If someone you met on myLot were to tell you that they were going to.....

United States
May 19, 2007 5:08pm CST
be passing through your town ....... would you ask to meet them? would you say yes if they asked to meet you? would you let them come to your house? would you ask to come to their house if you were the one traveling?
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26 responses
19 May 07
No i wouldnt. Especially on Mylot. To me Mylot is a huge forum. On other forums I visit i ge to know people and talk to people but here i'm just talking to ramdomers without actually knowing anyone. Thus i wouldnt trust someone from Mylot.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
19 May 07
Give it time, oogie_boogie. When I first joined mylot I thought it was too big to really get to know anyone on too, but now that I've been here for several months I've made a few real friends here. =)
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• United States
19 May 07
hang around for a bit - some of us get to know each other as we go along. ;-)
19 May 07
Yeah i guess so I havent really been here long enough to get to know anybody :S
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
19 May 07
I would definitely ask to meet someone from mylot passing through my town. Of course, there isn't much to go TO if you're passing through my town, since it's kind of on a peninsula. =P If it was someone I had talked to a lot, I would probably invite them to my home, but I would ask my husband for his opinion first. We're kind of over-cautious, so it would be something we would have to think about first. But there are a couple of people on here that I have talked to enough that I would definitely trust them to come to my home. If I were the one traveling, I would ask if they wanted to meet up for dinner or something. I wouldn't ask to come by their house though, I would wait for them to invite me. However, if they did invite me, and it was someone I felt I knew well, I would go.
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• United States
19 May 07
yeah, there are a few people I feel 'really good' about that I'd want to meet. I'd drag the hubby along and he'd have to say 'yeah' before I'd bring them in the house - but on another hand - it looks like I've hit on a hot topic ;-) the email is flashing up every few seconds while I'm answering the ones already in.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
19 May 07
That's true, most people have strong feelings about meeting people from online and security issues involved. I started a discussion a long while back about talking on the phone with people you meet online and got a lot of strong responses on both sides of the issue. I met my husband online, so I guess I really believe in the value of online relationships. =p
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• United States
19 May 07
Yes I have to admit there are a few people on mylot and on my friends list that I would gladly extend the hand of friendship on this level. In fact if I ever get the opportunity to do so I will. As far as asking for an invitation to their homes, that I would never do. I would tell them I will be in their area and if the offer is not presented, I would be a bit disappointed but I would understand. Not everyone would have the relationship take this type of turn, for me though I enjoy it and have indeed meet a few of my on line friends in person and enjoy a greater friendship because of it.
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• United States
19 May 07
I've met nifty people on this and a couple other onlines - I've even met a few from Live Journal. Its nice to be able to put a real Face and Voice with someone you've had some good conversations with.
@kelly60 (4548)
• United States
19 May 07
I would love to meet some of my myLot friends if they were traveling through my area. I do not think that I would want them to come to my house though. We have a construction project (seems like more of a destruction) going on here, and things are pretty torn up. I would not want to have anyone see my house looking like it does right now, especially not as a first impression. I would love to have them meet me somewhere locally though. We could go out to a local restaurant, or maybe out for karaoke. If I were going to be traveling the area where they lived, I might ask if they wanted to meet somewhere. I would never ask about coming to their home, but would wait for an invitation.
• United States
19 May 07
Local restaurant or coffee shop seems to be one of the top answer - but I dunno - I think I'd grow a headache if someone suggested karaoke - not sure why it just isn't my thing at all.
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@kelly60 (4548)
• United States
20 May 07
I wouldn't suggest karaoke for just anyone. I mentioned karaoke because I have several friends at myLot who enjoy karaoke. I think that it would be fun to get together with some of them and go out and sing together sometime.
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@kariliv (16)
• United States
19 May 07
Would I meet them? Sure. Would I let them in my home? Absolutely not. If you want to meet them, arrange a meeting in a public place like Starbucks or McDonald's. Most people on the Internet are nice, but there are a few that you have to watch out for. I would also never ask to drop by someone's house if I have never met them. Things are just too dangerous now.
