Too much sweetness in your relation

@magica (3710)
Bulgaria
May 14, 2007 8:58pm CST
I saw Abbey`s discussion here: http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1078650.aspx How can you describe your relation? There are so many couples whoose feelings are like a sugar syrup. They are too demonstrative, they want to show to everybody their ideal couple, they allways call each other sweet names: sugar, honey, bunny, baby and etc... Can you be so tired of too much syrup in one relation? Just imagine: when we usually eat too much sweet things, we feel bad and need sometimes refreshment, something different.Even a cup of cool water. May be this is also a reason for some men to look for something refreshing out of the too sweet marriage life?
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• United States
15 May 07
I do see your point and I understand what you are saying and that may be the reason too why men or women look for other things outside their marriage. Yes me and my husband do call each other baby, babe, honey, and sweetheart. I don't think we over do it though. We really do only get to talk maybe once a day and thats only for like 10 minutes. So I think if couples are constantly doing it, it can be annoying we don't. We do call each other by our first names as well. My mom has always called my dad honey and still does and they have been married for 25 years now so some people I guess just don't mind.
@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
15 May 07
The other idea for the same discussion was:do you find true the phrase "Too much love can kill you". This is this kind of love who is too obsessive. Can you imagine a couple who is 24 hours together? Brrr...
• United States
15 May 07
Of course it can. Being around each other too much like everyday all day and night would drive a person crazy. I actually have a friend and everywhere her bf worked she would get a job and when he got fired she quit. She wanted to be with him all the time plus they lived together too. It was just crazy. I couldn't do something like that. I think my husband working and me staying at home is a nice break because then come the evening and weekends we enjoy each other and love being around each other. He was home for 2 months for leave from Iraq and yes we did start to drive each other crazy.
@sweetdesign (5151)
• United States
15 May 07
I think that if a couple is all over each other in public that is nauseating. However on the same token be glad that your spouse acknowledges you in public. My ex husband claimed he didn't like PDA but come to find out he was just afraid one of his girlfriends might see us. I grew up in a household where there was absolutly no shows of affection. However my grandparents on both sides stayed married till their deaths.
@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
15 May 07
i agree with you that too much sweetness in a relationship can kill it... that's why i always try to balance our relationship and there is always the ups and downs in my relationship... i think that is what life is all about and it add colours and meanings to our relationship too...
@Augustta (1860)
• Poland
15 May 07
wow,magica!!this hurt!are you sure you are not scorpio like me???... I don't read your link,but i will answer because you was very clear...In my case is true,i found my soul mate...and i divorced from my ex because there was not ideal not perfection,and i will not stay in a relation which is not perfect for me...trust me...
@Chiriac (287)
• Romania
15 May 07
In my relation it`s not so much sweetnes.. i just started with just girl.. i hope i will have good days with her..
@Marie2473 (8519)
• Sweden
15 May 07
Me and my bf have a very sweet relationship most of the time. We have nicknames and we hug and cuddle all the time, HOWEVER there are days when we more or less cant be in the same room. All couples have their days, their fights and so on. Not a single relationship on this planet is perfect...
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
15 May 07
I think that it is not necessary to be so affectionate and sugary sweet all of the time. It is necessary to give your partner time to themselves and breathing room. I know in my previous marriage my ex husband was so tiring with the constant affection, touching and calling of nicknames. As you stated, if you have too much sweet stuff you don't want it anymore, taht is how it was with me.