"What's Love Got To Do With It?"

@Rozie37 (15503)
May 8, 2007 11:27pm CST
Is it immature to feel that you can not be intimate with a person you do not love? I have always had a hang up with being with people that I have no feelings for. I just don't feel that that person can totally satisfy me. Wouldn't it just be two people using each other or is it enough to just like that person. There have been times that guys have wanted to date me and buy me nice things, but because I did not like them, I did not want to be bothered. I feel like if a guy dates you and buys you things then he will at least want a kiss and I can not even fake that. Is this silly?
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@cassiezm (89)
• Philippines
9 May 07
I understand that you don't want to be bothered by these guys because you don't like them...To be intimate when it comes to love, you should be really in love with that person and not only you are with this person because you like him or enjoy his company but it should be your feelings for that person so that both of you would be happy. But if you don't like the person, you should be frank enough to tell him so that there would be not any misunderstandings later on. So that they would be left hanging. You should really need to be honest with your feelings and to that person so that he would understand your reasons.
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
9 May 07
I am very straight forward, so much so, that sometimes I forget to use tact. I don't want to B.S. anyone, lead them on, and use them for what I can get, because I don't want it done to me. However, other women treat me like there is something wrong with me, like I can't get a boyfriend, because I wont settle for one just because he has money. I am 37 years old and to me, this is immature. I am ready to settle down and get married and start a family. I feel that I am too old to be playing games like that. To be honest, when I was younger, I didn't want to play games like that. If I couldn't get something for myself, I did without it, I was not going to use a man. That has never been the kind of woman I wanted to be. I don't feel comfortable with that kind of thing.
• United States
9 May 07
No that is not wrong it is called respect for yourself and morals. If I cannot respect someone I cannot even look or even hardly talk to them. If I do not like someone I am not about to let them kiss me that is just yucky! I dated a guy in high school because my twin was dating his best friend. After the date my sister wanted a make out session. My date grabbed me and pulled me down on the couch on his lap and trid to kiss me, I got so mad I sent both guys home. I had more respect for myself than to let him kiss me. No you are not wrong.