how relatives deal with an alzheimer patient
By jewel102
@jewel102 (105)
United States
June 7, 2007 4:42pm CST
My mother-in-law had been diagnose with an early alzheimer. She been forget many things like when she had her insuline shot(she is diabetic too) and recently she forget where she put some money and because my sister-in-law's son stayed with her the night before, she starts accused him to steal her money. Finally she found the money but did not remember where she found it. She lives alone and doesn't want anybody like a nurse to take care of her or to be in a nursing home either. Most of the family work and can't be with her 24/7. She told my husband that anybody visits her or calls her and I told him, well if she plans accused everybody to do something to her who wants be in her house. What we can do?
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4 responses
@aretha (2538)
• United States
7 Jun 07
i have never had to deal with alzheimers but my mother did have cancer and about a month before she passed she got really bad about remembering things. about 2 weeks before she passed she would have days that she didn't even know me. i was an only child and very close to my mom so it was very hard. thankfully i had stopped working all most 2 years before when i had my first son. it gets really hard but you have to remember it is not their falt. i am sure it gonna be even harder in your case. don't they have meds to help. will see take them? i would talk to her doctor and see what the doctor has to say. good luck i hope it all works out
@jewel102 (105)
• United States
8 Jun 07
sorry about your mother, always is very hard to lost the more valuable person in our life like is the mother. This is what I tried to tell my stepsister don't take to serious what she says or her accusations because her head is not function normal. She is under medications for the alzheimer right now and my husband said that she answer very clearly all the questions the doctor asking her and unless she seems coherent we can put her in nursing home if she doesn't want, she have to agreed about it.
@tdbrower1969 (1242)
• United States
9 Jun 07
It is a tough thing to go through, my aunt has alzheimers, too. Her husband is still able to keep her at home and care for her, and the family tries to give him a break now and then. You need to have a strong family support system, to help each other through this. Plus, you have to understand that she does not really know how she is treating everyone, and it can get worse that the way she is now. I would also second the motion to contact your county authorities on aging and see what help they can offer you. Good luck, and I am sorry that you all are having to go through this. It isn't easy for anyone to deal with.
@wendy805 (261)
• China
8 Jun 07
i feel sorry for your mother-in-law.my grandmother is also sick,she always forget things nowbecause of aging problems.this year,she even forget my birthday which she never forget since i was born.this remind me that oh my grandma is old.
i understand you very much to be with people who don't feel well, it is not an easy job to take care of sick person.i hope you will be healthy anyhow.
@ungensun706 (8)
• United States
7 Jun 07
just BE THERE. SOUNDS SIMPLE, BUT THEY ARE UNDERSTANGING SOMETHING, PERHAPS WE DON'T KNOW WHAT IT IS, BUT THE BACK PART OF THE BRAIN DOES. TRY TALKING WITH YOUR AREA ON AGEING IN YOU COUNTY, THEY CAN BE OF SOME HELP. PLEASE TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF EVEN IF IT IS ONLY A FEW HOURS.
YOU DESERVE IT. BLESS YOU, MITZI
