Ur bf scream at u?

@huilee (1005)
Singapore
May 17, 2007 11:01pm CST
Can u take it if ur bf were to scream and shout at u? In a mist of quarrel? Or he asked u not to cry in a horrible way?
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18 May 07
My bf now became my hubby already. Im a kinda of sensitive person but not easy to cry everytime we meet problems or quarrel.But anyway im a female.I need my bf to be gentle with me and im lucky that im still happy with my marriage life only 4months old.My hubby is understanding and caring, and at least we find that we can understand each other some points of living together..
18 May 07
So sweet your words are and thanks for your advice.Love connect us together and i believe somewhere in this air God bless us and let be together. The most things I do once something unhappy happen between us that I try to make everything clearly in a soft manner. My hubby is quite strong and not easy convinced by others unless they prove that they are right.graceful and soft ways are always of mine to hold him with me.In marriage life, noone can predict what will happen to them but if we know how to maintain good feelings like the first sight of love then it would not be gonna down.Keep bringing up the relationship and tell each other his/her needs is required and seems to be necessary to prolong the love.
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2 Jun 07
with this kind of manner, i believe you will. Have a great weekend to you and your loved ones
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@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
2 Jun 07
Thank you! I frankly hope our sparks will never end... I mean i love being with my partner and i hope he feels the same too... =)
@RealIolo (1854)
• United States
18 May 07
I would like to respond to your discussion... if I could understand it. Any chance we could get a plain text, with all the words typed out, translation? Then perhaps I can respond properly.
@RealIolo (1854)
• United States
18 May 07
Ok, I got a 12 year old to translate this for me. I don't "text" twelve hours a day or I might have understood this discussion. I don't have a boyfriend so I can't respond to you on that level. But when my girlfriend takes a bad tone with me I don't cry... I just get frustrated and angry. It takes all my will power sometimes to keep from yelling at her. But I have to keep from yelling because it just gets worse if I do.
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@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
18 May 07
Hi, i hope my words isnt too difficult to understand... Thanks for responding anyway... So from ur reply, i can gather that u are a guy? For girls, we just cant take it when guys yell or scream at us.. we will feel unloved... Its like, why are you so fierce? I guess the next time u and ur girl quarrel, just go to her... Give her a hug and kiss... I guess everything will be fine... Refrain from all the shouting... =)
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@RealIolo (1854)
• United States
18 May 07
When she take the tone I am talking about above she also isn't in the mood to be hugged. She might just push me away. I am after all actually very loving. But sometimes we do not agree on everything.
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3 Jun 07
I am a very lucky girl, me and my boyfriend have been dating for two years and we've only had a couple of minor quarrels. He has never shouted at me, he is too kind and gentle to do that! He has other ways of calming me down or putting me in my place, if I need to be put there! He doesn't like to see me cry, so he always comes over to hug me, which makes me cry more! x
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@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
4 Jun 07
Yah, u really sound very lucky and fortunate... envy envy... in actual fact, my boyfriend used to be very gentle too... Keke... But as time goes by, and besides hes under tremendous stress, he cant keep his cool like before... He blow up at the slightest thing... But we will still be alright... Afterall, getting together wsant a easy thingy for us... We both cherish each other too... I love hugs... My bf sometimes do that too, but i wish he could do that more often... =)
@padu19 (1441)
• India
18 May 07
no.. i can't take it if my boy friend yells at me.. that would make the day horrible to me.. i will start crying badly the moment he scolds me. but truly he doesn't like me crying for that. what he says is that "don't i have rights to scold you? then why do you create a mess by crying for silly things !!" but actually he doesn't know that am very sensitive to his words.It is quite obvious that we get hurt easily when our loved ones hurt or shout at us !!!
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@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
18 May 07
Yesh yesh, i really can understand how you feel? Coz not too long ago, something like this happened to me and my bf... Its like i got really upset and yet when he raised his voice, i cant help but feel worse... N the worse thingy that happened was him saying, dun u dare cry... Why are you crying, its not like i did u any wrong or something.. I know he dun meant anything in particular and hes bad with words... But whenever he uses harsh words or harsher tones towards me, i cant help but feel sad... I hope they can understand how we feel instead...
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• Australia
18 May 07
Hello huilee Of course not, i hate when someone scream or yell at me. And if my boyfriend do that to me, i will get angry and not talk to him until he said i'm sorry. But lucky me, my bf never do that. If I cry he will hug me and keep silent until i have a better felling. God bless you *angel www.beautycosmetictips.com
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@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
18 May 07
Hello little angel... You are a lucky girl... My bf used to be as sweet as urs... If i cry or feels bad, he will always be there for me... But only till recently, im not sure if its coz hes too tired or is it because we are drifting apart... He tends to use harsher tone and hes short temper... Always losing patience with me.. To everyone, hes mr nice... But when it comes to me, he expects me to be faster and quicker in every prospects... I used to be that lucky too... But now coming to think of it... Just yesterday, i cried non stop, coz i feel as if i can feel my bf anymore... Its like.. So near yet so far... Im not sure if anyone understands that kind of feeling... But yah... Tts exactly how i felt... Not too good in fact...
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• Philippines
18 May 07
Wow, that'll definitely hurt me.. I guess I'm too sensitive, but I couldn't really help being soft. I'm a girl, after all. Moreover, If he asked me not to cry in an angry manner, I might cry way harder. But the, after everythig, I'd still forgive him. That is, if he apologizes, and I can see his sincerety.
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@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
18 May 07
Well, of coz i dun have to mention, u guys can imagine how sad and how great a impact that caused on me... I mean, yah, we are all girls... So i guess u can understand it from my perspect... N no doubt, i do forgive him... I know hes quick temper and hes not very good with words... A hug or kiss from him makes me reassured and i will feel way better then the screams earlier on...
@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
18 May 07
No, I would not take it...life is too short to allow another person to talk to you in this manner....even in the middle of a quarrel....this is not acceptable behavior!! You deserve a person who can sit down and talk to you about whatever the problem is...quietly and calmly....what can be accomplished by yelling, screaming and a total disregard for your personal feelings??? Well, what happens often, is that he essentially "wins" the quarrel because your feelings are hurt and he will commonly use that as an excuse to leave...even if only for a while...just so he does not have to actually work through it.....OR he just does not care....
@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
18 May 07
Well, i guess i have to agree with u that life is too short to allow another person to mistreat u or treat u the way u doesnt like... But i guess all in all, love is blind... So its pretty hard to just get out of a relationship... Yesh, all those yelling screaming accomplanished nothing except hurt our feelings... Perhaps i hurt him too.. Unknowingly.. Tt i wouldnt noe if he doesnt voices it out... To me, i know that he will care... But im sick and tired of hearing him say how tired he is... How he dun like to explain... Tt really pisses me off..