My DAUGHTER Graduates from COLLEGE and LOSES her JOB all in the same WEEK

United States
May 18, 2007 4:20pm CST
I was so proud of my daughter, my first born, finally graduated from college last weekend with her Associates Degree, I was so proud, we went to the ceremonies with whistles in hand, threw her a big party, took her out to dinner, took tons of pictures, she goes to work on Wednesday and is FIRED from work, she thinks they have been wanting to for awhile since the excuse they gave was very lame. The upbeat personalty I have I told her what a great opportunity this was for her, be finally rid of that security guard job that she took to have the hours to go to school and work and she could finally start applying for some jobs along the line of her degree, which is copywriting, she wants to work for a magazine. She is so depressed she could barely get off the couch long enough for me to help her file unemployment wages and get her resume together. Ever had this happen to you, you have a wonderful event followed with something horrible happening?? Any suggestions for her, she is so depressed, I hate to see her this way.
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@Hart57 (360)
• United States
18 May 07
Napoleon Hill sagely observed that, "within every adversity is the seed of an equal or greater opportunity or advantage." I know it's difficult for her to see right now, but to my way of thinking, this is a GLARING, HUGE opportunity! It's an opportunity for her to move on and use her skills in a better position -- better in terms of job satisfaction and pay. When one door closes, another one opens.
• United States
29 May 07
Perhaps soon she will realize her opportunity, thanks for responding, it is always appreciated.
• United States
18 May 07
This may not help her feel better right away, but it took me a long time to realize that when I was fired (also for lame reasons) from my little grocery store job (i thought it was the end of the world--19 yrs old att), those idiots did me a favor. You were right to handle it the way you did. They did your daughter a favor. Tell her again. She's too good for that job anyway and they knew it, thus the lame reason. Hope she gets out of the depression funk soon, I know how she must be feeling right now.
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• United States
18 May 07
I am a positive thinker and always think the positive side rather than the other, she is the same way too, be raised around me her entire life, I am a sure a weekend of partying with her friends and took much drinker come Monday morning she will be here wanting help to find a job, which I am always there for my kids. Thanks for responding, it is always appreciated.
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@marciascott (25557)
• United States
18 May 07
She can get a better Job, God does things for a reason, she will find a better one I know it, tell her to think possitive.
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@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
18 May 07
That is awful, but usually things happen for a reason , even if that is not what she wants to hear right now, she will see it in the future. here in sweden the employer can not fire staff for no good reason. They have to prove that I do not do my job, or that I am stealing from them and so on, so here we are pretty safe once we land a job. I am sure that she will be fine, even though i understand that it is hard right now and that u hate seeing her like that =/
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• United States
29 May 07
Oh how wonderful, here in the states they can fire you for no reason at all, hopefully she will draw unemployment until she can find something else. Thanks for responding, it is always appreciated.
@marciascott (25557)
• United States
18 May 07
Hey Lorie tell her not to worry, she can get another job. she is young and that want be the last job that she has. Tell her to cheer up, She just graduated. She will get tons of jobs, by her graduating from college she can get her a manager job. and make more money, when she applies for jobs tell her to make sure she put it down that she just graduated from college. the more Ed. you have the better for you tell her that! that is a fact.
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• United States
19 May 07
Yeah I have tried to talk to her some more and last evening she went to spend time with her brother, perhaps he cheered her up, thanks for repsonding, it is always appreciated.
• Canada
19 May 07
It is definitely a blessing in disguise. There is probably something about to happen and that old security job just would have been in the way. I'm a positive thinker as well and one thing I know for sure, is that positive thinking brings about positive things. And positive thinkers have a very hard time NOT being positive. Somehow we can always see the brighter side of it, even if we have to look from every angle. You are absolutely right that she just needs time. Her friends will remind her about all the things she didn't like about the job and all the ways that it would hold her back. They will all have a good time together and before you know it she'll be ready to jump right back on that horse. Not to mention that having that moment of depression will actually be a good thing. It's the low points that help us to really appreciate the high points. And by the sounds of it, she is afflicted with your good nature, so I think it would be impossible for her to be down for too long. Besides, she has absolutely nothing to worry about, sounds to me as though she has everything she needs to succeed in life.......good family, good friends and a great support system. Of course I understand your concern. You seem to be an excellent mother. I'm inclined to believe that this has got you more than it has got her. You really are a classy gal.
