What would you do if you found out that your diamond gift was not real?

@ZenDove (698)
United States
May 21, 2007 2:42am CST
One of my girlfriend's husband got busted semi-cheating. He was flirting and lunching with this girl at his office. Emails and voice mails revealed his close call. He bought his wife a full carat diamond solitaire, as an apology and as a sign of his commitment. The band was too large, she went to have it sized and found out that the stone is cubic zirconia. This is about 6 months after the fact. She had already forgiven him for his indiscretion, but this is a new and seperate lie. Or is it? Was he so desperate to be forgiven for his mistakes that he would do something so tacky as to pass off a phony ring for the real McCoy? Or is he just a low-down dirty liar, who will stoop to any cheap trick to get his way? She hasn't told him that she knows yet because she doesn't want to seem materialistic and petty. I think that he just makes it worse because I have heard him brag about the "piece of the rock" that he put on his wife's hand! He brags about how it sparkles, about how many payments he has left on it, how it saved his marriage and even about the platinum of the setting! Bling, bling, baby! I was with her at the mall when she was told that it was a phony diamond. I felt bad for her but all I could say was "Hey, he knew how much trouble he was in, maybe he meant to replace it with the real thing" She had tears in her eyes when she said, "Nope, he just thinks he can tell me anything and I'll believe it" Now,she thinks that he really did have an affair with the girl from his job - and maybe it is still going on! What advice would you give her? How would you feel to be bamboozled like this?
3 responses
@howard96h (11683)
• New York, New York
21 May 07
Since she already forgave him for his indiscretion that's in the past, now she finds out about the stone being a CZ, well if the ring was suppose to be a real Diamond and it was meant to represent a sign of his commitment and apology then he's a fake just like the stone is. I would make him buy me the real thing, not because it must be a real diamond - when you truly love someone and they love you, they could give you a plastic ring and you will cherish it forever because it was the thought that counts but NOT in this case. He needs to make up for fooling her and since he goes around telling people about this rock, I'd make him eat those words and get me a real diamond, just to make my point to him. If she doesn't then he'll assumme he got over on her and he will do it again in the future. If she is a good woman and a good wife she deserves better than a fake, I doubt her love is fake, I doubt the marriage vows she made were fake so then why should she get fooled and be given a fake ring?
@ZenDove (698)
• United States
21 May 07
To give your own wife a phony ring - how tacky is that?! You're right, it does make him seem as fake as that stone is. Maybe he figured since he didn't REALLY have an affair, he didn't REALLY have to get her a diamond! She is a great person and deserves so much better in life - both in jewelry and in men. He's always semed a little immature and selfish to me but this just takes the cake.
• Philippines
21 May 07
if i were her i'll ask my husband to go out and go to mall then invite her husband in a jewelry shop. pretend that they will buy rings for them. then infront of that stupid guy ask the owner of the jewelry shop to check the ring. coz she just want to know how much her ring cause. hahaha. boom then she dnt have to tell it to her husband coz the jewlry checker will tell him that his gift if fake.
@winterose (39913)
• Canada
21 May 07
I think the guy is a jerk and I don't like to be lied to. If my boyfriend was buying me a diamond I want him to tell me if it is a zirconia or the real thing.