relationship with in laws

in-laws - foe or friend? in-laws will just be in-laws?
Philippines
May 29, 2007 9:03pm CST
i've often read discussions on relationship with our siblings but i haven't seen one which discusses about our relationship with our partner's siblings. are you in good terms with them? are they your friends? do they treat you as their own siblings? or are you considered as an outsider in the family? hope you share your experience on this fellowe mylotters. for me, i feel blessed because the family of my husband considers me as a part of their family. they treat me as their sister and a friend. i feel so at home and well-taken cared when i am with them.
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@KissThis (3003)
• United States
30 May 07
My fiancee is an only child so there aren't any siblings for me to get along with. I have a wonderful relationship with his mother however. My fiancee can get along with most of my siblings however there are a few that he just barely tolerates because of their attitude and the way that they treat other people that are in their lives. My fiancee and I have been together for 6 years. A couple of years ago we were getting a family photo done and my sister asked us why did my fiancee have to be in the photo because he isn't part of the family. This comment has left some bad feelings between the two.
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• Philippines
31 May 07
i hope they settle things soon. thanks kissthis :)
@tina12679 (1126)
• United States
30 May 07
My hubby only has one sibling that we talk too the others are far away and he really never met someof them and the one brother he has is a jerk and he hasnt talked to him for a very long time. So the only one i would even care about is his sister and i do get along with her i would hope that she would concider me a little sister and friend. as i see her just as a older sister and friend. we talk about alot of things that i dont even tell my own sister and she is there for my children and love them so i couldnt ask for a better sister in law
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• Philippines
30 May 07
that is such a good relationship with your sister in law. i hope it will really last. it so nice having a sister whom you can relate to. thanks for the response.
@sahira (1071)
• Philippines
30 May 07
I am so blessed also that my in-laws,all of them..from parents to daughters and sons,are very good to me..they treat me well also and i feel well respected and cared when i'm with them..yes,they are not just in-laws but they are dear friends to me also..whenever i have problems,they are always there to help me.Thanks to my husband and ofcourse to GOD for blessing me these kind of people in life.
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• Philippines
30 May 07
thank you for your reply. i hope this relationship will never change :)
@shakeroo (3986)
• Malaysia
30 May 07
I love my in laws as much as I love my own family since they have been treating me as if I am just another member of the family and not even as in laws. Just like you, I feel blessed because of this since I know that there are many people out there are having problems with their in laws.
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• Philippines
30 May 07
yes you are right. there are some in-laws who don't have good relationships with each other. may you have that harmonious relationship with your in-laws. thanks for replying shakeroo.
@4cuteboys (4099)
• United States
31 May 07
I like my inlaws pretty well! My mother in law is great, her hubby is awesome, and his sister and her family they are just okay. I don't like them as much as the others, they are just sort of out there, and I loathe getting together with them. But I like every other member of his family, so I can't really complain, and we only see the sister a couple of times a year. His mom and step dad are the ones we see the most and they are funny and down to earth, so I couldnt ask for anything else!
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• Philippines
31 May 07
congratulations :) you have such a wonderful relationship with your in-laws. thanks 4cuteboys.
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
30 May 07
Let me start off saying I am an only child so I am not really use to having to share or deal with sibling rivalry. Anyway my fiancee is one of nine children. Two have passed away so there are now seven left. I have been able to meet each one atleast once since we have gotten together. She has one sister who I really like that lives across the country, we hardly ever get to see her but talk all the time on the phone. She has another sister that lives about an hour away. I can't stand her because she uses the people in her life. Then she has a couple of brothers that live about two to three hours away. The one I have only met once I didn't really get to know him. Their not close at all. The other brother is a hard worker that I can respect because he takes care of his family. She has two brothers that live close by. The one lives a couple of blocks away. I have no respect for him because of how he treats the members of his family. The last brother lives about fifteen minutes away. She is very close to him and we get along great. I can't say that I get along with all of my soon to be in-laws but I am not marrying them so I don't really care.
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• Philippines
31 May 07
you have a point there castleghost! you will marry the person that you love and not his family. it is likewise very good that you get along with his sister. thank you for replying :)
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
31 May 07
i cannot say that i am in a good relationship with my in-laws but i am not in a bad one as well... i am just OK... i talk with them only when necessary and they seldom contact me or chat with me as well... my hubby is the eldest and he has 2 brothers and 1 sister... sometimes i feel that they just not respect me as their older sister-in-law... so i also don't want to have much to do with them...
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@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
30 May 07
My inlaws before we have a good relationship... not until the time that they made a fool out of me... or should I say tell different stories about me behind my back... since then everything between us change. Youre lucky to have such king of family... youre really lucky.
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• Philippines
30 May 07
thanks for the reply... i hope things will be okay with you and your in-laws soon.
@sisan76 (43)
• Singapore
30 May 07
My relationship with my in-laws is much better since I moved out. Not everybody will get along under the same roof. We do have our disagreements but my husband knows in order to foster good relations, we needed to move out.
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• Philippines
30 May 07
there are really times when our decisions clashes with the people we live with. good thing that you now have a better relationship. thanks for replying sisan :)
@rossman (70)
• Philippines
30 May 07
sometimes good and sometimes not but we have to adjust as a new member in their family and go with the flow.........i mean 'pakikisama' or be a part in a group, join with them like reunion, parties and associate with them.
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• Philippines
30 May 07
we filipinos are good in that 'pakikisama'. no wonder we can easily interact with almost anyone. you are right that we should go with the flow. and if they see that we are good people, everyone will love us too. thanks for your reply rossman.
@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
30 May 07
Yesh, i am on good terms with my bf's brothers and parents... They are certainly nice people and good to hang out with... They are no doubt very nice to me and of coz, fun loving too... They treat me like their own people and very often, his mum will cook my favourite dishes... =) TO me, its so sweet and nice on their part... i feel doted... I guess its a blessing for me too...
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• Philippines
30 May 07
it is a blessing for us :) i believe that if they can see how much you love their son/brother, they return the favor back to you. it is never hard to love someone whom they think will take good care of their love one. thanks for replying huilee...