The Meaning Of The Word No

@TerryZ (22146)
United States
May 26, 2007 10:04am CST
I think we all have this type of friend who doesnt no the meaning of the word NO. And no matter what you say or do they still wont accept no. This urkes me to no end. I think this behavior comes from when they were younger their parents never taught them the meaning of the word no. I truely do believe this. I know when my parents told me no I wasnt allowed to argue it and I had to accept it. Even though I had friends when their parents told them no they would scream and cry till the parents would eventually give in. No not me. So long story short I think this type of behavior carrys on to their adult life. How do you convince someone when you say no to them you mean it?
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
26 May 07
Well Terry to be honest I really do not know apart from stand your Ground with them Personally, I mean I don't know the Circumstances here, but personally I would say no and if the Friend still does accept it then tough I will not let them bring the Subject up again We have Members on here that do not understand no as well you know I mean they request once you deny because there is nothing there that connects you to the Person next thing you know they ask again and again
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
26 May 07
Oh thanks Gabs Im glad your understand me. I just get so annoyed with some people in my life. Your so right there are some people on here like that too. Gabs your such a good friend.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
26 May 07
You are welcome Sweet and don't let them get to you You are also a good Friend I hope you know that A big Hug to you
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
26 May 07
I do know that.Hugs back to you
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@KrauseHome (33249)
• United States
28 May 07
This can really cause problems I am sure. This is probably especially with Men, why some of them become quite abusive. Not sure how a parent can raise a kid like this, but I see it all of the time. Sounds like you need to find a way to convince and show this person NO means NO, and if they cannot still seem to grasp this, then you might need to break ties with them, and move on?
@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
29 May 07
Its good advice thanks.
@cherhost (1073)
• United States
27 May 07
Funny... this is what I am going through with the kid. She is hitting that 2 year stage where she thinks she can rule the world. But I do understand where you are coming from. I have friends who do that with their husbands... to the point where they will ask him for something like new rings or earrings... they say no not now. I mean we are military and not rich by no means. They then will fight it till it ends up in their greedy little hands. I have never had that chance to argue a NO, my parents made sure that I knew what it meant and not to fight them. But then back the it was not child abuse to give your kid a swat.
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
29 May 07
My parents made sure I knew the meaning of the word no too.
• Belgium
26 May 07
I've got one friend who has this problem, but I stand ground. When I say no, it is no. If that guy says no, he wouldn't like me whining about why he says no too.
@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
26 May 07
I know and I hate it. Thanks
@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
26 May 07
I listen to this 15-tape program by Lucinda Bassett, called "Attacking Anxiety"--people like me with panic/anxiety disorders are often people pleasers...we want everyone to like us and will often do favors for people even though we really don't want to-and might even give up our own plans to oblige these others...uh, well no more..at least not with me...Lucinda brings out the point that if someone is asking a favor of you and you have you own obligations and plans and don't want to give them up, just say a firm NO---and she also points out, you don't need a further explanation, cause sometimes one is so busy trying to explain why one can't do that favor, that they give up and wind up doing it anyway--one should never feel obligated to do a favor they don't want to do especially if it means giving up you're own plans--if the other person doesn't understand this...tough--and quite often these very same people get annoyed if you dare to ask them a favor and they say no--right?
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
26 May 07
Well pyewacket that is very interesting indeed. Thanks for that information.