• United States
19 May 07
hmmm, actually I think they've always been 'dangerous' - we're just more aware of it now and the pervs are more easily mobile - sad but true. I'd take a couple people with me and hit the coffee shop as well.
@inked4life (4227)
• United States
19 May 07
I have a lot of "friends" that I really like here on Mylot but I would still be very wary of actually meeting up with anyone or inviting them to my house. You can't really know someone just by the few discussions we respond to on here and I have major trust issues so I'd probably pass or meet at a neutral venue with a bunch of my friends there too.
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• United States
19 May 07
I was thinking a decent coffee shop when I wrote this. btw - like the tats I can see (I've got a couple ;-) )
@rainbow (6763)
20 May 07
I have a few mylot friends I would love to meet but some of them are at the other side of the world so it's unlikely. I have a 3 mylot friends coming over at different times this summer and it's going to be lovely!
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• Philippines
20 May 07
wow! its great that you'll meet those three he he! :)
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• United States
21 May 07
I hope you have a wonderful time!
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@rainbow (6763)
22 May 07
I have to admit if I wasn't in contact with them every day outside of mylot and feel that I know they're no threat this wouldn't be happening. It's taken me a long time to build enought trust for this.
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@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
20 May 07
If someone here , would send me a private messege telling me that he or she is going o come to my country, then i would surely be more then happy to invite him to my house and show him or she israel. I know that a person that i am not comfortable with and a person that is not comfortable with me, will never think of sharing this information with me, if we would not have a good connection, and a good friendship. So sure i would be more then glad to meet him or her, and have him or her in my house.
• United States
21 May 07
wow! Israel - I've always been fascinated by Israel and the surrounding countries. I just wish the area was a little more peaceful, for everyone's sake. If I ever get the money and the 'nerve' to visit the country I'll drop you a line - maybe invite you for coffee somewhere ;-)
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@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
21 May 07
That would be wonderful, but please you will be my guest so i will invite you for a coffee:)
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• United States
21 May 07
Very Gracious! Thank you :)
@emeraldisle (13145)
• United States
20 May 07
If it was one of my friends on here then yes I'd meet with them. I'm not sure about at my house but I'd want to meet them at a restaurant and then go from there. After I've met them and talked with them for a while then I'd probably invite them back but who knows. One can never tell really by what we see on the internet after all and I've gotten more cautious in my old age. I think the same would go if I was the one traveling. I'd see about meeting them at like a Denny's or something like that. See what happens after that.
• United States
20 May 07
Hey Lady! So next time we chance to cross that border we'll let ya know! Denny's has this Philly Melt on Cibata bread that's worth meeting over ;-) Yeah, I've been thinking that meeting 'outside' first would be the best option - always better safe ...
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@emeraldisle (13145)
• United States
21 May 07
Hehe if you come down this way I'd love to meet you :) Denny's has some good sandwiches I agree. Not big on the philly melts but their tuna melt is very good.
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@budsr03 (2354)
• Canada
20 May 07
I sure would ask to meet them! I'm just as real on paper as i am in life. As for the phonies and the dangerous ones, i can take care of myself. Take care APMorison.
• United States
20 May 07
I can hit what I shoot at and can handle sword and quarter staff - but I'd still rather start with the coffee shop before the house ;-) thanks for answering!
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@budsr03 (2354)
• Canada
20 May 07
I'm just not made that way. I see nothing to be afraid of really. I tend to think people are like me. A threat to no one! I also pride myself on judgement of character. Take care.
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
20 May 07
i never really thought of that, but there are maybe two or three people on here that i would invite to my home and i would go to theirs. that would be really nice to have a few mylotters over for dinner or a weekend
• United States
20 May 07
Its nice to think you can find people you connect with well enough on a site like this that you would want to get together.
