My Child Wouldn't Do That...Oh Yeah?
By jillmalitz
@jillmalitz (5131)
United States
May 16, 2007 10:37am CST
I don't know why parents think they have perfect angels for kids who would never do anything bad. Come on, getting into trouble is a right of passage to some kids. All kids will try to push the limits. My stepdaughter used to get mouthy to her teachers which landed her in trouble. What did her mother do? Run up to the school and fight with the principal and teachers.I dont think that is always the best thing. My daughter used to skip school frequently and lie to me about it. It got to the point that my husband and I were on speed dial to the principal. Kids see what they think is an opportunity to do something they usually take it. It is part of testing boundaries and growing. A parent who says their kid wont do something is not paying attention.
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@KissThis (3003)
• United States
16 May 07
A parent who knows their child well will know if their child did do something or not. If you were to tell me something that happened such as a child wrote on the wall I could tell you which one of my children did it. I don't take everything that my children tell me for the truth I do however question some of the things that other people tell me my children have done. I once had a daycare teacher tell me that my son had used a couple of bad words and she repeated them. I knew that he couldn't have said the same words because he wasn't able to pronounce the first syllable. She apologized because she had gotten my son mixed up with another child. As a parent I feel that is my job to know my child well enough to know what they are capable of doing.
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@Gorgeous24 (1091)
• United States
16 May 07
I agree when you say if a parent thinks there kid wont do something that there not paying attention which is true. I think as parents we put blinders over our eyes because we like to believe we raised them with such values that they wont go behind our back and do something thats unacceptable BUT that is ridiculous. Kids are kids there going to make mistakes in life and there going to lie to cover them up we jus have to open our eyes and realize that our "little innocent children" are human and make mistakes. its up to the parents to realize that and help them with whatever issues they are dealing with.
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@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
17 May 07
So true. There is no manual for parenting, but we do need to be aware of things. Like you said, kids will make mistakes, our job is to let them know what we will accept and what we wont and that we will be paying attention. And like I told my older daughter when her kids begin to get in trouble "payback time"
@gberlin (3836)
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18 May 07
There are some things that I thought my kids would not do and they did not do them. They are both adults now. As a teacher myself I always wanted to hear from the teacher as to their side of the story when my kids did something bad. Most of the time I would agree with the teachers.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
20 May 07
girl you are so right. i would never say not my child. people would be surprised what their children do when they are not around. i know that i have good kids, but i also know that i was a child. i know that they will get in trouble and do things that they shouldn't when i am not around. that is the only way that they can learn, so i would not say not my kids. i know they are a pain in the A$$ at home so i know they will act up outside of my eye sight
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
21 May 07
So true. Whoever coined the phrase about "kids will be kids" knew what they were talking about. I used to laugh when mine would go visit a grandparent. They are so well behaved the grandparent would say. Then I'd wonder where my real kids were. Kids are great copiers of others, so they find it fun to do things even if wrong. Whoever said growing up is easy is nuts. Give a kid a chance to experiment, right or wrong, they'll try.
