wedding without rings...

Philippines
June 8, 2007 1:44am CST
We cannot deny the fact that when deciding to get married, certain requirements need to be considered. Most of the time, a woman agrees to be tied up to a man because she follows her heart, in short she loves him. But to some extent, man marries a woman by following his head. Meaning, he is somewhat financial stable and affords to run a family and that he knows the woman could give him a good home. Sometimes, the woman or the man can be too agressive that it don't need too much time to decide for the wedding. Thanks God, there are lot of people around, like families of both sides, that lend their hands to fulfill the ceremonies. But can you just imagine a wedding without so much preparation, no witnesses, and even no wedding rings? For others, they might think it's impossible, some may think it's nonsense and some may comment it as a cool one. Well, that happened to me and my husband. Just like other girls, I also dreamed of wearing a white dress, walk in the aisle while cute children showers fresh red roses, and hear the ring of the bells signifying that today I would marry the man I love. Instead, we are married in the court without the knowledge of anyone except for the judge that wed us and the clerk who processed our document. But, I don't consider my marriage as different from the one that I've dreamed. Why? for almost eleven years, I have waited for that day. I've met my husband way back in 1997, a soulmate. He promised me everything except for marriage. I don't argue because at my young age, I follow my heart rather than my head. But I did not regret anything because my husband is almost perfect and he made his promise. We got one son that further entwined us together. However though, there are moments when I cry because I cannot own his name, good that there are existing laws that my child could follow his father's name as long as he is being recognized. The day when the right time came. He told me that we will get marry that same moment--no preparations, no invitations and no wedding rings. I could see some pain through the eyes of my husband because he promised me that he'll give me the best wedding I deserve in return for my patience of waiting for a long time. But my smiles lured such pain, for he knows I am the most happy woman ever-married. And you know people? Until now I still don't own a wedding ring, but it does not matter, for both of us know we own our hearts.
4 responses
@toe_ster (771)
• United States
8 Jun 07
Inever wanteda big wedding. I hated attention on me.I was married almost unwillingly in a quick vegas style wedding only two of my sisters there only because they were babysitting for me. I have a weddingband from it, and i never wear it. I now wish I did have a big wedding, with a dress and a reception and family and friends there. Who knows maybe we will divorce and I can try again lol. Or maybe I wll get lucky andmy husband will surpise me one day.
• Philippines
9 Jun 07
Yeah...life's full of surprises...it may not be of the same level as what we have expected, but a tingle of happiness it brought could be treasured for a lifetime...
@ctv101103 (860)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
i don't think there's anything wrong with having a long post :) anyway, that was a nice story. i'm sure it was worth all the wait even if you didn't have the wedding of your dreams. i hope you and your husband have more blissful and wonderful years together. cheers!
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
thank you very much...i guess everyone else would remember me...either a married wife without a ring..or the mylot member who posts long item for discussion...thanks again...
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@samson1967 (7422)
• India
8 Jun 07
Many many returns of the day. As a token of your love, you got a son who is more than wedding ring and gown.
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
yes...thank you...after all children are the proof that you're worth as a mother, a wife and a woman...
@Amstardam (1348)
• United States
9 Jun 07
I never dreamed of having a big wedding. I never wanted a huge white wedding dress with a trail that led down the aisle...eww. I never wanted a diamond ring...what's the big deal about them anyway? Besides EVERYONE has them. My husband and I married in Jamaica...with our photographer and butler as our witnesses!! Our rings are titanium...no diamonds...nothing "special" in the eyes of the world. But to us, it was amazing and we love our rings. I roll my eyes whenever I hear a girl brag about the ring their fiance/husband bought them...big deal. Now they'll spend the next 5 to 10 years paying that ugly rock off.