What is husband's role on Mother's Day?
May 13, 2007 11:40am CST
Hi everyone, being a married father of 2 girls, aged 11 and 13, I have always wondered what my proper role is on Mother's Day. When my children were young I always planned all the activities for the day. Bought the presents, bought the cards, planned the activities, made the dinner etc... However, now they are older and I have found that I am for the most part still doing that. Don't get me wrong, I do not mind doing it, as I think my wife is a great mother to my children. However, is my involvement more interference now? Am I taking away from the significance of the day by doing too much for my girls and not haveing them think about what their mother means to them? On the flip side, I do have my own mother who is alive and well and who I honour on every Mother's Day. Should this be where I put all my efforts and let my daughters handle Mother's Day at home? My wife has seemed to figure this out already for herself as on Father's Day her line is always..."He is not my Father!" Maybe she has the whole idea right. Any thoughts on this? cheers
13 May 07
Take your wife out someplace nice and the girls can put some of their allowance to pay for the dinner or bring along a box of chocolates or a small gift. It is supposed to be mother's day. When your girls get older and married, there will be two other mothers contended with the privilege. Or a better idea, why not take your wife and your mother out for dinner together? The girls can also put aside for the meal. In fact, you could suggest that they can contribute to the "mother's day fund" so that every second Sunday in May, Mom gets a free day.
13 May 07
Thanks for your response. I never really considered the whole idea of there being 2 more mothers to contend with when my girls get older. I think I will continue to do what I have been doing. It is just another good opportunity to do nice things for my wife. cheers
28 May 07
theres no right answer and theres no wrong answer, personally i feel mothers day is a day that the children respect and love the mother who brought them up, as long as u let your children know wot amazin things your wife has done for them and how she managed to be there always for them and the whole family, then it should really be up to them and what they do and how they do it! so tell you kids mothers day is due and ask them what they are gonna do for her? dont help, just advise! it will all work out in the end, plus, it lets ur wife know that not only does she have great children, but also lets her know that they do love her for what she has done, instead of her thinking, oh my husband told them to do this!
27 May 07
I personally think one day in the year isn't enough. I would make one day of the month a pampering Mum DAY...ONE DAY IN THE MONTH YOU GO AND PAMPER YOUR MUM IF SHE LIVES CLOSE BY, IF NOT, SEND HER PRETTY NOTELETS with lovely meaningful messages and your wife should have one day of the month a put her feet up day where Dad and the girls bring breakfast in bed for mummy and cook the dinner and have a great chilling day..