What's your childhood frustration?

@steney (1418)
Philippines
June 6, 2007 11:55am CST
I remember myself when I was young, I loved to sing and dance a lot but never had formal training or lessons to pursue those. Not that my parents didn't encourage me to do what I like, they did, but didn't really feel the need for me to take proper lessons that time. That's what I consider my childhood frustration. I keep on wondering, had I taken those lessons, will I be a professional singer by now? Right now with my 5 year old, I try my best to support her talent. I'd like her to make the best of what she likes and enjoys. Who knows? It could even be instrumental in her success in the future. How about you? What was your childhood frustration?
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
Singing and dancing too were my childhood frustration. When I dance and sing my parents would laugh at me and I kind of thought that I was so bad. But in high school I got the courage to try out for dancing and I was so surprised that I got accepted. We won a Gold for the pop jazz dance competition and since then I believe that I could really dance. As to singing, I thought I was so bad too but I kinda wondered why a passed my music classes and a number of people had commented that I have a good voice though tone deaf. he he he! Anyways, now I sing to my hearts content with the advent of karaoke. I just love it!
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
it will be good if you take some measures by yourself towards the development and furtherance of your talents. good for you that it is not yet too late for that. go ahead while you have the time for it.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
We really take our parents opinions/comments by heart and it's somewhat instrumental in our success and failures in life. Great that you realized your true potential through that competition. It does wonders for our self confidence when we get recognized for our talents. Thanks for sharing! :)
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@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
hi there steney, im a singer and a voice coach too but my frustration as a child is to be a volley ball player. i really envy my friends and classmates who are great in this kind os sport.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
13 Jun 07
I, on the other hand is not into sports and would love to be a professional singer. I think you can still pursue your passion. Volleyball is a great sport. I enjoyed it for a while in high school. :)
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
13 Jun 07
well i dont think so im 36 already and turning one year older next month i dont think i can still persue that. and being a single mom who works for the money i dont have also enough time to play that sport
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
13 Jun 07
I'm a single mom too, 34, and just as busy as you are. But the good thing is, I can pursue my current passion now which is doing digital designs and layouts, in the comfort of my home. I understand that with sports you need to schedule your time, go out and practice often so it's not that easy.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
i always wanted to be a bellet dancer..too bad i grew up in a place where theres no ballet lessons, so i wasnt able to live that dream...but i was able to practice a little though during highschool when i joined the dance troupe...at least its close to being a ballet dancer..lols!
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
It's cool that you're okay with it. Thanks for sharing! :)
• Nigeria
7 Jun 07
when i was a kid i was very quiet, so people took me for granted, laughed and made fun of me. what made it worse was that i couldnt discuss about my parents cos they had a problem with each other.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
It must be hard for you then, not being able to tell your parents about how you feel. But you can turn that experience into a positive one by proving that you are someone who shouldn't be taken for granted and laughed at. Make the most of what you have and be the best you can be. Thanks for sharing. :)
• India
7 Jun 07
I was very good in studies. I scored good marks in school & i wanted to move out of town for my further studies.My parents never allowed me to go out of the town. I had to stay there & study further.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
Thanks for sharing! :)
• Japan
7 Jun 07
i cant really forget my childhood frustration...grrr. want to know what is it? when i didnt qualified for the school cheerdance team. til now its my frustation coz since it happened i was discouraged to join any dance organization. it really sucks!! i know i tried my best with it. i really didnt know the reason why they want me to quit and they didnt realized that i already practicing for about 2 months. til now!! i hate to rmember it!! honestly im pretty and a good dancer too. i have the face value.i just really dont know why it happened.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
That's really something to be disappointed about especially if you know you did your best that time. But try to heal your emotions and take on new challenges. Let your experience guide you into striving to get better opportunities. Don't let it stop you from shining if you have all the potential. Good luck anf thanks for sharing! :)
@tater03 (1765)
• United States
6 Jun 07
I don't know if it is a frustration more than of a regret. I wish I would have pursued gymnastics more than I did. I feel that I had a lot of potential.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
That would have been great. Thanks for sharing! :)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
until now, i have not gotten over the frustration that i have not become a medical doctor. i took up a bachelors of arts degree major in english for a preparatory course. when i finished it, i did not get the support of my parents. instead, my mother insisted that i take up civil engineering. she was envious of the civil engineer friends of the family which are doing good financially. she forgot to consider that they were males and that i am a female. when i got my job, they were all confined to office work. until now, my frustration is still very much alive and kicking.
