if you fall in love with a man ,do you care his age?

China
June 4, 2007 2:44am CST
if the man is older or younger too much than you,then do you care his age?I see and hear so many couple whose age differs too much.but for me,I can not ignore the distance of age.I will find a man who is also in my age.for an older man,I think we will not have commen topics;for younger man,I think maybe I will take care of him most in the future. then if it were you,what is your idea?
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38 responses
@smints8985 (1595)
• United States
4 Jun 07
I would have to say, if you do not like/love the person enough, you will take age as an issue. But if you feel like you have truly found your match, I believe the age issue will not be so much in the foreground of your feelings and relationship. It would not even be a topic to be discussed. You should take into consideration that not all people are the same when it comes to emotional maturity. Some women may still be considered young, in terms of age, but emotionally mature, therefore she will find older and mature men more interesting than those just around her age who she might think acts a little immature for their age. I kind of spoke for myself there. haha... The bottomline is that when you have found the one person that you could share endless conversations with, enjoy simple pleasures with and spend the rest of your life with, age will eventually fall back into the background and will barely have to be an issue.
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• China
5 Jun 07
thank you for your so long response.your words are very reasonable.I know to somebody,it is not a problem at all,I just want to know what others' thoughts on this issue.because in our tranditoinal society,age is a big problem actually.
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• United States
5 Jun 07
No problem. I respect the fact that different people have different preferences.
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• United States
5 Jun 07
I think it depends on the two people because for me and my husband he is 3 years older than me but I like it because when we got married we were both at a an age where we were ready to settle down and have our family. So it worked out for us but I think a lot of time you have to be careful on how yo fall for a person. Don't fall for a person that really isn't ready to settle down if that's what you want or vice versa. I know a lot of people this has happened to and they ended up breaking up even after marriage or a proposal.
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• China
5 Jun 07
yes,it is pitty if they end up with this end.
@aj2006 (1536)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
My husband and I for example has a 28 years gap between us, We don't care about our age difference, I believe that TRUE love is with us.. we have a one year old lovely daughter and I have 3 grown up step daughter and sons.... Our family is happy and we act as if we belong to the same age group.... I think what is important is how you communicate with each other, how you respect and love each other.. regardless of what age or status.
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• China
5 Jun 07
yes,I can imagine how happy you are from your words,and good luck!
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@bimflux (294)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
Hmmmm.... For me age is just a stupid number when it comes to relationship, so i think it doesn't matter at all. About your case, ummmm...If you prefer that you will be more comfortable having a guy younger or same age as you then i can't argue you to that because it's what you are thinking that's good for you...hehehehe... I'll just have to ask you what if there's a guy that almost all of the qualifications(physical) and the attitude got capture your let's just say your heart....ehhhhmmmmm.. What would happen? So, then when it happens that you and these guy are together and having that relationship very happy. And there you found out that his older than you ummm let's just put it 8 years gap to your age.. Haha! Will you give up the love you have? Just because of the age?
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• China
5 Jun 07
I will not give uo my love just because of age,but first,I think I can not fall in love with a man whose age has a big difference with mine.
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• India
5 Jun 07
Falling in love is a very sweet experience. Before falling in love we don't see the age of the person. It is somethng very natural. Open the wings of love & fall in love. If the person is old enough then u can share his experience of life. If he is younger to u then u can enjoy with him. He will readily agree to what u say. First u tend to get attracted to the person then gradually u fall in love with the person. It is never the love at first sight. First a person gets attracted,then falls in love. Age no bar for falling in love. Till u enjoy the company of the person don't mind what the world says. Just be with him & enjoy yourself. A feeling of satisfaction is very important, till u experience it don't mind the age.
• China
5 Jun 07
yeah,true love can surpass all.
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• Philippines
5 Jun 07
well it really depends on who your with. Younger Guys: Positive opinion:some of them grew up independently, so some young men are matured enough for their age and some more than their age. and sometimes(mostly young men do this)they like older women because they just want to have experience(you know what i mean). Negative opinion: guys are slow in maturity so guys from 17-25(mostly)are sometimes childish, not just in action but on how they think. Same-age Guys: Positive opinion:same age makes you feel you belong, you have someone who you can go with the flow of life, many similarities and your both at the same level. Negative opinion:yeah yeah there fun to be with but hey, sometimes us girls like to do or have something thats different from us so having a guy with the same age, same likes, same flow of life may sometimes be boring ang most of these relationships ends in friendship. Another opinion is that since your of the same level, you tend to compare whos the greatest between you two, this situation will result in a fight(and this always happens with people of the same age). Older Guys: Negative opinion:since they're older than you, they think they can change you make you into a better person but heres the downfall, they become controlers of your life. Another thing is they sometimes get possessive. The very thing what i also hate about some older men is that because they are older they think they know more than you do and they think they're more mature than you but dont let these get to you ladies, some men think this way but if you analize why they are doing this, it is because of their EGO(pride i think. damn that pride!!) and that they think they're superior but as a matter of fact they're just childish in thinking and not mature enough for the likes of you(promise in this one, this is true ;P). Positive opinion:older men(some of them) are mature and some(yes some) knows already how to handle a relationship. caring, mature and they love to teach(;P). you can learn so much and your maturity level can jive with their level of maturity(again promise on this one, its true ;P)because we ladies mature faster and earlier than men. remember the saying sa opposites attract? well immature people will learn quickly if they have someone who is mature. ^_^ like student and teacher but in an intimate way. ^_^ so take your pick. ^_^ young, same age, or older, it really depends if he can jive with your flow, but its still your decision and on how you will handle your relationship.
