The Truth Or Lies?

The truth, every time. My boyfriend has the same habit as your husband but i can always tell when he is lying. Most of the time he just "embellishes", he'll tell a story and you'll know that all the details aren't there or he's gone over the top and somethings wrong.

I am SO with you on this! If he keeps lying to you then how are you suppose to ever trust him? Regardless if it's going to make you mad he should be up front about it because you'll eventually find out and yes I would be even more outraged that he lied about it! What's more - if he knows before hand that his actions (if that's the case that is) is going to make you mad then why does he do it?

hi princeworthy! id say, were both on the same shoes! thats usually the start of every arguments me and my partner are having. the moment i find out about the truth, i get madder and when i asked him why he have to lie, he keeps telling me that he just dont want us to have an argument? i dont think thats being justified! thats whay i dont understand...and he still keeps doing it! the end thing is, its ruining my turst for him...and its now hard to fix!

I think lies are totally necessary sometimes. I don't care when people lie to me only to preserve my mood and self steam. I have those very true friends that will always tell me the truth though, but they know how to do it in a good way that won't make me sad or angry. So, I basically trust them for everything when I need some opinions.

If either way I'll end up upset, I would rather that I knew the truth outright. It makes me feel stupid to be lied to and I would most likely find it insulting. Sometimes, I think when people lie to you, they don't give you enough credit that you're mature enough to handle the situation. Also, there's something called tact and right timing to soften the blow of having to tell something that's painful to hear.

sayin truth is really hard but dont you know that every lie you said you have to make another 15 lies to cover that 1st lie..and covering another lie is creating another 15 lies and so on and so forth.. see how hard it is??? 15 lies to tell just to cover that 1 lie you said.. and another 15 lie for the 2nd lie.. TRUTH hurts, but its only for a while,,, but lies???it stays forever!! thank you and godbless

I don't like lies, nor do I lie. I rather hear the truth and deal with it. I'm with you sugar on this one.

I would be more mad, too. (yes, it is a word. Has another definition, too.) It is like he does not trust you to be mad, then get over it. I do not like lies, and the truth almost always comes out in the end. You absolutely cannot run away from it. Of course, if your husband is not listening to you, then why would he listen to me, a stranger. So you can see, I agree with you, and I understand where you are coming from.

With me, you lie, your done. end of story. I don't appreciate lies, don't put up with them, and won't stand for them, just the way it is. I don't lie to anyone else, and i expect the favor back, i get a lot angrier when someone lies to me than when they tell me the truth even if i don't want to hear it.

oh i hate that! why dont they understand that we will be double mad when we learn the truth?! 1 mad at what you werent told, 2 mad at the fact that he lied. and its usually a lie about the stupidest things! things that will have you annoyed or even aggravated but not really mad...course then you discover the truth and you get truly MAD! oh its incredibly frustrating, and makes me question them..i mean if they are lying about dumb little things, what bigger things that they KNOW we will be livid about are they hiding?! argh lol!

i am like you. i get a million times angrier if ia m lied to. Just tell me the d amnes truth in the beginning and take it like a REAL person. Sure, i might be mad, but i will be even madder when you lie and i find out later.

I hate being lied to no matter how small the lie is. Even though I may be angry about whatever the truth may be, I'll at least give someone points for having enough respect for me to tell me the truth rather than lie to my face.

The only thing is to get angry at the untruth and accept the truth or not, that is your decision and then you have to take the consequences of your decision. Does he cheat on you - acceptance does not mean letting him continue but giving him a choice. I have a question for you. How would you feel if the person told you things couched in such a way that it sounded like the truth & 15 yrs later you find out that all he told you was a lie. How do you trust anyone again? Fortunately I found someone that I can really trust - this is from the distance of 12 years.

i hate liars... once you've lied to me... i always have in my mind that you will do it again... in other words... i don't trust you anymore... i'd rather hear the truth, whatever it takes..(the pains), coz i know it will be healed... but the lies... cannot be!!!

The truth is always better. But I think there is more to the story than your husband lied, and then you punished him with your anger. I think you might benefit to try to understand the issues behind the lies. When your husband has something that should be communicated to his wife, are you willing to receive the truth with a kind and loving spirit? He will always be responsible for his lies, but when he knows that your response will be anger (which only damages the relationship), then you also share in the responsibility. I think this situation is quite common and there are lots of wives and mothers that have learned how to use anger to make others shape up. As you might suspect, it certainly is not helping your husband be the person he should be. This response may seem a little bit 'out there'. It's fine if you feel that way, but I think it is true. Hope it goes well for you and your husband. djbtol

i think people deserve to know the truth.. we can only lie so much about a thing butthe truth shall always come out and whther we learn it now or tomorrow, the hurt will never change.

there are two things in life that I hate and that is a lier and a cheater. I say that if you lie then you have to tell another lie to cover up for the first lie that you told and then that will lead to more lies.

Great question my friend and good to see you again! I hate being lied to more than anything else and my kids , as well as the other half know they will get into more trouble if they lie to me than if they just tell me the truth in the first place! The older 2 however cannot help but trying to get out of trouble by lying to me - even though they know I will be more upset!The youngest is the only one with the sense to tell me the truth straightaway! I think it is just in some peoples nature to try and put something over you rather than start trouble for thwemselves by being honest!

Yes it make me mad when people lie. When people lie about little things it make me go crazy. Beacause they have to make another lie just to get out of the one they stared Crazy!!!!!!

it is better to tell the truth and face the consequences.whethet the person will get mad or not-well, that's the consequence you have to face!at least you tell the truth!