how to say NO to a persistent suitor?

@jbelle (913)
Philippines
June 7, 2007 9:23pm CST
what do you do when a guy keeps bugging you to go out or bombarding you "what you doing?" texts? not to offend him and to avoid embarrasment? i know its not easy telling someone you don't like. i don't also want to use him as an ego boost just because i want someone running after me? what should i do?
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@huilee (1010)
• Singapore
8 Jun 07
I guess thats really a tough one.. But nowadays, i seldom see such persistant suitor, or at least it doesnt happens to me, unless im single... If not, they will buzz of themselves upon knowing im attached... Keke... How the reality works ya... Perhaps u can hint them? If not, ignore the text msgs? I guess worse to worse, u gotta let them noe that u r not interested instead of them thinking that u are shy or that they stand a chance? I mean yah, we should be tactful so as not to hurt others too, right? Karma does happens and we wouldnt want such hurting things to happen on us too, dont we? Try talking to him... But i guess if u tell him, i really treat u as a friend, or even brother, they will get the hint.. if not, tell them.. U are really nice, but we are not that suitable? =) Very cliche lines...
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@jbelle (913)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
yeah, thanks i dont want to hurt someone feelings for all i know he might just really enjoy my company... right? Ü
@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
8 Jun 07
Some days ago i posted similar discussions about undesired flirts and how to refuse them without to hurt. One inteligent person can allways make the difference between persistency and intrusion.In fact he intruses you.And sometimes our politeness makes people like this to misunderstand you, to keep false hopes that something will change. It`s better to be frank. Not to be rude, just to be frank and to tell him that his behavior is not desired.
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@jbelle (913)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
so you mean honesty is the best policy?
@tamskie (388)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
Tell him that "if you really love me then you should wait".
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@jbelle (913)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
but he is too persistent?! like he is always asking me out? i want to make sure if he'd like me more than a friend...