• China
5 Jun 07
thank you very much for your concret adivice.as long as you love the man,then others does not matter.
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@jengrin (947)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
Well for me age is not important as long as I really love the guy then I don't care how old he is or even how he looks like. In fact I like matured guys than those guys who are too young from me. older guys are very caring and sweet. They are also responsible person. Some young guys are childish.
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• China
5 Jun 07
you are right,sometimes ,I feel my boyfriend a little childish,but me too.
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@youless (84724)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Jun 07
I think I won't fall in love with a man who is older than me 10 years. Even if he is younger than me, it's not possible, too. There will be a generation gap and it may lead to many diagreements to many issues. Older than me 2--5 years will be ideal.
• China
5 Jun 07
haha,I heard that every three years there is a generation gap.
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@pitman (4)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
i dont care if the girl im inlove with is younger or older than me. there are people that thinks maturely than their age and vice versa. i guess the thing you should be looking at is whether he/she thinks as an adult. if you are worried that an older guy wont have common topics/interest like you do then you should explain to him what you like so he could understand and go level with you. if he doesnt then there is a problem. in relationship there should always be two ways. i mean give and take. thats how relationship works. age doesnt have anything to do with this.
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• China
5 Jun 07
actually,age is not the only standard to see if a man is mature,even though he is younger,but maybe it is he take care of you in the future.
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@navtech (1776)
• India
4 Jun 07
It is better to get married with a man who is of the same age or should be older within 5 years. In case you marry younger man than your age, compatiability may not be same. Of course in come cases it is O.K. not in all cases. My opinion is girl should be younger than the man she marries.
• China
5 Jun 07
my opinion is the same ,but I do the contrary.
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• China
4 Jun 07
and i think i will take it to heart. i care it ,i don't want him to be younger than me ,i think i can not feel safe.hahah.. so ,i prefer someone older than me ,but can not be much older .3-6years older ,i can accept . that is my opinion thank you for asking.,
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• China
5 Jun 07
thank you for your response too.here in our country China,my parents always tell me that marrying an older man is good because he can take good care of me,but now my boyfriend is younger than me by one year.
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• United States
4 Jun 07
Age difference is a factor as you get more involved in the relationship and you start to deal with common interests including music, hobbies and people you like to hang out with, if you are dating someone considerable older than you that does not like the same music or people than you would probably have a hard continuing the relationship if these interests meant something to you in the past. It is always best to be with someone close to your age so your interests and similar interests are common.
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• China
5 Jun 07
yes,if lovers can not have a good communication,then there will be some problems.
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• Hong Kong
4 Jun 07
I don't really care that much as long as I can communicate with the person effectively. But in being physical compatable, age is surely a problem if it differs too much. And age would be a problem if the people don't walk on the same pace and want the same thing in life when they face life's difficult questions. But I do think if they truly love each other very much, they could overcome the age problem.
• China
4 Jun 07
can I say like this,if they love each other very much,then they can understand each other very much too?
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@mymytri (2032)
• India
4 Jun 07
i think 2 to 3 years between a gal and boy is ok.can be younger man or elder man.if his love is ture the girl can marry him without hesistating even he is younger.yeah i too agree same age group will have lot of common topics than the different age groups.same group people can understand feelings and emotions of same age group easily.this is common.rerely there will be good relation with different age group as we see now.so we cant ignore it.good luck for your man search.i wish you will get him soon
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• China
4 Jun 07
I know the famous example is yangzhenning and wengfan
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@hmike_d (1529)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
It is always good to look at the feelings of each other. If both of you knows and feel that you're in love with each other then its the best way. It is in such a way that an unconditional love can't really be told to choose. Let it choose and decide for itself and you'll be more happier. Age really dont matter.
• China
4 Jun 07
I know if two persons love each other truely,then their love will surpass all.
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@ESKARENA1 (18304)
4 Jun 07
age to me is not an issue in a relationship unless one of the partners is very very young. I think there is something slightly wrong with a tennage girl being with a man in his middle age or older, but other than that, no problems at all blessed be
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• China
4 Jun 07
yes,I just feel it some strange for this condition,I just want to know how they get along with each other.
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@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
4 Jun 07
For me,it has to fall 5 years earlier, or later. anything older, or younger is just sick, I think!
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
Hi Teresa, that makes the two of us.I am the younger one...but hey, we are co-equals.Love knows no BOUNDRIES, we are the living testimony of "LOVE CONQUERS ALL".I don't mind people labelling us, if it is a SIN to love a person older than I am...I wouldn't hesitate I will keep on sinning to show to the world that I am truly in LOVE.TRUE LOVE is MAGIC and even age doesnt recognize it.
• United States
5 Jun 07
age also matters in my decision.. because two people in the same age have same ideas ...so if they love each other they can understand well n life their life happily.. ofcourse there are some people whose their ages are different..
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
Age for me doesn't matter at all when it comes to love someone. Loving someone does not looking any hindrances to give love it's best way and to show it's genuisity towards one another.
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@happymom1 (1179)
• United States
5 Jun 07
It doesnt matter to me if the age gap is not match to me as long as i love him. My husband and i have vey long gap but i accept him as what he is and i love him. Thats your choice and it is good.
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