Would You Let Your Kid Do This?

@wachit14 (3600)
United States
June 1, 2007 3:37pm CST
My son is a very good student and is graduating high school with honors. He is going to the college of his choice and we are very proud of him. He's going to his senior prom tonight and after that, seventy of his friends are boarding a chartered bus for the Jersey shore. They rented out a block of rooms at a motel and will be gone for the weekend. My question is, would you let your kid do this? Of course, we are letting him go since no one is driving and they are being bussed back and forth, but there will be some partying going on. I trust him to make good decisions and we've talked about how he must always act responsibly, but I'm still nervous about him going. I should probably stop worrying and just let him have a good time, but I'm a mother and that's what mothers do.
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13 responses
• United States
8 Jun 07
I graduated in Florida near the beach. After our prom a bunch of us went to the beach where we had rented out a few rooms. My parents had no problem with it. My children are still pretty young, but if there seemed responsible when a oppertunity like this came along I would definitely consider it.
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@shadjee1 (604)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
Its a natural thing that you worry since you are the mother. But your son had told you what their plans are. You can take that as a sign that your son doesnt want you to worry too much and to trust him. He did kinda act responsibly when they told you the batch's plans.
@huilee (1010)
• Singapore
4 Jun 07
I guess worrying for ur own kids never ends, isnt it so? After all, thats ur own kid... And parents tend to be more protective towards their kids, besides its their growing up process... For me, i would suggest u to let him go relax and stop worrying for the moment... I mean hes old enough to think, thus i guess its not that much of a problem... =)
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• Philippines
2 Jun 07
Teens were really hooked into parties and I think there is no way we can block them in going to those. Maybe, TRUST is indeed the important factor where in you can understand your son. It's a normal feeling that you worry too much! Your a parent. I guess you educated your son very well when it comes to attitude and I think it's one factor where in you worry less.
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@emeraldisle (13146)
• United States
2 Jun 07
My thought is he's 18 or close to it. Sounds like they won't be foolish enough to drive since no car will be there. Over all they are being smart about it. I'd worry but yes I'd let him go. He's old enough to make some choices on his own and it would be time to let go a bit. After all once he's at college you won't have a clue at what he is doing and he could do anything. If you trust him for that why not a weekend?
@Sir_bobby88 (8245)
• Singapore
2 Jun 07
I would let my kids to go if he is responsible enough , after all one day he will grow up and go on his way .... no point stopping him to go yea
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@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
2 Jun 07
I know that I would feel the same way and since it's his prom night and it should be fun and rented a block of room s I know I'll be worry too. If you trust him then it should be ok and he should know from right from wrong. Hope he has a great time. It's normal for us mom to be nervous as my daughter and her hubby just moved out and lived with his parents and yet I still worry about her. Congrate to your son.
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@Zorrogirl (1481)
• South Africa
1 Jun 07
i would trust him as you and only you know how you raised him. if he hasnt acted irresponsibly until now, i guess he wont throw it all away at a party. and if you know and aprove of his closest friends,you can rest assured. teens usually do what their friends do. i guess its all part of learning responsibility. experience is the best way to learn. keep up the good faith. if he knows you trust him enough to let him go, i dont think he will deliberately dissapoint you. please post a discussion later on how it went down. good luck.
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@cher913 (25891)
• Canada
1 Jun 07
my daughter is 14 right now and i wouldn't trust her that much, but then again, she isnt very mature either...i guess it depends on how mature your son is...some 18 year olds are extremely mature and others are not... and yes, thats what mothers do and thats what our job is! i would worry if you WEREN'T worried about him!!! (right???)
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@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
1 Jun 07
It's normal what your feeling. Is he 17 or 18? Either way, if he is a pretty good kid all in all, I would let him go. If my son was graduating high school and even had a college already picked out, yeah, as worried as I would be, I would let him go. Seems like you done a pretty good job so far. Just look how far he has made it. You should be so proud right now. I'm sure you will worry, that is what mothers do best. Maybe find something to do while he is gone this weekend. :) Don't worry. He has made good choices so far, so it seems. I'm sure he will keep making good choices. And at least they wont be driving and that someone is bussing them around.
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@brendalee (6083)
• United States
1 Jun 07
First, you can never stop worrying. I am 43 and my mother still worries about me. To answer your question, yes, I would let my child go. I would want to check in with him once in awhile. It sounds like you have a very responsible son. Try not to worry too much.
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• Canada
1 Jun 07
i would not be worrie dbe glad they told you what the plan is too many do not tell parents then the parents spend a long night worring about why have they not called mine grad this month and they are going to the grad party the dry grad party the prom and ceramonies and they dry grad and they have plans for events after each of theses and have been told what went on and everything even when the police showed up and busted a few who were going a little too far with the fun.
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• United States
8 Jun 07
Ohh yess..i sure would! Hes graduated and he will be an adult soon if hes not already.And he would eventually go out at a friends and party it up anyways some other time..well depending on your child too..but they shoudl be safe and its a great vent for kids that graduated.And if you trust him i dont see why not,It sounds like you have a wonderful relationship with your son.I just hope that my 5 yr old is like that when he is older..Congrats to your son:)