May 22, 2007 10:50pm CST
So I have been with my boyfriend for the past 6 years. 4 of them were in a serious relationship, then we broke up for a while and have been together again for another year. We have always been faithful and we spend a lot of time together. Well he has been living with roommates for the past 4 years. I have had roommates for 2 years and lived alone for another 2. I spend every Saturday night there on weekends and I tend to come over quite often or he comes over at my place. I feel we spend so much time together, and I am just tired of driving over to his place all the time, dealing with his roommates because I don't always come there to see them, I just want to spend time with him...cuddling up to a movie, or being able to go out to dinner alone with him without the overbearingness I get from them that they always have to be there, or he feels bad just leaving them alone. Gas is now $3.26 a gallon and he just doesn't want to drive to see me as much even though we don't live that far apart. I know I am still young but I am at about that point in my life where I really just want him to move in with him. He keeps kind of going back and forth with what he wants. I am tired of always going over there, but he doesn't always want to come here. I told him I can only wait so long for him to be ready for such a committment and that if being with him meant that I had to wake up alone every day for the next five years I just didn't want to do it anymore. I don't want to be selfish either, so I am stuck with knowing what to do next. His lease is up with his roommates and he was considering just moving into an apartment by himself. I feel with that amount of time I spend with him, the driving I do every time back and forth, and he does and the times we carry all our crap over to eachother's house to spend extended days and time together, it's just a waste of my money to spend hundreds to have a seperate place. I know he's a quiet guy that likes his own space and I am the same exact way. he said we'll talk about the living situation soon, so I'm wonderin what's the best way to get the best of both worlds.
• United States
23 May 07
I too have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and we moved in with each other about a 1 1/2 ago and at first it was the best thing I could of ever done BUT girl let me tell you...you may think you "really" know him but its a whole different thing when you live with them and get to really see ALL their bad habits because they do come out. You just need to seriously think about it and discuss the situation with him. If he is avoiding the questions you have for him then maybe he isnt ready for you both to live together, thats a big step in anybody's life. The only thing I can really tell you is be honest with him and ALWAYS have that line of communication open between you both.