My friend or foe?

Ex gf or me? - Will he choose his ex or me? Who?
@huilee (1005)
Singapore
June 7, 2007 11:12pm CST
I guess this did happened to me and it happened pretty lotsa times... The first time it happened, it was my junior from school that tried hitting my guy back then,they got to know each other in a club and started hanging out and then, the girl told him shes interested in my guy... =( N now, its happening to my guy again... Hmm, its a different guy.. My bf's ex and him are still considered friends and quite close in fact... Now, i knoe that the girl is still interested in my guy and is asking for a patch... What should i do? Should i fake ignorance? or should i find that girl to talk it out? I dun wanna act all barbaric and besides if my bf was to find out, he will sure be mad at me for not trusting him and being so ignorant... Im insecure and scared to lose him... But its hard to pretend nothing happened.... What should i do? In actual fact, the girl has been emailing my guy and asking him to break up with me, i really dunno how i should react... Except to take it like i dun care... But actually i do care...
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3 responses
daveisdavid
@daveisdavid (878)
• Singapore
8 Jun 07
You might wanna talk to your bf about it. If you act like you don't care, he might misunderstood.
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daveisdavid
@daveisdavid (878)
• Singapore
8 Jun 07
Did your bf show any signs of him preferring his ex gf than you? If no, you should trust your bf and stop worrying. If he prefers his ex gf, you'll need to decide what you should do.
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huilee
@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
15 Jun 07
Yesh, i get ur point.. We have talked and understand each others thoughts and thinking.. Thus we dun have to worry anymore.. I guess hes right, whats important is us, not the others.. .Why care about the others...
huilee
@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
8 Jun 07
I dun wanna act like i dun care, because i care... I care hell lotsa... But i dunno how to react to such situations.. I can blabber and makes things real bad, i dun wan... Thus i choose to keep quiet... i told him before too... I care but just tt i dunno how to react to this kind of situations...
nikko84111
@nikko84111 (368)
• China
8 Jun 07
oh~~you are suffering something from your bf and that girl.i think the only thing you can do now is to trust your bf bacause your bf choose you but that girl. that means he love you more than that girl. i think why he will go out with her is he still remember something happened between he and that girl, you know no one can totally forget everything happened .but will he break up with you and be with that girl is not confirmed.but i think you should trust him,or you will let him feel disappointed and go with that girl,you will fail in the very begining.
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huilee
@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
8 Jun 07
Thanks for replying... Yah, i am indeed suffering, i admit i have nightmares coz of her too... Yah, my bf choose me... Me and my bf are person who never looks back... Even if he breaks up with me because of a girl, its gonna be someone new and not someone old... Yah, he told the girl he misses her, but as friends and i think thats why the girl misunderstood... My bf didnt went out with the girl, is just that the girl keeps insisting them to meet up and have a chat and have times of the past... Woman can be real scary if they want too... Sigh... =[
sharine1984
@sharine1984 (3)
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11 Jun 07
No,I think you should talk with your bf,for instance at least i think he shouldn't connect with that girl frequently.I think you should let him know your feeling.If you have a former bf,and you connect with him ,what about your recent bf's response. I agree that everyone has his private memroy.But ,he should also consider your feelings.becasue he is the Mr.right to have the whole life with you. And then,you should trust him!
tinamwhite
@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
8 Jun 07
Huilee, You are a sweet girl....you deserve to be happy....I do not understand why you are being so insecure....if he truly loves you...then she poses no threat...if he doesn't you are better off without him.... I would set him know that you are tired of worrying about this and just will no longer spend your time and energy doing so....I know that you will be scared...but he needs to know that you think more of yourself than to live like this...continually worried? upset? nervous? I wish you luck in whatever you decide to do...it is after all your life....take care, my friend....
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huilee
@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
8 Jun 07
Thank you, its so nice of u to reply.. Yah, i guess i deserve better then all this shite too.. But i guess it means my guy is pretty atractive too... Keke... Well, i guess im always insecure because of my failed past relationships... But my bf's a good guy, i do trust him, but hes very nice and kind hearted so yah, u never noe what might happened right? I hope i can live off better then worrying about all this nonsense and useless stuff too.. Bless me... Thank you so much! U take care too! =)