24 and hiding my smoking

Canada
May 4, 2007 3:17pm CST
i'm 24 and i'm still hiding the fact that i'm a smoker from my parents. shouldn't it be my own descision but i know they'd freak on me my mother is so controlling. i've been trying to quit for a while now and i'm only smoking 2 to 3 cigarettes a day but i was sitting outside on the porch i saw my mother's car comming down the street and i pitched my smoke. should i come out and say something, or keep hiding it.
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8 responses
• Kottayam, India
4 May 07
Smoking is a bad habit.Why you hid from your parents when u know smoking not good. So take good decision.
@mrsturner (519)
• Canada
4 May 07
I know the whole dynamics thing with parents. I got married at 27 and my parents thought that I had never slept with my fiance. I don't really see a problem with letting them have their illusions. Sometimes it is easier on the parent-child (for somereason we will always be children) relationship. However, if you are tired of it and don't want to hide it then let them know. As long as you don't think they'll bring it up to your daughter when you aren't around.
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
12 May 07
Well i don't smoke anymore but i used to till last year. I never smoked before my parents. Not that i thought they'd get mad at me if i told them, but i didn't like to. When i quit, i told them, "ive quit smoking", and they had never seen me smoking. If i were you i'd tell them, that way you avoid an unnecessary stress there.
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@tad1fan (3373)
• Canada
11 May 07
I have a friend who is in her late 30's and smokes like a normal person.....not just 2-3 a day.....neither of her parents smoke,nor have they ever and out of respect,they don't know she does.....I don't see any problem with letting your parents think they raised you right and that you have no 'bad' or 'dangerous'health problems......it's your decision what you do but if I could have hidden it from my parents,I would still be
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@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
6 May 07
Hi there Poppoppop111.....It sounds to me like you have a lot of respect for your family. You are not smoking that much and as time goes on I'm sure you will put it behind you, I wouldn't say anything its your choice and to be preached at is not going to help sometimes it leads us to want to do it more. I wish you the best of luck Your friend Stacy
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• India
5 May 07
im also a smoker 22yrs.... im smoking from last 10 or 12 yrs.... last yr my brother saw me and he told my parents that i m a smoker.... i think will give me punishment.......... but they dont told any more just asked me and give me only advise live it or take it too minimum becuse its ingourious for health.............
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@OURDEW (4812)
• United States
5 May 07
Your parents most likely can smell the smoke on you. Maybe they think if they don't say anything to you, it will make it harder for you to smoke, and you will feel guilty about smoking.
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@Michele21 (3094)
• United States
5 May 07
That is so funny because I can totally relate!! My parents were always really controlling so I didn't tell them most of the things in my life. And I know if I smoked I would hide it from them as well, I am 25!! They don't know alot of the things that I went through, some stuff right in their own house, some stuff once I moved out, because they were so controlling and wanted me to be this perfect little person. I don't want my kids to be raised like that, afraid to tell me things. So hopefully I (and you) can learn from our parents mistakes and raise some great kids!!!
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