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
20 May 07
it is nice, and i have been really blessed to have found some really nice people here that i would be more then happy to have them in my home
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• United States
20 May 07
For me, it would depend on who it is. That depends. I came to MyLot along with seven other people from another forum we all met at. Well, now - it's a total of seven instead of eight because one of them passed away last week. Anyway, I have also met other friends that I interact with regularly, in their discussions, & via messages. We know each other well enough that we know what types of discussions are liked by who, & sometimes, in addition to responding to them, we also mention it to each other so they can also respond. Or, if it's not my type of subject, I'd send a message to those who would be interested. If one of those people that I feel I know pretty well was passing through my area, I would probably meet them for coffee or lunch. I do have a few who actually live near me that I would also meet for coffee or lunch. As to coming into the house, the place is untidy, & I normally wouldn't have anyone come in. If they happened to be staying in a hotel or motel near me, I might head out there if invited to do so. However, it depends on which MyLot member it is. It is also not wise to choose the best response the same hour that you started a discussion.
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• United States
21 May 07
I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. I like your cautious approach as well. I usually pick my 'best' responses the 'next day' however sometimes the ones that get picked are the 'early birds' this is the first discussion I've had that has made it past 2 pages of responses, so I will likely readjust my timetable again from here out.
@AskAlly (3627)
• Canada
20 May 07
I would love to have a few of mylot friends pop in for a visit. If I were invited by one of them , I would absolutely go and have a coffee and a chat in person. I think it would be a lovely idea!
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• United States
21 May 07
thanks for the response. so far this has been the most prevalent position - welcome with a bit of caution ;-)
@shinjiao (1464)
• China
20 May 07
My answer to these requirements are NO. I have posted my photos online so that everyone can see my real profile.If someone asks me to meet him/her,I will tell him/her that you have known my real profile,and I don't think you need to meet me in reality.I just want to communicate with you online,but not in reality.Life online and life in reality are quite different.I won't mingle them with each other.
• United States
21 May 07
thanks for the info - I know some people who have responded are seeing it otherwise, but you make a solid point.
@joe137 (60)
• United States
20 May 07
Probably not unless you got to know the person well enough. You have no idea who you are meeting. After several discussions, I might be inclined to give a person my phone nember if they wanted to talk more. At a later time after talking a lot with the person, I would still strongly weigh the motives of a person who wanted to meet me. I'm a man so it's hard to say because I don't understand what it's like to be stalked or anything like that. Not that some men aren't stalked. That and I'm lazy and don't ever pass through town. I think we should take more interest in the friends we might miss out on who we already see everyday.
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• United States
20 May 07
makes sense
@crazynurse (7489)
• United States
20 May 07
There are several folks on myLot that I would love to meet in person! If they were going to be in my town, I would suggest meeting them at a local cafe or restaraunt. I would expect the same from them if I were teh one traveling to their town. To go to someone's house is a HUGE step and one just can't be too sure this day and time. I would not meet them alone either. I would have hubby with me! But I most definitely would love to meet some of them!
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• United States
20 May 07
the house may be for the second or third meeting ;-) but its cool think of meeting people you'd like to meet to begin with!
@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
20 May 07
I love being able to talk here on mylot and have people that I look for but I don't think you can know someone that well to let them come to your house. Now if they wanted to meet somewhere else just to meet them I would probably say yes.
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• United States
20 May 07
that seems to be the prevailing wisdom - meet at a restaurant or coffee shop first - with another friend in tow - just to be safe. thanks for the input.
@Tarimm (83)
19 May 07
Oh no. No way would i let a stranger i my house. I may meet them in a public place and with other people there. I'd inist on them taking someone too cause you never know what could happen.
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• United States
19 May 07
Sensible ;-) no, really - it makes sense to not jump in too quickly. Thanks for the response.
@disvachic (10121)
• United States
20 May 07
I have a few mylot friends that i keep in touch with off of mylot and if they told me they were coming to my town i would definitely want to meet them.Theres no harm to go have lunch or something like that.
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@liyan97 (2128)
• Northern Mariana Islands
20 May 07
I enjoy Mylot and a I enjoy making new friends through the discussions, but as for meeting them in person...I really don't know.....It is totally different when we communicate by post rather than meet each other face to face. I mean there are so many things to concider before actually accepting an invitaion like that! I don't know how to answer this discussion.....I guess I would simply say; "it would depend"
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