thing. This situation sounds sticky, but with the kind of father you have, I can totally understand where you're comming from. Although family is family, sometimes families do stray after awhile. You know, I haven't seen my father since I was 13, the last time we spoke was the day before my wedding day. We haven't spoken since and like you, my father was never there, not for me or my brother. So no, you're not a bad daughter.
• India
3 May 07
anybody in your situation would react the same towards their dad.Since you know your father better. You took a right decision.You are not a bad daughter. I am sure if he was in worth situation then you would do something as human being not as a daughter.Forgive him and pray so that he dont spoil other girls life anymore.
@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
2 May 07
No you are not a bad Daughter as far as I am concerned if that is how you feel about your Dad and if he has never bothered with you then why should you bother and in the end it was all false Alarm anyway so I would not worry Sweetie You can't force your Feelings and if there is nothing there for your Dad because of what he has done then you are actually being honest and pretending just so they think you are a good Daughter All I can say Sweet is do not worry about it anymore you are an honest Person and you are not a bad Daughter
@clavinee (119)
• Philippines
2 May 07
you are not a bad daughter or even a bad person for that matter. Deep inside you, you still care about the old man and just that your conscience is hitting on you. But still I understand the anger and frustrations you got from him. He was not a good father as I could see. Try to forgive him if you can. Only if you can...