should a married person go out with their exes

No ofcourse. You have to respect your wife or husband. How about if your wife or husband do the same thing, how do you feel?

I believe that one should not mess up his past with his present. Once you have left someone and you have already started a relationship with someone else, I beleive that you should be sincere with your partner. Meeting you ex will surely mean that you are being unfair with your present relationship and this can cause lots of problems in the future. If you cannot be sincere with someone its better not to start the relationship itself.

i think it is not right actually. if you do so, there can be many problem as such in the relationship. also its better not to mess up with present and ex.

OMG!!! This is so the issue my boyfriend have all the time. We are both in the middle of goind through divorces but he and I are together, live together, raise our children together, and are even called "step-mom" or "step-dad" by the children respectively. Now, my ex (very soon to be ex-husband) and I don't talk at all. We have children together but he apparently wants nothing to do with them. On the other hand, my boyfriend and his ex (very soon to be ex-wife) also have children together and she calls day in and day out. It drives me bonkers!!! I always tell my boyfriend that if she calls (which he doesn't want to talk to her anyway) that he can say whatever he wants to her and then let her talk to their kids. But she doesn't need to know about every little thing that's going on in his life. She knows where he's working, when he starts a new job, etc. She knows every little thing about what's going on in OUR life. It's not their life any more. She made sure of that (long story that I won't go into). I understand her calling to talk to their kids. I think I'd have to throw a party if my ex ever called MY kids. But I don't understand why they would still talk to someone every day if the kids are grown. There's no point in it. And going out or hanging out with one another??? OUT OF THE QUESTION!!! There is no reason to DATE the person who is your ex. There is a reason they are your ex whether you love them or not. Sorry for such a long post...and I could probably put even more. This post definitely hit home. Thanks Toni!