would it bother you if you earn more money than your man?

Philippines
June 4, 2007 9:07pm CST
Yes, I dont want to feel like he's not doing enough for us or worry that he might become insecure about our financial situation. How can I xpect him to take care of me if he doesn't earn as much as I do?
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• United States
5 Jun 07
No, I can truly say that it would not bother me, because until the last two years, I have always made more than my husband. Plus, there was a period of 18 months that he did not work and I worked 2 jobs. But, he did the things that needed to be done at home, cooking, cleaning, and all that good stuff. That was probably the greatest part of it! But, I know that it seems that the man should always be the biggest breadwinner in the family, that is just society. There was a time long ago when women did not work at all outside the home, just the men. I think as long as it does not cause a problem in your relationship, it is fine.
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• Philippines
5 Jun 07
just as long as he's not a big couch potatoe and he has a determination its ok :), men really had it a long time ago women are treated like queens and princesses back then .. but as time goes by things really change . .
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
it depends on how he is working right now. if i can see that he is already trying his best and that he doesn't have any problem with his work it is fine with me. there are instances that no matter how hard working a person is, s/he is not well compensated for it. the money that i will be earning is for our family. it doesn't worry me on who gets to give more as long as we are both sharing in the finances.
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• Philippines
5 Jun 07
the important thing is neither one of you "just receives" its better when you both share and neither one of you just benefits from others salary
@kelly60 (4550)
• United States
5 Jun 07
It would not bother me as long as he were at least doing something to contribute toward the household. I have always been the breadwinner in my household, and was only unhappy doing so when my ex decided to take advantage of it.
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
oh poor thing . . guys like that aren't really worth it . . i know a friend of mine who has a girlfriend outside the Philippines and she's working (i forgot her work but it involves households) and to think the girl is working hard .. she even gave the guy some money to go to school but the guy just cashed it all in and just left the girl thinking he's going to school really i got sick of my friend when i found out that he spent some money on some girl. to think the girl gave his bf some money and the guy treats another girl?! its like she's paying him to see another girl. damn it i really hate guys like that
@kelly60 (4550)
• United States
5 Jun 07
That is just awful. I can't stand guys like that either. Like I said, I didn't mind earning the majority of the income in our home, but when I paid all of the bills and he spent his check on whatever he wanted, it got old really fast.
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
hehe didn't quite took long for you to find out ei?! so how are you doing so far?! hope you don't have to go through that anymore.
@itkasp (266)
• Australia
5 Jun 07
No, it would not bother me at all. Actually, 2 years ago, I was the breadwinner in the family, while my husband was looking for a job. He stayed at home and looking after the house (cooking, cleaning, etc). For me, what matter is that, although he did not work, he could still be the man I could respect and look up into. He could still take care of me by supporting me spiritually.
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
yes if they lack in some things they should make up for it .. its good he guided you spiritually to make yourself be a better person
@happymom1 (1179)
• United States
5 Jun 07
I think it will not bother me especially he do everything but still not enough money than myself. Just the matter of helping each other.
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
helping each other while making each other happy
@maean_19 (4663)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
Am not bothered if i earn much than my partner. What bothers me if he does not earn anything. lol...
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
yes your so right . . both of you must earn even if you have a higher salary so what as long as he is working hard and showing you that he cares and he is not just a slack off jerk