Do you find it hard to be intimate?
By NatashaG
@NatashaG (100)
United States
May 19, 2007 9:22pm CST
I have been married for about eight months and about a month after our marriage he joined the Air Force. When he came home(after being gone to basic training and tech school for five months) I found it extremely hard to be intimate with him.. It was difficult to be held and "make out" with him. I felt like he was a complete different man even though he had not changed that much. I was just wondering if anyone else seemed to have the same experience after marriage?
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
20 May 07
It really depends on the individuals involved also I'd say. My wife and I have been married 29 years. We still "make out" even in public, but not too often hahaha. We hold hands, we are intimate, and we also say we love each other even in public. Also the fact of being seperated can also change ones feelings of closeness, intamacy of a mate due to the sepeartion. What does you husband say about this issue? Well all I can do is wish you both the best of luck.
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@NatashaG (100)
• United States
20 May 07
At first he was very unhappy about it. I didn't want to "do the deed" but did anyway.. because i knew it was something he really wanted. Since we've been back together I've been trying to overcome the feelings even though I feel them. It has actually worked really well. This week we have had so much fun together, just teasing each other like we used to when we first met. Things I felt I could not do when he first came home. My husband was very supportive of me. He would get aggravated with me easily at first and see that I was upset about it. Then things got better. He's very thankful that I am getting better about it..
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
20 May 07
Then juist look at it as if you're just starting to date him. Hee hee.
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@habichuelo (3100)
• United States
20 May 07
hmmm,what i can see is a slight brainwash from the armed forces,,just like all the others they get in the armed forced been one way and when come back you can see they are not the same,,,,now it got deeper, you are ok but may be you have to be very missionary now,just like his missions in the armed forces.i dont know!!! i guess be more tempting for him!!
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@NatashaG (100)
• United States
20 May 07
It wasn't him. It was I who felt uncomfortable with him. I didn't feel like he was mine, i guess. He hasn't really changed at all. Especially now that he's been back to the real world for a while.. He is still the same sarcastic, sweet, loving man that I feel in love with. I just fell out of touch with having him near me and being lovey dovey. I was just wondering if it was because he went away or because of us being married and if other couples had these kinds of issues.
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@tiffthone (193)
• United States
27 May 07
I've found that I go through stages with intimacy. Sometimes I just want to be all over my hubby, other times I'm just like "get off of me!" What's bad is he does too, but opposite times, like when I'm ready to be intimate, he's not, and vise versa. But after awhile you get used to it, and once the frustration of that with each other is gone, you'll have a happy median. :)
