A total waste of time!
By Stephanie5
@Stephanie5 (2946)
United States
May 8, 2007 11:05pm CST
I'm back from my trip to Tennessee and let me tell you, I should of just stayed home and saved the $2000 I spent going there....
Here's what I accomplished...
I got my druggie sister to go see her kids, but only to lie to them and break their hearts when she didn't come back like she said she would. I just can't understand how she can continuously keep doing this to them...Next time I'm just going to give her an old-fashioned a$$ kicking!
And I found out that my mother whom is so concerned with my sister don't give two $hits about my kids and that she's drinking about a case of beer a day!
I was there for almost a full week and spent a total of 3 HOURS with my mom! And all she wanted when I did see her was to borrow money. She was too wrapped up in her boyfriend. She 'dumped' my little brother off on me and took off....Now, I was THRILLED to spend the time with him so I'm not complaining about that....But, I went there to visit HER and try to help with my sister...
I also found out that my mother's house got raided by the drug task force, then the next day she took a bottle of pills to my sister to sell! My sister shoots up pills!!! Why would she do such a thing? DUHHHHHHHHHHHHH
I give up! I'm taking my brother (who's 16) from my mother as soon as he gets out of school and I don't ever want anything to do with my sister or my mother again....I've had it...they won...I'm done!
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25 responses
@Trace86 (5030)
• United States
10 May 07
I am so sorry that you had such a rough time down there. Maybe that is just what you needed though to get on with your life and realize that your mom and sister aren't worth your time or worry. I am glad you are taking your brother away from your mom before she ruins him. I wonder if she will even notice he is gone? He wants to come with you? Is he as fed up with them as you are? Good luck and God bless you!
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@kareng (55003)
• United States
10 May 07
It's really hard to have family that you care about so much do things like this to their life and not want to change or take the help others reach out to give them. I think you are doing the right thing by going back for your brother when school is out. I would get custody of him and keep him. Hugs to you and good luck. I hope the situation gets better for both your sister and mother.
@uath13 (8192)
• United States
9 May 07
No, They lost. You won because you moved on with your life without going down the toilet with them. Hopefully if you come back to visit my state again it'll be under better circumstances ( I'd recomend avoiding the family ) & you can enjoy it.
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@princeworthy (1909)
• United States
9 May 07
I am sorry that things did not go well on your trip. At least you were able to see what your brother has been going through. Now all you can do is get him out of this. I wish you luck hon!
@UDDERONES (887)
• United States
9 May 07
man that is awful. So sorry you didn't enjoy your trip to Tennessee.
@loved1 (5328)
• United States
9 May 07
What a terrible scenario! I am glad for you that you are living far enough away from your family that you don't have to be affected by their bad choices. Your brother is lucky to have at least one stable person in his life. I wish you the best in this tough situation.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
14 May 07
I am sorry that things didn't go good. Hopefully you can save your brother before he falls into the same mess. It is hard to let go and maybe someday they will realize what they are doing but right now you are fighting a losing battle. Concentrate on your brother and let them be. You have done what you can.
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@tammyr (5946)
• Etowah, Tennessee
9 May 07
No dear they did not win. I think your brother will be the winner here. If you can get him out of there and let him see that other people do not live like that, he will be a big winner. i am glad you are going to go get him, and I can see waiting till school is out, as most here are almost done anyway.
What part of Tn. did you visit?
I am on the southeast corner. I am not sure if you told me that when you left or not.
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@jerryn (819)
• United States
11 May 07
I'm so sorry your trip wasn't better. It's too bad your Mom and sister are on such a destructive path. It's a shame the kids are a part of this awful situation. Where is their father? I hope everything works out for you and your 16 year old brother. That's a huge resposibility that you're taking on but the Lord will surely bless you for doing so.
