After Five Years of Relationship - Now Marrys Another

@mypeace (395)
Nigeria
May 10, 2007 5:13am CST
This is case of a guy dating a woman for 5 years and they have concluded plans to marry. They claim to love themselves and the guy has a good paying job. Unknown to the guy that his girl has been dating and planning marriage with another guy. He got to know 2-days to the wedding when the girl give him her Wedding Invitation Card. It was really a bomb-shell to the guy. The guy is comtempting killing the lady, if you were in his shoes, what will you do??
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@nkkyluv (83)
• Nigeria
10 May 07
It is very disheartening that someone you thought you've been with and known for good five years suddenly turns out to be a stranger, very sad. Shouldn't he thank God for letting such a person out of his life for good, what will he gain killing her? But i also know that whatever the case may be, the girl too has her own story to tell. I dont judge just listening from one side of a story. If i were in his shoes, i'll try to find out what really went wrong, as in, what i really did to her for her to dump me in that manner and even have the effontery to give him her invitation card, she must have hated him along the line without letting him know and just wanted an occasion to undo him. So i'll advise, he cools off and starts again being Mr. Right before looking for a Miss Right.
• China
11 May 07
good comments, very profound views
@bindishah (2063)
• India
10 May 07
i would say he is better off without such a person. How can she do this to a 5 year relationship. And she did not ahve the decency to tell him that she was thinking about marriage with another guy. This guy should go and tell he rhusband to be. Atleast save that guy from making a mistake. other than that ill say just forget about her and move on.
@mypeace (395)
• Nigeria
10 May 07
you are right, but lol, telling the new husband? lol, thats somehow.
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• Singapore
10 May 07
Whoa, that really sounds mind-boggling. I'm surprised that your friend (are you sure it's not you?) even had the self-control to NOT hit out at something. It seems that the girl has been toying around with him. It is true that he's better off without her.
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@reachravi (453)
• India
10 May 07
i think he should just leave her and inform the person she is getting married about what she has done to him...i dont think she was deserving him dats why he should he happy thinking whatever happens has a reason and is for his good.
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• India
11 May 07
First of all since he's a guy,i think he's on the better side. We have an old saying over here in which a boy and a girl are compared to a leaf and a thorn. Even if the thorn its the leaf or the leaf hits the thorn the leaf will only get teared. Besides that i think he should go and tell the other guy to beware and that he's chosen the scare. An added bonus would be to slap the girl.
@mypeace (395)
• Nigeria
11 May 07
lol, ok to slap him to cool off his temper, right?
@minty3 (592)
• Nigeria
10 May 07
Hi. I beg to disagree with the responses so far. Personally i will not do it. But then, from my interaction with young people (male and female), i've discovered that many enter into relationships when they're not ready for it; some enter and the relationship is based on probability - that is, it may or may not end up in marriage; others simply don't define it. Now, if you're of marrigeable age and desire to settle down as soon as possible, its very important when you enter into relationships to define it. If your mate is a player (unserious), he/she can just be fooling you, giving the impression that you guys are into something serious whereas nothing is actually happening. This is what we call UMBRELLA RELATIONSHIP. they just cover you around and hinder serious and prospective suitors from coming to you. We only heard the guy's side of the story from you; what the lady experienced we don't know. If her case is as explained ablve, you can't blame her. If the guy is actually serious, what was he doing for five years? cheers!
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@mypeace (395)
• Nigeria
11 May 07
lol, Umbrella Relationship. my Pastor calls it CANOPY MINISTRY!! lol
@huilee (1010)
• Singapore
11 May 07
Wow... Tts seriously very sad... But i wouldn't kill the girl... I mean since they were already on the verge of marriage... But i guess i will question all out to why she did the wrong to me... Of coz i wanna noe why... It will be painful for me, but i gotta endure... Coz killing her doesnt solves any problems and it puts me to jail... I noe of a few couples who have been on long term relationships and they were engaged.. But decided to call oof the wedding before it took place becuase its either the guy or the girl realised they found their another half, but its not them... Its truly a sad case...
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@kirara (13)
• Singapore
11 May 07
wow! does it mean that the girl had been two-timing him for a long time and he wasnt aware of it?! if i were him, i'll be very very hurt and i do not think i can forgive her without doing anything. Telling her husband is a good idea but would the man believe? it is a good thing that he sees her true colours now! he should lead a better life, get a more fabulous girl to be his wife and show to this girl that Look, without u, i can live better!
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@ilenna (40)
• Philippines
11 May 07
well, well, no need to put justice in his hands.......rather he should be thankful that he knew it before he had a real commitment that of finally marrying her. i do believe sometimes long engagement doesn't work although there are exceptions to the rule. it could have been more serious if he got to marry this woman and then she will continue an affair with this other guy.........so, no need to kill her hahaha find one who deserves your love more okey? cheer up man.
• United States
10 May 07
Cut your losses and LET HER GO if that is what she's choosing. She actually did you a favor.That simply means that she was not the one for you. Seek counseling to help you move on through the process of your loss but in the end its all about a choice and she chose to move on to someone else so now you need to make a choice either break free from it or let it break you. She just made you a better and stronger man for the next woman. Good luck in your decision.
• Canada
10 May 07
She deserves a kick in the teeth! It makes me sad when I see women like this, because they seem to get off on the power and control they have over other people. The fact that she gave this guy an invitation to her Wedding 2 days before is sickening! I don't think this guy should KILL the lady though, because ultimately, he'll end up in a whole heap of trouble. However, he SHOULD inform the lady's new husband of what she's done. If he has an invite card for the Wedding that HE was planning with her, he should take that too, as proof. He's much better off without her, but he does need to take the time to get over the relationship. If he acts in anger, he'll end up doing something that he'll regret long term.
• China
11 May 07
I will kill the lady,kill that guy,and kill myself.
• India
10 May 07
he shud tell d guy whom she is marryin dat wat kindoff women she is....dats d bst thin...and....dat guy who ws betrayed shud try to 4gt wat happened wid him and shud move on...caus der r plenty of more things to do in life....:-)... may b som1 better is w8in 4 him ahead... :-)
• Kottayam, India
10 May 07
This girl unfaithful, it is better we came to know a little later.Human beings(some)it is very difficult to understand,any way this man should attend the marriage as if nothing happened to him, for this he needs a great heart.Killing will make the things more worse.
• United States
10 May 07
Be very thankful that he found out about her deception and I would recover any gifts she received from him. I think that she is cruel and the other man should know and be really wondering if he should marry such a deceitful woman.