TRUE LOVE is OPEN and HONEST ALL the TIME. Right or Wrong?
May 2, 2007 6:23pm CST
I believe that LOVE is FULL or "TRUE" when both of you are OPEN to each other and Totally HONEST about everything. I have my 5 year relationship and i have been OPEN and HONEST to my Honey. I see that because of that we are TRUE to each other and we LOVE each other FULL "OVERFLOWING". We see each other as everything, we tell all our secrets and frustrations. We share the JOY and LAUGHTER as well as the SADNESS, ANGER and DOwn times. Its wonderful to have a relationship that is Transparent. Some say that it shouldn't be that way. Meaning they are advising me not to be too OPEN and HONEST and i wonder why they are suggesting that. How about you? What do you think?
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2 May 07
I'm not really sure what "true love" is. I know you can love someone, but there is nothing magical about it, you just care alot for them, and prefer to spend an extended amount of time with them. Anyway, as to your question, I agree with you in part. Honesty is something that a couple should have mostly out of mutual respect for the other person. Recently however, i have learned that not EVERYTHING needs to be shared. For example,you mentioned earlier that you share every thought and feeling and frustration. Telling your significant other every single time your upset about something they did, no matter how trivial, isn't a good idea. I have found that i don't pick my battles well, and sometimes neither does he. ( more often me though haha)But that was just an example of how too much sharing can cause alot of frustration and even insecurity in a relationship.(perhaps that is what people meant when they told you too much is not a good idea.) I also think keeping something of yourself TO yourself is important. After a while people tend to meld into the other person and lose their individuality. So you don't have to open up everything you are to let someone in to get to know you. Unfortunately i cant think of a good example right now. Actually i think this would be the only case ( the sharing every feeling thing) in which you should probably not say anything at all lol. everything else should be right out on the table:) Trust in each other is the key ingredient to the "good relationship" recipe. corny? haha
6 May 07
True love cant be doubted. They are always honest. True love speaks through hearts and not through brains. Everything comes out spontaneously when we are in true love. I have never had that experience with boys. I have true love for my parents hence i never hide anything from them. I speak frankly to them.