Do you consider yourself attractive enough to attract others?
By dpk262006
@dpk262006 (58675)
Delhi, India
June 4, 2007 11:18pm CST
Do you consider that you are attractive enough and people turn their head to see you. You may consider yourself physically attractive or you may feel that your voice, diction and style of narration is such that people get attracted towards you. What makes you think that you can attract others...such as your behaviour, nice manners, etiquetes, your politeness....etc.
Please share your thoughts and expereinces with me.
Thanks
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25 responses
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
no, i don't consider myself and don't know how to attract people either.
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@jlara_gtr34 (3491)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
hi there! :)
hmm, its not that im bragging, but yes.
i think i am attractive enough to attract other people because:
i have inherited my mom's typical asian look.
you know, the tall and thin girl, with very fair skin, long black hair kind of stuff. lolz. ;0
i think i attract people physically,
but i dont really make a big deal out of it since i know a lot of girls are prettier than me. ;0 and pretty in their own way. ;)
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@subathra (3519)
• India
10 Jun 07
To some extent i have attracted people because iam blessed with so many good friends because of this.People take a look at me to see my long hair most times.If iam talking over the phone , many says my voice is good...
Then i behave with manners with friends and strangers which has always earned good name among them.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
12 Jun 07
Suba, even if you do not explain...I can make out that your attract others. You are polite, well-mannered and courteous. You know how to befriend others.
Thanks for sharing your views.
Have a Nice Day!
dpk
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Jun 07
Suba, it is my pleasure. I also feel honoured and humbled to have you as my dear friend.
Have a Nice Day!
dpk
@san_here (207)
• India
5 Jun 07
i believe my appearence attract others,
and i think everyone should feel like that because this is the way to build up self confidence, and it's not how you look like but how you present yourself before people is wat attracts them,
for examples , some television jockeys , when they come for the first time, may not seem that much attractive, but through their character they attract us , then we start to see the beauty in them,
so present yourself better,
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@Candid_Ishida (659)
• United States
5 Jun 07
I think I may be considered attractive by others, but I am self conscious because I don't think I would be attracted to myself if I were someone else. I don't meet my own standards. As for people who have hinted they find me attractive, I think it is mostly based on looks because I don't have very good social skills. I'm bad at meeting new people, for instance. Also I guess I'm kind of overly polite to strangers so people might also like that?
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@Malyck (3425)
• Australia
3 Sep 07
I'm so pleased to see that you have addressed most (if not all) of the factors that contribute to someone's attraction/appeal to others, not just appearance.
Personally, I know that I don't have the 'look' or opinions that are for everyone, but I definitely think that I am a good looking young lady with 'soothing voice' (according to my family, friends and partner), and I am very pleased with myself and my qualities.
I would definitely say that my confidence, happiness, personality traits and looks attract others to me =D
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
10 Sep 07
Thanks for showing a positive attitude towards yourself, it really helps and I can vouch for you that you definitely attract others, I believe that you have certain qualities in you, that others will get attracted towards you and this will help you in the long run.
Have a nice day!
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
7 Jun 07
let me think deepak. well, i donot think i am attractive if physical perspective or may be to a few only, who take all girls as beautiful. LOL...so, there's not much credit to be in their good books.
i am short, fattish, my face covered with scars from pimples leftovers, a big forehead, my eyes are dysfunctional (i wear specs), my nose requires serious makeover. so, as you can see, i am not atall atractive. again, i have soft voice, i can't sing well, i am not a spokesperson or a good talker, i talk real less...i can go on and on.
yet, i believe, i am beautiful. i am good daughter, a good sister, a good friend, a good workman....above all i am good human being, i try to bring smile to some unfamously lips, i try to help some crippled, frail hands cross the roads, i help someone learn alphabets....and i feel i am beautiful, i am attractive, i am desrved. i love being beautiful all the time. the struggle continues each day, it will continue life long.
and i know you are beautiful aswell, both from without and within.
thanx deepak.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
8 Jun 07
Mimpi, this issue has already been discussed - what is more important...outer beauty or inner beauty (by us in different discussions)?
The point here in this discussion was - do you consider yourself attractive so as to attract others? Why did you metnion that you consider youself not attrative physically?? (Does it matter....not at all to me atleast)
I firmly believe, it is your kind gestures, sweet nature, positive appraoch and helping attitude that is more important than anything else. If you help others (without any selfish motive) do not you think that others will feel obliged and get attracted towards you?
Is it not more imporant to be a good daughter, a good sister and a sincere worker ?
If you have humble and modest nature and you know how to help others when they are in need.....nothing greater than that!
You very well know how to appreciate good efforts, how to appreciate others (e.g. me)...is it not a superlative quality...which will attract others towards you?
