"Mom I'm friends with a horrible person"

I couldn't think of a better way to handle the situation than you did. Good on you. I take the stance of pro-choice. Termination is a serious decision and should be avoided at all costs (via contraception etc), but sometimes it CAN be the right thing to do.

I would have dealt with it exactly the same way as you did. People are very quick to judge what someone else does without knowing any or all of the extenuating circumstances. All they see is the deed, not the events leading up to it. It's important to have all the facts before making a snap judgement and even then you can't ever know how a person was feeling at that time until you have gone through a similar experience.

I don't think I could've handled the situation any better. This is a topic with a lot of gray area, so like you said it's a very sensitive topic. I'm pregnant with my 3rd baby, and I'm 8 months along and it's my second baby I've had complications with. My other complicated pregnancy was due to health problems with my baby. This time around the complications involve improper healing & lack of healing time after an emergency c-section (2 months prior to this pregnancy). But some women choose to continue regardless of the risks & others choose not to play russian rulet with their lives.

Are you able to talk to this young woman? Assuming she had her abortion here in the US, in a clean & safe setting there's no reason to think her miscarriage is related to her termination (except possibly physcologically- which is just as real of a cause & perhaps she should speak to a therapist) but physically there should not be any reason she can not carry a pregnancy. Miscarriages are very common, have many causes but previous terminations isn't truly one of them. As to the question. If my daughter had an unplanned pregnancy, I'd support her choice (any choice) no matter what. I would no more force her to terminate than I would force her to have it. Those are her decisions to make and it's my job as her mother just to be there for her regardless. If it was my daughter's friend & this had already happened to her, I'd strongly encourage her to seek out a therapist. Her father forcing her to terminate, even if he thought he was doing the right thing, was not right. If her relationship with her father is to be salvaged and if her feelings about herself are to improve, she's going to need help working through this.

Abortion is illegal in some places and legal in others. There are moral and ethical debates still ongoing on this issue. It is difficult for the parents to tell their children what to do. If the proper support will not be there in the future, is abortion right? What is right what is wrong? It is difficult for us to make a decision and unreasonable to judge others who do.

i think it is hard to handle this situation, it is painful to get through this for that girl,but no one was rigth ro wrong ,just face the truth.