Why start new rlationship after a divorce?

@anetteh (3591)
Sweden
May 21, 2007 9:02am CST
I wonder, my sisters always tell me it´s time for me to get a new relationship in my life. They say it´s god for you. But I do not want a new relationship, I´v been married for 12 years and now I am realy starting to enyoing my own time. But, there are not only my sisters telling me, my kollegs to, my friends...so I wonder, why is that so important if you realy enyoing being alone?
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@golfproo (1841)
• Canada
21 May 07
I am in the exact same situation as you! I have been married for 13 years and that has recently just ended. The last thing in the world I want to do is start a new relationship. I understand totally how you feel. It is all about your happiness right now, if a new relationship does not make you happy then it should not even be considered. cheers
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@anetteh (3591)
• Sweden
21 May 07
You are totaly right. I like the things way there are. Thank you for responding. I tell my sisters that I am alright, I do not need a relationship just now. I nor have the time, feeling or the strengh for that. To start a new relationship take time, effort and strengh I can not afford.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
21 May 07
If you are happy with the way your life is then so be it. Don't worry what others think. They don't live your life. They are only saying these things because they don't like to be alone and they can't understand why someone would be happy that way. So, just enjoy your life the way you are living it, when you want to have a relationship then you will, until then be happy!
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@anetteh (3591)
• Sweden
21 May 07
If i´m supose to have a new realtionship it will find me...*smile*. Now I have nor the time, effort, strenght to start a new, and to be honest, I like the way thing´s are. Thanks for responding.
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@Marie2473 (8521)
• Sweden
21 May 07
It is up to you to decide when u are ready to meet someone new. I understand that u feel like u want to be alone, and I would feel the same thing if i were you. Just try to have fun and find yourself again before getting involved again..
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@anetteh (3591)
• Sweden
21 May 07
I´v just found out that I´m not in a mood for any cind om relationship at the moment, I nor have the time, feeling, and the streng for a new relationship, and I like the things there are, so I will do what I want to do. Thank´s for responding.
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@lightningMD (5932)
• United States
21 May 07
I think if you are happy then just tell them so. Tell them that you are enjoying your new found freedom and that when you are ready for a relationship it will happen on its own. If you let them force you into it chances are it will fail because your heart wont be in it. Enjoy your free time.
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@anetteh (3591)
• Sweden
21 May 07
I have, belive me. But they think I´m boring.
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• Canada
22 May 07
They mean well, but they're WRONG!!! If you're not ready, you're not comfortable, and/or you don't want to, don't do it!!! If you fall in love and it becomes right for you, do it then, and only then, not because osmeone tells you you have to. Tell 'em all to mind their own d@mn business.