How to deal with.....
By lynpreety
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
Philippines
May 9, 2007 1:13am CST
How would you deal or to get along with your mother in law who has a narrow head and don't mind the feelings of her daughter in law? I know it's not a good question to you guys but me also I don't know how to tell my friend about this thats why I'm asking for some help from you.
Two days ago my friend rush to me and cried, she was very upset and very confused on how to deal with her mother in law that she said very narrow headed, her mother in law was living with them and she don't want to tell this to his husband about the attitude of his mother but somehow she knows that her husband really know about the real attitude of his mom. There are some situation that her mother in law always talk to their neighbor and telling bad about her thats why the neighbor thinks shes very bad, that she is selfish. Once her mother in law talks to me also about bad thing about my friend. I really don't know how to advise my friend about that beause thats a family problem and I don't want to be involve in that situation.
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3 responses
@MagdalenaM (681)
• United States
9 May 07
Mother-in-laws often feel that they lost a son instead of feeling that they won a daughter hence, they are not very nice or kind to her; they often try to put her down and thus, show everyone that she is still number one in her son's life.
I would advice your friend to reason with the mother-in-law. The fact is that she IS the mother of her husband and that she does have to accept her; the fact that the son married her means that he loves her so, she need to sit down and talk to the mother-in-law, let her know that they both have a common interest and that is the son/husband and they both love him. She should also tell the MIL that if she has any problems with her she should discuss or sort them with her and not the neighbours...as it hurts her.
I feel talking things out will sort a lot of problems and hopefully the mother-in-law will not feel that she is competing with the daughter in law but simply co-existing.
I hope this helps.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
9 May 07
I also suggest that to her that it's better to talk to her mother inlaw heart to heart to tell her good intention and being a good wife and mother to her kids. She done it she talk to her mother in law but just what like I said her mother in law is very narrow headed she don't want to accept the fact that she has a daughter in law. Thanks for your suggestion. I will tell her also about it.
@jennifer222 (46)
• China
9 May 07
i think your friend`s mother in law is not a magnanimous mother,not kindness.i suggest your friends should tell the truth with her husband,her husband is the key person who can deal with this thing well,if her husband has no idea about it,i suggest your friend should persuade her husband to rent a house for themself to live for a period.but i also wish them can persuade and move their mother to treat each other with more consideration at first.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
9 May 07
Yeah your right coz I saw her everytime I pass by to their house she always talking and chating with her friends and telling bad things about her daughter in law. Thanks for sharing some opinion I will tell her about it.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
9 May 07
it is best that your friend and her new founded family live apart from the mohter in law. it will be best for her to talk to her husband about this. if this situation is not remedied fast, this can spell the break up of the family in the long run. the husband must be made to understand this. because, me, i am willing to lose a husband if i am being subjected to live in hell.
