How Do you cope with a gravely ill adult child

United States
May 6, 2007 12:58am CST
My Son May not see his 31st birthday so the doctors have said. Tho he has proved them wrong many times in the last three years it has been very difficult He was diagnosed with end stage renal failer nearly 3 years ago and we have nearly lost him many many times in that time. He has had a stroke and siezures and even been in a comma for 2 weeks yet we keep on going and praying .. I know this is a difficult question but How would you cope with a situation like this? For us it is a every day may be his last kind of feeling and when he goes bad he goes bad fast he has been life flighted 9 times in the last 3 years and Im not sure how much more his body can take or how much more I my self can take with the life threatning scares
3 responses
@liyan97 (2128)
• Northern Mariana Islands
7 May 07
I am so sorry about you son, I will add him to my prayers. My son is also sick, although he is only nine years old. At times I can't even begin to contimplate what's yet to come. I often find comfort is this poem, which I hope will also comfort you in some way;"A HEALING HARP"I asked GOD to take away my pain. god said, no. It is not for me to take away, but for you to give it up.....I asked GOD to make my handicapped child whole. god said no. his spirit is whole, his body is only temporary. I asked God to grant me patience. god said, no. Patience is a by-product of tribulations, it isn't granted it is earned. I asked GOD to give me happiness. GOD said, no. Suffering draws you apart from worldly cares and brings you closer to me. I asked GOD to make my spirit grow. GOD said, no. You must grow on your own, but I will prune you to become fruitful. I asked GOD for all the things I might enjoy in life. gos said, no. I will give you life so that you may enjoy all things. I hope you can find comfort in this poem.
• United States
8 May 07
you are most kind in your response i too will add you and your son to my prayers, The poem is lovely and I thank you for it I will cherish it from one mom to another i just want to say be strong never show your fear to your child I had to lay my son and his condition in the lords hands this last year as the burden was becomeing too much and I now enjoy and cherish every moment i have with my only surviving son thank you
@brendalee (6083)
• United States
6 May 07
I am so sorry to hear about your son. But like your avatar says, cherish every moment. Thats about all you can do. I really don't know what I would do. I would probably cry all the time. I feel so bad for you and I just want to send you a great big hug.
• United States
6 May 07
thank you for your warm response...It is greatly appriciate and as for crying all the time .. that is one thing i dont have time for you see I work a full time job and drive my son to dialysis 3 times a week each round trip is 254 miles as we live in a rural area
@easyzheng (666)
• China
6 May 07
Your son's illness is a great challenge to both you and him. It's rather hard for you two to get over all the difficult time all these years indeed. Your son has survived so many years more than the doctor's prediction. I believe it's all because of your love and your good attention to him. I know both of you are tired and are still striving for that. What you can do is to give as much as you can just in order to give him pleasant time while he is still with you. If one day he is called for by God, you can be at ease because you know he will be in peace with God cherishing all the gratitude for the love you have given him.