How do you teach your kids......

frustration with work - frustration, work, child
@rabanesd (284)
United States
May 24, 2007 2:12pm CST
How do you teach your kids that education is only a good thing for them?The reason I ask is I have a nephew that lives with me and I am having a hard time trying to make him understand that education is for his sake and not mine. He tends to get upset when he can't figure out how to do his work. When I try to help him with it he throws more of a tantrum. I just need some advice on this please.
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@Diahni (30)
• United States
24 May 07
Rabanesd, I bet his school has tutors you could get to work with him. If he is getting frustrated with his work, this means he needs some help. Maybe it's better that somebody, other than "the boss" is the one to help! At my daughter's school, kids volunteer to tutor kids in the lower grades. Hope this helps. Diahni
@rabanesd (284)
• United States
31 May 07
Thank you for your response. If you like, read the comment I posted above and that pretty much sums up what my nephew is like in his work.
@GardenGerty (99411)
• United States
24 May 07
Some kids are very embarrassed at not understanding stuff, and they act angry if you try to help them. He needs to ask for help before it gets to the frustrating part. Does he qualify for any extra help at school? Lecturing and repeating that it is for his own good will probably not help. Does he have one subject that he is good at? It could be a building point for other successes. How old is he? Is some of it just an age attitude? Do his parents live with you as well? When kids see that school pertains to real life, they accept it better. Often the first math that kids enjoy is dealing with money, because they can see how important that is in life. I look forward to seeing what others say.
@rabanesd (284)
• United States
31 May 07
Thank you for your response. The thing about him with asking for help is he doesn't want to ask for help. Every time I try to work with him, he always acts as if I can read his mind. Sometimes I know he needs help, but I want him to learn to ask for it. I try to tell him that we're (me and my sister) not going to always be there in his life and give him the help he needs. We try to teach him to be independant and not always leaning on other peoples answers. As for school help, I think he needs to be in sped because he's really slow at learning. My sister asked his teacher from the 1st grade if she thought he needed to be in sped. She said,"No, he's only moving at a slow pace and that's normal". Well, I'm wondering if it is still normal. We had him in Kumon (tutoring after school). He did really good, but we couldn't put him back in because it was free from the government and we can't afford to pay for it now. Then we tried a math tutor because Kumon was dealing with his reading. He was doing good with the math tutor. This year we decided to put him back into the tutoring for reading. But it's finished already and he's still having a hard time. His teacher this year says that he has the potential, but he's just being lazy. I agree with her. Now, his parents don't live with us. And when he visits them, he comes back a whole lot worse than when he left. Because he doesn't live with his parents, they tend to just let him do what he wants to do and that's why he comes home worse. Well I think I said too much. Thank you again for your response.