What will you do if a stranger follow you.......please help

@maehan (1445)
United States
May 22, 2007 5:33pm CST
My friend and I had been followed by a guy talking nonsense to us. We are stay-at-home mom and usually we bring our children to the park and let them play outdoor activities. Thus, this guy will approach those mom that are alone or only 2 person and start talking nonsense. Today, while I was walking home with my children back from school. We get into a grocery store as I need to buy bread and some veg. When we came out, he appear in front of us and start talking. We quickly ignore him and get into a bookshop. After a while, we thought that he had left so we came out. Alas, he is outside grinning at us. Luckily, we met our apartment security at the other end of the building. We call him and tell him what had happen. He turn around and he is gone. Anyway, we have the security walk back together with us. I called my friend telling her what had happen. She said she had experienced it 2 days ago. We decided if we need anything from grocery store or going to the park, we will go together instead of alone. I am so worried I will see him again on the way back from my children school tomorrow. Please help.
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3 responses
22 May 07
Ok here is something that i would do in your situation...when he approaches me i kindly ask him what he wants, if he just starts rambling on i will look for an opening with his hand, you know if he is making hand motions, well when i see the right point i would grab his hand, twist it behind his back, push him against a wall and then violently ask him what his game is and why the pancakes ((much nastier word that pancakes)) he is following me. either that or draw attention to yourself by screaming "you f**** stalker"
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@maehan (1445)
• United States
22 May 07
I like that, I think I can do that if my children are not with me. Good one!
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22 May 07
Ok sorry i guess my idea isnt really the best idea and you have probably ignored it but i had the same kind of problem with a bunch of people who followed me for a few weeks, i alerted the police but they didnt do anything and so i thought i will take my own actions because the police aint interested, so basically i did what i said for you to do and then they stopped because they knew that i would do some serious damage, so yea i apologise for the stupid reply i just get a nasty build up of anger when i hear about stalkers. But yea you should contact the police and keep bagering on at them if they dont do anything violence isnt the answer!
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@maehan (1445)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Guess what, he saw me coaching my son taekwondo in the park and most of time, my neighbourhood friends are always in a group. He walk away.
@smacksman (6076)
22 May 07
Call your friendly police station and explain the situation to them. You may be surprised but they may already know about him and he may be a harmless nutter. On the other hand they may want to follow you and see for themselves what he is doing and then take action to stop him. The whole stalking thing is difficult to pin on someone so it may take a while to come to a conclusion. Be brave.
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@maehan (1445)
• United States
22 May 07
Thank you, I need that encouragement. Thank you so much.
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• Abbotsford, Wisconsin
21 Jun 07
Ask him what he wants.. if he seems friendly introduce yourself with first name only no other personal information, and try to find out who he is. Then explain you need to go.. and inform him not to follow you. If he starts to follow you do NOT go to a place alone, do not go to an apartment, If he is outside a store, go inside the store and alert store security, and exit out a different side of the store, or ask security to escort you out there.. Another thing is if a persons is EVER being followed, Do not go anywhere alone, go to a place with more people, and with people you can contact for help... never if you notice it allow them to follow you all the way home, stay in town, and find someone to report it to imediately, stay away from any places where you will be totally alone with them, until you know for sure they are not a threat, as some people are overly friendly, or have disabilities and handycaps and may come acrossed as dangerous, if they are not dangerous but misunderstood most of the time people in the area will be able to explain the situation to you. Stay safe and take care, - DNatureofDTrain
• Abbotsford, Wisconsin
21 Jun 07
Oh the other tactic instead of engaging eye contact or conversation with him, or any strangers.. unless contact has already been made, avoid eye contact, and pretend you do not see them, and ignore them completely, however remain totally aware of where they are and what they are doing... If you have a cell phone on you, it is best to keep it on you any time you go into public, so you can imediately notify someone. - DNatureofDTrain
@maehan (1445)
• United States
21 Jun 07
I actually inform my neighourhood friends as they encounter the same thing. Right now, whenever we go to the park or grocery store .. . . We go together. Since then, whenever he saw us in a group, he walk away.
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• Abbotsford, Wisconsin
15 Oct 07
Stalking or not, it is always better to travel with someone anywhere, then you'll be safer. I hope things have gotten better for both of you since you first posted this. Take care, - DNatureofDTrain