Gift Giving Policy's

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@magikrose (5424)
United States
May 24, 2007 6:36am CST
Do you think it is right to voulenteer to pay for something and then ask the receiver to pay the money back?Here is the story behind my question. A very special friend of mine is in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. His g/f voulenteered to pay for certain things for him and he didnt ask her help. Now she is expecting him to pay her back, and she keeps a running tab over his head every time she gives him money even when he dosnt ask for it. Now I can understand paying back money you ask for, but not for money that was basically gifted. What do you think should he pay this money back or just pay back the money he specifically aske for him self?
4 responses
@brokentia (10396)
• United States
26 May 07
No, it is not right that she ask for money back that he didn't ask for to begin with. But at the same time, I would probably pay back whatever it is that I owed her and then made a mental note to never accept what she offered in the future. And if she again offered, I would come out and ask her if it is a gift or if I would be expected to pay her back. Maybe she gave him the money thinking that he would pay her back with something he said...so it could be a misunderstanding on both parties. I would just pay it back and make sure all was understood in the future.
@momto2b2g (217)
• United States
24 May 07
He should not have to pay her back. She voluntarily gave it to him. If he asked to borrow any then he should pay that back. If he wants this relationship to work out, he needs to quit accepting her paying for things or pay her back since she is that kind of person.
• United States
24 May 07
as for your friend paying back the money it all depends on the situation. if they are in a real relationship then no he shouldn't but if he is not faithfull to her then yes he should. what i mean by that is that if he is truely in love with her and is not interested in any other girls then it should not be paid back. if he is in one of those relationships where they see other people then yes he should. what that is telling her is that he loves her but he is not in love with her and that he is not ready for a comitment right now.
@KatieS (504)
• United States
24 May 07
I think he should just not take money from her anymore and learn his lesson if he wants to stay in the relationship with her.