You are exceptional person and I firmly believe that it is hard to find a sweet and kind Person (friend and well-wisher) like you. When I say this...I mean it.
deepak
@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
5 Jun 07
No I do not consider myself attractive enough to attract others and don't beleive that one who didn't know me would even glance back . I am actually hard to get to know just because I am shy and quiet . Although I am not as quiet as I was when I was younge I am still not one that others would run to , to have a conversatioin with . I looked better once upon a time before I had my children but having my children took a lot our of me and I am always amazed when others say something nice about me . I have a poor sence of self esteem about myself and even though I realize this , it still doesn't change how I feel about myself .
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Jun 07
I can bet you do have many qualities and traits which can make others attract towards you.
Thanks for sharing your innermost thoughts.
deepak
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
7 Jun 07
In my younger days maybe, because I was a lot slimmer and dressed according to the latest fashion but nowadays after being married and having a child, I don't think i turn heads at all, but thats fine with me because I only have to turn my husbands head LOL
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@dazeylaze (256)
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5 Jun 07
I think I am attractive sometimes, like when I make an effort, but not when I wake up in the morning, all dishevelled looking, lol (I wouldn't wish me on anyone). But it's weird because you never know who will find you attractive, and who your looks appeal to. I've had really attractive guys fancy me, and for a minute it's confusing, lol.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
8 Jun 07
Believe yourself and me also...you are attractive...I can bet.
@gorgeousbevs (75)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
Im attractive in my own way... ^^
One's personality is such a big factor of being attractive.. Not all could be physically attractive neither attractive with their behavior...but we can all improve on which side we are poor.. ^^
@afeienglish (14)
• China
5 Jun 07
I am attractive to others in myself curious,I have many friends and I favorite making friends with any people expecially ones who live in different circumstances and background.I don't know what effects my outlooks make,some people looks me handsome,and some are not.But one thing is definitive,I'm optimistic,and sincerely to my friends,we are happy together.That's enough,isn't?
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@Jessem (372)
• Mauritius
5 Jun 07
it is a bitter truth but ive to admit it that im not handsome at all. Im the invisible man and everybody just ignore me as if i dont exist. At times i wonder if i do really exist. I have no friends and no girlfriend. I cant befriend people easily and i dont know why? Probably because of my ugliness they are scared of me. Many times ive tried to talk politely, softly and share my opinion with them but all seem not interested in me and my thoughts. I think im unattractive in all angles. Can someone now say that he is more unattractive than me? If yes,this will certainly console me......
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Jun 07
Jessem, our friends- 'makingpots' and 'dazeylaze' have really posted very encouraging and wonderful thoughts to boost your morale and pep you up.
Thanks for your response.
Thanks to dear 'makingpots' and 'dezeylaze' also for making this discussion more lively and useful with their intelligent thoughts.
deepak
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
5 Jun 07
I bet you are not as unattractive as you believe you are. But if you really feel that way, it might explain why people don't respond to you when you try to talk. It is hard to talk to and show interest in someone who completely does not believe in themselves. Are you the type who will reject anything positive that someone says to you?
@atif_shahzad1 (139)
• Pakistan
5 Jun 07
This is very important issue i think to be successful in the world. And some time u can get more than u deserve because of ue style and personality. So it is so important to be succeed in the world
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@golfproo (1839)
• Canada
5 Jun 07
I think a person's confidence is what attracts others to them. I am (not bragging) a fairly good looking 40 year old. However, I have basically zero self esteem due to a lot of things happening in my personal life. If people are attracted to me for my looks, that will soon disappear as soon as they start talking to me :) Shyness is a curse. Thank goodness for the internet and places like mylot.
cheers,
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@sandeep_t (428)
• India
5 Jun 07
I wear a gold ring. One of the philosopher or god "saibaba" is imprinted on that.My grandma presented it.
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@earningemoney (106)
• India
5 Jun 07
Beauty is something GOD gifted. Yes, I think I am good looking that people turn their heads once to see me. I don't mean that I am any beauty queen.But I know how to carry myself. I go to beauty saloons regularly wear treandy clothes. Wearing expensive clothes is no beauty. I am beautiful from inside. I mean I am true to myself, no double standards.Polite in talking & above all good etiquettes that matters.A GOD fearing person. Physical appearance & inner beauty go hand in hand to make u a complete person.
@mistero654 (54)
• Italy
5 Jun 07
i'm absolutely not this kind of person,at all...i think that in my whole life(i'm 26 now)maybe 1 or 2 girls turned back to look at me.my girfriend,just some days before we decided do be definitively toghether,told me that she would never turn back to look at me,even if she likes my way to behave and to talk to her
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