All my best,
Jerryn
@tad1fan (3367)
• Canada
10 May 07
It sounds to me more like you've won,especially if you can get your little brother out of there but I think if it was me,I wouldn't be waiting for him to finish school.....in this situation,I'd be getrting him out NOW!Good luck to you
@GergOnline (399)
• United States
9 May 07
Stephanie, they didnt win, they are losing. You are winning by taking your brother away from them and staying away from them. They are all around bad news.
If I were you i would fight to take him away now unless he wants to stay at his school. Does he have friends with clean druug-free parents who would be willing to take him in untill after graduation? You don't have to do these things im just making suggestions to help your brother's situation.
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@lifeoriley (262)
• United States
9 May 07
I wouldn't say the trip was a total loss. You got to see your mother and sister for what they really are. Making the decision to take your brother out of that environment is a great accomplishment. You are the winner here!!
@kumbarn14 (735)
• Pakistan
9 May 07
One feel sad to hear a mother's behaviour,who is not aware the punishment she is going to get from God. Children are a spiritual gift from Almighty and the person who misuses this gift will be punished, which a caring and loving child wouldn't want for the mother.
Taking a lesson from your mother get the help of your spiritual Book, read just one line of it and make the atmosphere in your home of God's presence. Talk of good and caring things. You will see how the atmosphere in your home will change. Your mother, she may scold you ones or twice but the third time she is going to listen. The saying is "the paradise is at mother's feet" "when the mothers arms are open it is said "door to paradise." Dont feel sad, you are a caring and loving person and is a part of your life. Just say to yourself I love you Mama and may God Bless you to be a good mother and make us all happy.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
9 May 07
I am so sorry Steph that you wasted your Time
But you have tried Girl and that is all you can do you can not do anymore then that
I am glad that you will be taking your Brother away before he goes down that road to
Good to have you back
@emisle (3822)
• Ireland
9 May 07
I'm so sorry to hear about your family situation, it must be really frustrating for you to reach out to them only to be slapped in the face. It's great that your brother has someone who he can turn to though, there are many out there who are stuck..:(
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@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
9 May 07
oh my gosh hun, that is so sad, i'm sorry you had to go through this.
I'm glad you've decided on something better for you and your family, whom you see as your family anyway...
It's nice to see there's more people out there who would protect their brothers and sisters too, when they don't have to.
I'm sure your brother is going to thank you with his life, day in and day out when you take him.
I hope your feeling somewhat better with everything, i know how it feels to have a messed up family, and well, a long time ago i decided that was it, that i was done with mine too, but then, i thought it was my fault and went back again, to being a part of them, well, just recently, i saw my errors, once again, and i'm on my own, who needs em.
I keep up with my brothers and sisters, but that's it. Your really great to decide to take your brother in, and as for your mother and sister's problems, if they don't want to change hun, there's nothing you can do about it, unfortunately, so don't sweat it, you got your family to worry about....
*Huggz*
@vampirestonez (1181)
• Pakistan
9 May 07
Yikes! That attitude that you received there would definitely tick off anyone.
It seems that your mom and sis are both engrossed in their own lives and that they have lost the appreciation and respect of the word "Family"
Indeed I can understand that how disheartened you must be but I think that it is best to let them live their lives the way they want to and and make sure to get your bro out of there when the time is right.
@sunup13 (420)
• Canada
9 May 07
Oh my gosh what a sad story. My heart goes out to you Stephanie and your brother. For you to do ssuch a selfless thing trying to help your family and they can't even give it a shot or stop being egocentric for one second to enjoy your visit. I think that taking in your brother is the best thing you can do for him, give him a stable home, unconditionnal love and a chance. Good luck and take care!
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@Woodpigeon (3710)
• Ireland
9 May 07
Holy crap! Your mother is beyond belief! Isn't she the one who is giving you such problems in trying to find who your birthfather is? What a nightmare.
I wonder if there is any way for your brother to get out of theire sooner? Could he be emmanicpated? It would be a shame to see him end up int they sysem of foster care of worse because of your mother's bad habits.
God luck!