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@gberlin (3836)
22 May 07
Something similar happened to me. I just got back from taking some students on a 4 day ski trip sponsored by my school. The principal calls me in the next day and tells me that I am not going to be rehired for the following school year. It was in February of my 2nd year of teaching. It was when Johnny Paycheck's song "Take this job and shove it" was popular. I went out and bought the tape and listen to the song over and over again. That helped with my anger but not in finding a job. I did finally find a job after being without work for 3 months. I had a wife and daughter to support so I looked hard. It was not a teaching job but it carried me for a year and then I got another teaching job. Things looked hopeless and I struggled mentally. I finally started doing a lot of praying and God took me on a path I did not expect until He got me back into teaching again. If you believe in God then I would begin praying for God to lead in my life and direct me to the job I am supposed to have at this time. It might not be what she expects but if she is patient and lets God lead then God will place her where her talents can be used.
• United States
23 May 07
What a great response, thank you for sharing, it is always appreciated.
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@gberlin (3836)
24 May 07
When I read your discussion I felt impressed by God to write what I did. The response is from God and He used me to deliver it. I like when He does that to me. I have prayed about being on mylot and a see it as a way to quietly witness about God. I do not like thrusting it down people's throats but when I sense that a person is a Christian then I feel free to suggest turning to God. While I did feel strongly about responding to this discussion most of the time God allows me to use the wisdom He has given me to answer discussion. It has also helped me to grow closer to God by seeing Him use me to help others.
@marciascott (25557)
• United States
19 May 07
Hi, Lorie how is your daughter feeling today. why don't you take her out to dinner or movie or something, to get her mind off things. I am sure she would love that.
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• United States
20 May 07
She is doing much better today, it is her daughter's 3rd birthday so we had a party at McDonald's for her, with all the trimmings, so I think her mind is off of it for the moment. She is going to stay at my house tonite and we are supposed to get together to elaborate on his resume that I am creating, so hopefully things will start looking up for her. I am going to send her resume out in a mass mailing on Monday for her, hopefully something will come through. Thanks for being such friend, you are a sweetheart.
• United States
19 May 07
Remind her that every cloud has a silver lining. When one door closes, another opens and this may be the little "shove" she needed to be able to get out there and use her skills she just graduated with. I stayed in a job I hated so bad until one day I walked in and was greeted at the door by the owner. He "fired" me because I had told him that I wanted the managerial position that my boss was leaving when retiring and he told me outright that he would never put a woman in a salaried or a managerial position. It was the best thing that could have happened. I had a job within 2 days and it was the best job ever at a place I loved. I worked there 5 years or so until I had my twins. I was a traffic manager and made excellent money, great benefits and loved the place I worked. End result was that I finally HAD to make the move to another job and not be afraid. Doing so put me in a much better position in life.
@GardenGerty (90189)
• Marion, Kansas
19 May 07
Actually, you have told her everything she needs to hear. This is an opportunity, and she can draw unemployment while she job hunts, and at least they waited until she graduated. Of course it is a crashing let down from the happiness the day before. Give her a little down time, because she also is completely changing focus, and gears on her life. We will keep her in our thoughts and prayers.
@jillmalitz (5132)
• United States
21 May 07
What is that old saying- when one door closes another one opens. Her employer probably knew that she would not stay forever. Let's face it security guards are not the best of jobs.They tend to come and go. Now she can focus on getting her foot in the door to do what she would really likes. Kudos to her and tell her to keep her chin up!
