Long distance relationship

United States
May 25, 2007 4:30pm CST
I just found out today that my boyfriend of 6 years found a job far away. I still have summer school and school in the fall before I graduate from college. I am so use to seeing him all the time, basically every day. And now he got a job that would take 5 - 6 hours to drive to see him. He has problems driving over to my place the way it is when he lives 2 miles away now... and now to move hundreds. I told him, "Why do I think this long distance relationship would work...if you can't even drive 2 miles." He said, "I'm good at doing the big things, not the little things." I don't want to be selfish, but I do not think I'm the type of person that can handle long distance...especially knowing he's moving to the big cities St Paul / Minneapolis where there's going to be hundreds of opportunities for cute girls out there without the baggage of problems we've had. I told him that since I have a brother and sister down there, I'd have no problem moving down there too, but he doesn't want that. So then I feel like he doesn't want me with him, but then when I said, "Well then maybe we should break up because we want different things." he said, "I am disappointed you'd throw me away like that". I am so confused! I don't want us to break up over a stupid job...and I don't want to be selfish either, but I don't want to be miserable either.
1 response
• United States
25 May 07
My husband and I had a long distance relationship for a year before we moved in together. We met on the internet and at the time he lived 5 hrs away. But then again we weren't together first then one moved away so our situation was totally different. He may have said he was "disappointed you'd throw me away like that", but it sounds like he is the one that wants to do the throwing away, not you. Most guys can dish it out but they can't take it. I don't know his true motives but I guarantee if he wouldn't drive 2 miles to see you he sure as hell isn't going to drive 5 hours to see you. My advice is, finish school and take care of your own life and happiness first. Then get a guy who genuinely wants to be a part of your life and share equally in the happiness.