do u think it is good that a woman takes up a job???

@swasti (1157)
India
June 7, 2007 5:49am CST
is it right for a woman to take upa job , when she has got to care for her home. for a man taking upa job..he has to look after the financial needs alone...whereas for a woman it si not so...she has to strike a balance between work a nd home. i feel a working woman is in a pitiable position. if there is a need for money then its fine...in case it is not so...a working woman tries to take up too many responsibilities....and the result is that she cannot take care of the family well and cannot concentrate on children's wellbeing. so do u think it is important for a woman to be at home and take care of the kids????
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• India
7 Aug 07
For me a woman should take up a job for the following reasons: § There is no logic why a perfectly educated and capable human being should live like a parasite on another human being. § Its an insult to the parents who spend their time, money & dreams on bringing up their daughters. § Children of working moms have better respect for women in general. § How can you nag your husband for anything and everything and be told that “not this month, next month maybe” every single time? C’mon where’s your self-respect! § Earning gives women economic freedom and the choice to help ailing and needy parents, who have done so much for her. § Earning gives women freedom to invest in her child’s future and from there comes a different kind of dignity, like yes I have something to give my child (apart from childhood memories). § In today’s world when money is so expensive, it’s a crime to depend on your life-partner and make him slog alone throughout the better part of his life. If not a full-time job, women should always try and contribute to the family kitty in whatever way she can. Regarding balancing job & home, many facilities have come up and women are availing of them to make life smoother. Also men have changed their outlook and help at home whenever possible. And tell me, how many stay-at-home moms actually teach their children themselves? They all send their kids to ‘private tuitions’…its become almost a fashion now. So if you work, you can hire better teachers for your kids. One problem though, is where do the kids stay till parents come home? Crèches have come up, but they are few and far between. Paid ayahs (though expensive) are still the best option.
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@swasti (1157)
• India
7 Aug 07
hey u have bought out very well all the points i have thought in a very clear manner. i too had same reasons , but also had some confusions.
• India
8 Aug 07
glad to be of any help. But ultimately you will have to discuss with you family and listen to your inner self. Keep writing.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
8 Aug 07
Sudipta, An excellent and thorough reply, I am really impressed with your thoughts (just chanced upon to see this discussion). Full marks (yours has already been selected as best response). dpk
@RAPAZ68 (185)
4 Aug 07
Yes, I think it is important for some women, but you should fnd the answer to this in yourself, what does it really make you happy? Being a full time mother and wife is also importnant. On the other side, do not you think that may be you would gain more independence if you had your job?
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@swasti (1157)
• India
6 Aug 07
yeah this is the problem i have. on 1 side is my family and on the other is my personal interests. now im sacrificing my interests, but if i want to give importance to my personal interests, i will have to strive hard to create a balance between me and my family.....which is really confusing.
@sunny5u (2069)
• India
7 Jun 07
There is nothing wrong in that to do a job by women,in every field they are going front then what is there in that to do a job by the women,they have given freedom to do job.
@220870 (249)
• India
9 Jun 07
If she has support from her parents, in-laws and husband a woman can definitely take up a job. Moreover if the above mentioned relatives are willing to take care of the kids in her absence and if she is lucky with servants it becomes all the more easy to take up a job.
@kajones (18)
• Germany
7 Jun 07
I think it is more important that a family work as a unit. The mother is not the only person that the children need in their lives. Nor is she the only person who can take care of a house. Even if the need for money is not there, a woman should be able to have a job outside of the home if that is what she would like AND if he works with the family situation. I think there are women out there who need a job for the their sanity than for the money. Everyone has different emotional needs and sometimes they need to be fullfilled with a form of employment outside of the home. And having your emotional needs filled makes you a happier person, making your relationships better, making your family better and stronger!
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@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
I think the demand of money in todays life prompted both parents to work inorder to have the suitable budget they target for thei family. I see no problem for the wife to be working hand in hand with her wife inorder to support the financial needs of their children. Everything will be okay if they see to it that from time to time they need to check on to their children's well being. They need to spend time to their family while working. This is possible if you know how to balanace your schedule. I see alot of family set-ups like these and I see no problems being experienced.