my son's open defiance...
By wmaharper
@wmaharper (2316)
United States
May 28, 2007 2:17pm CST
My oldest has always been apt to push my buttons, and usually doesn't hide it. I was waiting for him to start being sneaky about being disobediant, and today he did. I suppose it's his age (almost 3) but I was hoping he'd wait for a little longer. Today, he was in quiet time (instead of a nap, he is to stay in his bed and quietly look at books for 30-45 minutes) I told him not to get out of bed, or he would get in trouble, he says okay momma. not even a minute after I shut the door, he was playing w/toys out of his bed! I opended the door, and he jumped in bed and tried to act like he had been in there the whole time! I couldn't believe it! How old were your children when they started sneakingly disobeying you?
5 responses
@mi2ok02 (406)
• United States
17 Jun 07
Mine did it about the same age. Mine still try to and they are in their pre-teen and teen years! It was always best for me to try to spend a little bit of quiet time with them in their room, with them in their beds before I left them to themselves. I would check in on them every 10-15 minutes to make sure they were where they were supposed to be. A little one on one time did seem to help them have a rest time if they didn't fall asleep for a nap. But mine were mostly into napping.
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
17 Jun 07
yes, I have noticed that about the one on one time. My son will take a nap about half the time right now, but if he sleeps in past 7:00 a.m. it most likely won't happen (and if it does, he's hard to get down for bedtime). On Thursdays, and Sundays he always takes a nap as we have church on those days, otherwise it's hit and miss. He is getting better at being obediant (about THAT anyways) (:
@carlaabt (3504)
• United States
29 May 07
My 16 month old is starting to get sneaky. I don't know if it's because he doesn't remember what I said until I get onto him or what, but he does things very similar to what your little one does already!
Yesterday we told him to stop standing on the back of the couch, and sat him back down twice. We explained to him that he wasn't allowed to stand on the couch because he could get hurt. My husband told him that if he got on the back of the couch one more time, he wasn't going to be allowed to play on the couch anymore. He said okay Daddy, Elliott won't. My husband walked into the kitchen where I was cooking, and we heard the baby get up. My husband stuck his head back around and asked Elliott what he was doing. He immediately sat down and said "What?" My husband made him play in the kitchen the rest of the time, and he threw such a fit! Everyone keeps telling me how much worse it is going to be in another 1-2 years. I'm NOT looking forward to that part of it!
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
29 May 07
wow, he is starting young! Thankfully mine has just started, and i'm not looking forward to the next year of him testing everything I say, hopefully he'll catch on quickly! (: Thanks for the response.
@lillake (1630)
• United States
28 May 07
LOL My oldest does that every day. LOL Sometimes its just not worth the battle so I don't bother trying. I'd rather pick my battles, you know. But 3 is a bad age for some, much worse than 2. They're so much closer to understanding but still so close to still being a baby. So its all about pushing the limits and finding out what happens. Think of it as one long social experiment. LOL
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
28 May 07
Yes, I have def. learned to pick my battles, there are some things that just don't matter in the grand scheme of life, like if he wears his shorts backwards all day, he's proud that he put them on, and who cares what the cashier at walmart thinks? He's happy with it, so I don't worry about it! (:
Thanks for the response.
@6in12years (305)
• United States
28 May 07
3ish. Three is much harder than two IMO. 2yos forget what they're supposed to be doing, or refuse b/c they want to be independent. 3yos refuse or sneak with the express intent of defying you. It's always been the most difficult age for me.
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
28 May 07
I agree, I thought two's were bad, until mine has been getting closer to three, I'm a little worried about the terrible three stage now, because I thought he had become a pretty compliant child, but now I think it's too early to tell! Thanks for the response.
@toe_ster (770)
• United States
28 May 07
Probably around the same age I think. Also once they get that sense of right and wrong too. Also when they see the reaction they get from me. It is almost like a 'let's see how far I can take it' kind of thing. I did think thress were way more harder than twos. So good luck.
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
28 May 07
yes, I agree, threes are looking like they will be more of a challenge than twos. We'll see, but so far it's looking that way (and he's not even three yet!) *sigh* thanks for the response!
