I'm afraid to fall in love..AGAIN..

@kharen (1488)
Philippines
May 21, 2007 12:12pm CST
I had just moved on from my latest break-up with the one i love... but i still can't forget and am still afraid to feel anything... Then this guy came up to me and we became friends but then he admitted, he already loves me...i told him, i'm still moving on and wants some space and be alone..he told me he'll wait and he'll always be there.. Now, i think i'm starting to feel something special for him, but my heart is still closed and is afraid to be opened again..because of the wound that still needs to be totally mended, but i want to open up.. it's just i'm so afraid to. What's the best thing to do?
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@KarenO52 (2950)
• United States
23 May 07
Be honest with him like you have been. He sounds like a great guy. Time will tell, and you will be able to tell when you're ready for another love. Since you're already starting to feel for him, you must be healing from your break up.
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
24 May 07
i don't want him to think that i'm using him to heal my wound or is it always like that?
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@KarenO52 (2950)
• United States
25 May 07
Just because you're starting to heal, and maybe being with the new person helps, that doesn't mean you're using him to heal your wound. Everything that helps you to move on is good. If you hadn't been hurt, and were single, wouldn't you still like him if you met for the first time?
@mystery5 (350)
• India
23 May 07
I would say, just go ahead and give your whole-hearted trust to him - yes, AGAIN. Don't let one break-up take away the joy of loving, from you. Be glad you broke up, because you were never meant to be together. This person loves you, is not imposing himself on you, and is giving you the space to be yourself and take your time. Just go ahead and BE with him! Let him do the healing for you, and trust me, nothing heals better than love. Leave your fears behind, just trust in God and life and learn to love again, I'm sure you won't be let down. Just go ahead and have the time of your life!
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
24 May 07
I just can't take away these fears..i really want to but it's really hard... I'm even hesitating to believe this guy...i'm so confused.. making up mind is not that easy... umfff...
• Philippines
23 May 07
If your wounds havent totally healed yet, then i suggest you take it slow with this new guy. It's a good thing that you were honest enough to tell him about your feelings and since he understands and is willing to wait, then you should not feel pressured about it. Get to know more about this guy and nurture your friendship first. In time, when you are ready again and wounds have healed, your heart will naturally open up again and accept new people.
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
24 May 07
i think so and i hope so..tnx.. ^^,
@youless (112164)
• Guangzhou, China
23 May 07
The love is so complicated. It's hard to avoid being hurt. If you still love him and he also loves you, why not give him a chance? If you don't love him, then do not hesitate to make your decision.
@emmanna (97)
• Egypt
24 May 07
hi well i have been in this before all this i loved some one so much and i was going to do any thing for him and one day i finally wake up from my sweat dreams to see him truely all the time he was use me just for fun money and my friends too i cant tell you he turns up my life to hill but this about 2years ago it takes time to get over that thank god and iam now having a real love with some one he realy loves me i wonna say give your self asecond chance belive me he maybe the one u looking for