May 11, 2007 4:29am CST
Today I realised one of my closest friends doesn't care for me at all. It really hurt me. There, put it in as few words as possible. I see a depression on its way. I know I can't avoid it completely but would like help in dealing with it. And adding to that, I haven't done all that well in my 12th grade exams. I was the 11th ranker for state in my 10th grade and my results (maybe 2 days from today) will be bad. These marks account for the competetive exams I took up to get into an enginnering college so I doubt if I'll get into a good place. It hurts to see all my friends doing better than me. Someone please help me out.. I don't think I can handle it myself any longer.
11 May 07
I really felt sorry for you but let me tell you that this is what really happens when you start trusting someone more than you, start caring for them more than yourself, then these are things which are bound to happen i have also been through similar situation at the preety same time as yours but then i recollected myself and said to myself "I give a damn bout her" and started preparing for engg. exams and now i'm im one of the finest institute of engg. shaping my carrer in the right direction and still gives a damn bout her!!!!
14 May 07
maybe you are overreacting. Your closest friend may care for you but maybe he/she is just angry with you about something. First thing first, invite your friend for coffee, sit with him/her and talk this out. See if you can understand what went wrong. And dont fret about your results before they come. There are plenty of opportunities to get into engineering college and if you dont in your city you can always go to another and take a transfer in your second year if you really want to do it.
14 May 07
Hi ! I'm in the same situation as yours. I've done badly in my competitive examinations as well except for the regional CET. I've been 19th in the State in the National Talent Search Examination and in my 12th, I've been among the top 1% of all students in the country. But now, I'm nowhere. I've done too many silly mistakes in the Joint Entrance Exams conducted by the IIT's. Now, my friends are rejoicing and I'm in a depressed state. But one thing keeps me going, and that is my interest in studies (Physics and Mathematics). I know that most of the people around me aren't that interested in studies and all they want is a safe, earning future. That makes me stronger and I can pursue my studies and hopefully excel in it when things matter most. It's not that I'm competing against the other. I'm craving to learn Science ! All you have to do is to gather courage, my friend. Get into a subject of your choice rather than a college of your choice and then top the university ! It must be possible if you work hard and focus on your goals from now. Good luck for your results :) ! And yes, you can't trust people more than yourself. That has happened to me too. My best friend from 15 years has misunderstood me and considers the words of others more than mine ! Can't help it. I'm my own best friend and I care for myself !!
11 May 07
oo i m so sorry for you.. even i have been through the same situation.. one of my friend who was really close to me suddenly stopped talking to me.. it wasnt my fault and now she accepts it that it was her fault just because i had forgiven her.. i called her up.. i was the one who kept on talking to her even if she ignored me.. i know its tough but one day your friend will realize that whatever he/she has done is wrong.. so just be how you are.. dont let this affect your entire life thanks for asking have a nice day