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
23 May 07
yup. when a door closes, a window opens. there are lots of opportunities out there. just that not all jobs are meant for us forever. atleast your daughter can do something greater.. something what she studied for and what she wants for.
@Norstar (695)
• India
29 May 07
The celebrations were justified, are still justified because she got her degree after working hard for it. The second incident, is a separate one nad should not be linked with the first one. It is unfortunate, but there seems to be something that is not straight forward in this incident. I am surprised that your daughter is depressed. Why should a young achiever be depressed? I can tell you something: unless the organisation is very good and has real professions, people are generally afraid of a good colleague/ worker. And, if it is possible, they would like to harm him in all possible ways. Looks like your daughter is a victim of similar attitude. So what? She has put in hard work and is now qualified. In due course of time, she would get a reasonably good job and then she can look for a better one. How can she not show her strength? Let her show her strength, and her worth by applying to all possible places and getting selected at some of them, to start with. I wish her all the best.
@jtexas (527)
• United States
27 May 07
Ive never been fired before but when I came back to Texas it took me a long while to find a job. The only thing I can say is that you can help her by applying for jobs for her. I know this is what helped me when I was going through this. My girl friend help with all the different applications on and off line. I came back and people told me I had to much experience. I was at the point where I felt that all my education was for nothing. But with a lot of prayers I was able to get many interviews. Apply apply apply is all I can say. Also try to find articles where people have found their success. Its always good to hear about other peoples success and to strive for that as well. But like I said again she may feel motivated if you help her look for her dream job.
@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
27 May 07
Her boss probably did her a favor. Sometimes you just have to let go of your job and move on. Besides, being fired gave her a opportunity to reshape her future.
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
23 May 07
there really are times when things just go wrong. when we feel like the world is so against us. life is unfair at times. but we need to get back on track and start where we fell. or else, we will never be able to recover from the fall. just be there for your daughter. i know after sometime, with your understanding and motherly care, she will get up and start looking for a job again.
@Sherry12 (2475)
• United States
21 May 07
Oh, she take this as sign that something better is waiting for her. And, you are exactly right, she now has time to find something using her degree she has worked so hard to get. Give her my congrats on getting her degree. Now she will find a really great job that she really loves.
@peaceful (3286)
• United States
19 May 07
Let her know that she can visit my blog: http://www.marketing2k.blogspot.com and check into some of the job finding resources that I have... and while she's waiting, she can try submitting some stuff here: http://www.freelancewriting.com/ and, as some sage advice from old copywriter (Me), tell her that the best stuff comes when the mind is hot! So it's a matter of using what happened to her advantage... Besides, it is the worst time in history to work in the field of "security", ever... Believe me, 'cuz it might have been several hundred years ago, but it is still a crappy and dangerous way to waste time for a paycheck... So as my late great uncle the chicken farmer would say, " Pluck 'Em!" :) And this is for you: http://www.classygal.youaremighty.com Have a great day!
• United States
19 May 07
Totally just encourage her to keep moving forward. Maybe it would help her to do some volunteer work somewhere. It will help keep her mind off things and give her something to stay busy with.
• Nigeria
19 May 07
well i think she needs to realise that with her degree she's no longer seen as a mere mortal but as someone who would make her ambitions become reality. I dont feel she should feel weighed down by what happened but she should view it as a stepping stone for her as regards her future
• India
19 May 07
Yeah, things like this can happen to the best of us, and many a time, they seem to happen for no fault of ours. There is really no point in trying to find the cause of the problem, as mostly it is something that is beyond our control. If it however was due to a mistake that we were responsible, we can learn from it and strive not to repeat it in the future, else, we might as well just let it go and stop worrying. Life is a like the tides of the ocean, you know. Now they are up, now they are down. Better times will come by too. Tell her to cheer up and keep trying for a better job. Who knows, this might just lead to something better! God bless!
@colala (2)
• China
19 May 07
Bless for her...