I am getting pretty frusterated with my DH!

I suggest that when you go to the Baptism that you stay a nice long time. You take the time to enjoy yourself. There is no reason that you shouldn't. Its his turn to watch the children for a few hours while you get a break from them. When you get back and he says something to you about being gone so long I would ask him when the last time you got to get away from the children and why does he feel that it is fair for you to cut your time away short but he has an unlimited amount of time. You both deserve an equal amount of time doing something fun away from the children.

OMG, you're married to my husband! :P LOL Whenever I say I haven't gone anywhere (not including the usually errands for groceries and such) he comments and says that he hasn't either! Hmm, I beg to differ! I know he works hard and all to make ends meet, but he does get a lot more out time than I do! Okay, so we don't have 5 children (whew, how do you do it?), but we do have 2. One's special needs and the other has had health problems. A few years ago we were invited to my cousin's (the only one that lives near me) for Thanksgiving. I was SO excited to go as I hadn't seen my cousins, aunts, and uncles in quite a while and some of them have never met my husband or kids so I REALLY wanted all 4 of us to go. My husband made up a few excuses for him NOT to go (sorry, I don't remember what he said), and in the end he stayed home while I took the kids to my cousin's house. He has done this a few times when he doesn't want to go somewhere. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband, but it does irk me when he does this. By the way, when I DO go somewhere my husband has the tendency to beep me on our two way radios every so often. I don't do this when he goes out... :P

I understand what you mean. Men think that they are the kings and they can just do what they want when they want. I have been through that too. You must have it very hard with five kids and he needs to help you and give you some time out too. You need that time to renew your energy and not go crazy. I only have one son and I know even that can be enough sometimes. I am fortunate though..my boyfriend rarely goes out. Like last night he was gone...and is usually gone way too long..then he comes home and says the neighbor invited him for a drink. I was kind of upset because as usual I was doing all the work..but I thought I would just let him go. It turned out he didn't go...I think you need to talk to your hubby and make him understand that his actions are selfish and that you need time out too...and that you don't need him telling you when you should be home...

Well it sounds unfair to me- Go and have fun- Enjoy the time with your friends that you don't see often- sounds to me like you both need to get out together- Get a sitter- (might be costly for 5 kids) and go out together- DO this once a month- Everyone needs time away from their kids- Do you have family that can watch them and you guys go? If not plan a girls night out- and go out and have fun- then let him have a boys night out- It has to be fair!

I would explain to him that I keep track of how long he spends away from the children and I that he isn't at work. And that I feel it is only fair that I will be able to do the same as him. He might not like it but fair is fair and we both have earned an equal amount of time from the children as a break. Like you I very seldom get any time away from my children so I don't think that it is fair to set a time limit on me when I do so happen to get the chance. That is why I came up with this idea. I kept track for a couple of weeks and showed him how unfair he was being.

I feel for you. I dont get out at all unless it is too the store or something like that. My hubby dont go anywhere usualy either. But he does go to work which i havent been working for 6 months now so i dont get out at all. we only ever go out once a year for our aniversary. It used to be that he would go out with friends but then always ended up in some kind of trouble, so he kinna quit that. He does have a friend that lives in a different state and when he comes back i might as well not even exsist. His friend and his wife always want to go into thw town we live by and got to the Club. and they invite him and i dont know if they always assume that i cant go because of the kids but i never get asked and i get really upset cause no one even gives me chance to get someone to watch them for me. and then my hubby and i fight about it because i make him feel guilty that he is going and i am not and that i am making him look bad in front of his friends well i just dont care cause dang it i need time out too and i am his wife and they are going as a couple why cant we go as one as well. I have also heard the line dont take that long or dont be there forever or my favorite dont be di*king around. I used to let it ruin my day if i did get the chance to get out but now i just dont let it bother me and a few times he did say it i stayed out longer because he said it and i made it known that that was why i was gone longer. he doesnt say it too often anymore unless he wants to do something too that same day. I hope you do have a good time at the baptism, and tell that hubby that you will get back when you get back lol Good Luck