@steney (1418)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
It's really hard when parents choose careers for their children. My sister wanted to become a doctor then after finishing her medical technology course in college, but we were financially uptight that time. But it turned out pretty well for her because she worked for an international airline as a flight attendant. She traveled around the world and the job was financially rewarding too. She was happy. Sometimes we can just overcome our frustrations if our children are willing to pursue something we once loved. But then again, we wouldn't want to force them into taking it just because we wanted to, or the cycle continues. Thanks so much for sharing! :)
@5000ml (1923)
• Belgium
6 Jun 07
My childhood frustration is that I didn't go on with acting, singing and especially dancing. I had formal dance lessons for years, but once I reached my teens I just stopped them and I really regret that as I wasn't bad.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
Good you had formal training. Don't you want to continue those passions? I believe no one is too young or too old to pursue what they love. Thanks for sharing! :)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
we are almost the same steney. I was a frustrated singer infact. My mom would join me to singing contests and I do win . of course there are losses but only a few. When I was on my teen age I joined a band. I was the only female vocalist. we had a lot of practice. Then one day a promoter contracted us to sing in Japan. So we made a lot of practice and preparation. almost day and night except when I have clesses, I always go to our studio to practice with my co-band members. When we are almost ready, I asked money from my dad to take care of my passport. But I got the shock of my life when at the last moment , he asked m not to go. he asked me one question which changed everything in my life: CHOOSE BETWEEN MY finishing my course OR SINGING. After several explanation from my dad, I was forced to choose EDUCATION. tHE BAND GOT ANOTHER FEMALE VOCALIST TO TAKE MY PLACE. It was truly heartbreaking! FROM THEN ON, I HATE TO SEE NEITHER LISTEN TO A BAND. But I never regret choosing my education. Here I am a successful professional.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
It's hard to choose between what you truly love and what you must do. I think you made a wise decision to choose education. The entertainment industry is not stable, and it's really best to be educated and get a job anytime in case the first one doesn't work out. I believe it's not too late to pursue a passion. I may not be a professional singer now, but I sing to my heart's content and never stop till the videoke turns hot! lol. Kidding aside, I think we can still do what we love and be happy and fulfilled with it. Thanks for sharing! :)
@abrarr (1246)
• Pakistan
7 Jun 07
same is case with me. my mother never tries to help me walk on the path of life, but i have taken up the decision taht i have to walk over it all by myself and i'll face every thing and take credit of every good or bad thing that happens to me!!
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
Yes, we make our own destiny and we are responsible for whatever decisions we make in life. Thanks for sharing. :)
@laiyongjun (1336)
• China
7 Jun 07
hi, teney,good afternoon.i am so interested in this discussion.what is my childhood frustration? hehe,i should talk about it. i remember when i was a child and studyed in a special primary school in my hometown.at that time, i was a best boy in my class, even each time i could get high mark of math,chinese language, and so on. but i just get a arverage smrk of english because my english teacher prounced was bad and often didn't pay attention to us.one day, he told my father that i was not good at english no matter how hard i try because of i born to be not good at english. oh, what a day!he told my father such thing.i felt a frustration at that time.but after then, my father told me:"son, i believe in you.if you have ability and confidence, you will be successful." hehe, i have a good father, therefore i am studying in university and major in teaching english now.hehe. everything is fine now.hehe. thank you for your topic.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
Thanks for sharing that inspiring success story. :) Most of the time we need to fail at some point in order to strive for success in our goals. Your father believed in you and was instrumental in your success. I strongly encourage parents to support their children to be the best in whatever they do no matter what others think of them. Have a great day!