When they don't look the same

@lillake (1634)
United States
June 6, 2007 11:05pm CST
How much of your relationship is tied to how your partner looks? If he or she were to make a huge change in their appearance would you be upset? Do you think yuou should have some say because your attration of your partner could chage? Or do you think it is none of your business how they choose to look?
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@eden32 (3976)
• United States
7 Jun 07
When my now ex & I first started dating, he had beautiful long hair. After our second or third date he had a horrible mishap at the salon & ended up a MESS. He was dying his hair, and straightening it & doing all sorts of crazy stuff to it, and it was just fried. So he cut quite a bit off and just didn't look the same at all. I seriously considered not dating him anymore because he looked so goofy. He started wearing hats until it grew out, and we continued dating and eventually had two children together, so I am glad I opted not to be so attached to how he looked. I think now I would encourage my partner to stay with styles that I knew looked great on him. But if he really wanted to do something that I didn't think would be flattering, I'd keep the opinion to myself. It's his hair/body/style and he has the right to make those choices for himself.
@jolenegreen (1209)
• United States
7 Jun 07
uhhh...Ive seen my partner change his looks in sooo many ways, LOL. When I first met him, lol...he had long hair and was pretty overwieght. Then he shaved his head and got really skinny. THEN......he wore a stupid bandana (white one) over his head to immitate some stupid rapper he had been listening too, LOL. Now he is just perfect! LOL. But I think if he were too drag out that HIDIOUS bandana again....I might have a word or 2 to say.
• United States
7 Jun 07
I think it's important as a couple to do your best to be attractive for the other person. I don't mean you have to wear make-up all the time, ect. But I think either of you are going to do something dramatic to change your appearance then you should consult your love. If it's extremely important to you then the other should understand. For instance...my hubby at one time wanted to get one of his arms almost sleeved in tattoos. Now I don't like that. I don't mind tattoos but I like them spread out a bit. He's got three - one on each arm at the top and one on his forearm. That's fine but I don't like the sleeved thing for myself. So he decided against it. He was going to get the ones he wanted in other places of his body but some where along the line he just lost interest in getting them.