After 3 years of dating you find out your boyfriend was your 1st cousin...

well after i was sick to my stomach i would have to stop seeing him. yes love is strong, but i know i would not be able to contiue a relationship with someone that i now know is my blood family member. wow, that sucks really. i know i would have to stop seeing him.

That happened to me once. my boyfriend of 6 months turned out to be my uncle. he was the same age as me but his bloodline was older so he ends up to be my uncle. we broke up because of that and because our parents won't permit it and now we are friends.

oh that is very frustrating. It makes me feel throw up and of course that is a very difficult siuation to deal since they been 3 years in a relationship especially they have share deeper things together before knowing the sad truth. Well its love and its hard to break it but for me if im on here situation even its difficult i would end up the relationship because i couldnt live with the thought that the person i love and give myself is my cousin. Not just because of other people to say but its the right thing to do. For you friend i hope she can stand on her decision when the time comes and i hope she will not regret it. Is her choice and we cant do anything about it. All i can say is the best of luck on her.

That's a hard situation to deal with. Some says that when a couple are close relatives then it might affect their soon to be born children. It said that those children would have an genetics effects but I'm not sure of that cause I know some first cousins being a husband and wife and have children that are absolutely normal. But if they can resist their feeling then they should, if not then be prepared to whatever the consequence may bring to them. Remember life is about cause and effect.

I think she chose that way. She is aware to the fact that they are related but still she continue to have relationship with him. I dont want to wish they will suffer but I think they have to accept all the consequences and risk may come. Its not really a simple thing since they were already been told and warned of not continuing the relationship. Yet they pursue it, I guess thats really love...

Well i can tell you that i come from a very small family, i have only two cousins, and can not imagine being in the situation she is in. But if it was me, i would break up the relationship. It is very clear that you can not be in that type of relationship, This is very dangerous when having children they can suffer physically from many things. If she is pregnant i would advice her to do a special check that checks if the child is sick in some genetic family disease. Avery complicated situation. I wish her the best of luck. It is the hardest thing to brake up after three years from the person that you love, because of this reason.

I really don't understand how they were so in love for 3 years and didn't find out for so long. Especially with being first cousins. I just really don't see how in the world it took that long to figure out. As far as her still staying with him, I think that's disgusting and is going to cause much separation and turmoil on the family. I really hope she is not pregnant, I feel very sorry for the child if she is. Can't imagine what the child would go through and feel growing up.

I know they have been dating for 3 years but she found out they are cousins so in my opinion they should end it.That is so not kool.Its incest and its not right.

Marrying your cousin is still legal in many states, it may be taboo, but its certainly not wrong in everyone's eyes. I think its really awkward and that would def. weird me out, but to each their own...

I couldn't imagine what I would do in her situation. I think she should consider the possibility of something being wrong with her baby if she is pregnant. I don't know if its changed,but I always remembered hearing that if you are related that close that the baby could have mental or physical problems. What does the cousins side of the family say? I think she probably should give up the relationship. I know it would be hard, but she could lose all her family and could have babies with problems

She is deeply in love with him and is thinking with her heart. There are some strong feelings here that are going to be hard to deal with. She only can make a choice in what she is going to do. If she continues she could chance a child she has could have health issues because of the fact that she and he are cousins. This has been proved. Is she willing to risk a future child to have to deal with health issues? That alone to me would have me sever the ties with the boyfriend. I would not stay in the relationship and it would not be a easy thing to decide. But no matter how you look at it it is incest and that bodes no one any good.

Thats a very sad situation, anyway it would not have happened to me if i was in their place as i like talking about families a lot during datings. But if i was in her place i will surely marry him as i have been with him for three years and i know him and love him so, its better to have a better life for ourself. Its heaven when we are being loved by somebody that we love. We have to take a good look at the situation around our families before we get into a relationship as to avoid such kinds of troubles that your friends are facing right now.

I know that some ststes dont allow first cousins to marry,in my heart I would know it is moraly wrong and have to break it off but I guess she will have to live with her dicission.

It is her chouce. As long as she knows what her family will say and think and she can handle that.... then really it is noones choice but her's. SHe is the one that has to tell any future kids they have together that they are cousins...because they WILL find out from other people.

I think that they should stay together. I know that a lot of people would think that it was wrong but if they didn't know and they fell in love who can say that they shouldn't be together. I think that it is possible to love a first cousin especially if you don't know who they are. I have a first cousin that I care a great deal about and I believe that if we had met and not have known that we were related that it could have been the same type of situation as he is the one person that I was always comfortable talking to and sharing everything with. He always seemed to understand me and how I thought and felt.

I know of another couple that found themselves in a similar situation. I don't really know them personally, they are friends of a friend. They were in love and had planned for years to spend the rest of their life together before they found out. They married and he got 'fixed' so they would never conceive children. They are very intelligent, professional, educated people who felt they delt with a tough situation the best they could. They have been married many years now and have 3 wonderful adopted children. What would I do if I were in your friends situation???? Hope and pray that I was not pregnant by him!! Then take every precaution to make sure it never happened.

It is so sad what they are going through. I think that this is a decision that only they can make. No one is to blame here. I think they have to weigh out the pros and cons of staying together. I really don't know what I would do in their situation. It's a tough one for sure!

She didn't know before, but now she knows, however since she didn't know about it then, her feelings have grown. Crazy as it may seem, if they love one another then that is their choice. To me it's wrong, I don't believe in incest, but this situation you mention happend before they found out. Let's see what happens from this point on. I can say that this situation will be something that will in some way destroy the family.

well, i guess i would be frank with my family and tt i really love him.. i mean for a couple to receive blessings from the family is very important, isnt it? also, getting pregnant might means tt the baby might go abnormal? i guess u gotta really think of what u want and what the future holds? its really no point holding on to something that will casue everyone single one being miserable... pains ends the earlier the better... of coz i wish the couple all the best...

I look up the dictionary and realize the meaning of first cousion~~it's terrible and miserable.I think she should give up the love and if it's not to late,see a doctor and receive an abortion. I believe time can heal the pain~