Do you ever feel a bit embarrassed when someone gives you a compliment?

@pyewacket (43903)
United States
June 8, 2007 11:38pm CST
I have no problem when people give me a compliment about say my photo work, or my writing or art, etc. etc...and not to sound ego-tistical but I know inwardly my work artistic work is good..Maybe it's because I came from a family background that just wasn't great for praise...but when a person gives me a compliment about me in general..what a nice person and friend I am--well then I feel awkward How do you handle compliments? Do you accept them easily or do you feel awkward as well?
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45 responses
• United States
9 Jun 07
No Pyewacket I don't. Like you if its a compliment about my work, or my children lets say, I am perfectly fine, but if someone says I am pretty or anything about me or my person it makes me very uncomfortable. I am not sure why that is, but I usually end up saying something stupid and unnecessary.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
9 Jun 07
I actually feel myself blushing when someone says something nice to me!! Or how about if someone compliments you on what you're wearing...my reaction is to say "OH this old thing?"
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• United States
9 Jun 07
kind of..i've met a few people when they compliment,you wonder what their real angle is. i hate to be that way,but it's true in some cases.
• United States
10 Jun 07
exactly. that's an acquired trait,unfortunetly. too many "can i get some free art" types over the years.
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
9 Jun 07
Hehehe--sounds like you have a suspicious trait there...LOL--I can see your point though..like if a person is REAL complimentary you're wondering what price you'll have to pay...like them expecting something from you..right??
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@Kowgirl (3490)
• United States
10 Jun 07
I think everyone does at some point...it's just one of those feelings we have no control over even if we don't admit it we all love it when someone pays us a compliment.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
11 Jun 07
I think inwardly we do love compliments...but it still can be embarrassing at times
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
11 Jun 07
Hello,pyewacket,i feel happy when someone give me a compliment,i will say thank you to them.Sometimes people tell me I am a nice woman,i will accept them and try to show them i am really nice.I will not feel awkward.
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
11 Jun 07
Then you have a good viewpoint of yourself--that's great!
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@irishmist (3814)
• United States
11 Jun 07
Well I'm an outgoing person, but when someone gives me a compliment. I guess I do kinda get shy and say awww, thank you. I don't really take compliments very well. Unless it comes to my cooking! When I get a compliment I really don't know how to accept it, as I don't want to say the wrong thing. I'm flattered when someone gives me a compliment , and I think I tend to blush a bit. I feel more comfortable giving them, than recieving them.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
11 Jun 07
We tend to accept compliments better at something we know we're good at, don't we? I'm a good cook too, so don't mind when I do get the nods of approval for it
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@jepox84 (53)
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
Some people tend to be ambiguous. Some saying things they don't really mean. Others do it to mislead you and think of you as a fool if you believe them so they can feel better about themselves, thinking their the better man. Others do it just to get attention, expecting a compliment in return. Other people find it hard to give praises and if they do its rather true. I too get awkward when someone i barely know compliments me, i just smile and try to change the subject, but sometimes i try to return the favor to satisfy his/her ego,hehe...that's 1 reason i get awkward too. But in the case of my friends, we don't give praises, we criticize and laugh about it coz we know we mean the opposite.;-) like they say "you don't need to explain. Your friends will understand and your enemy won't believe you anyway."
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
13 Jun 07
A lot of good points there! Thanks... ;-)
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
9 Jun 07
i am not good in handling compliments. even if i am not a caucasian, i blush and feel a bit embarrassed. but i do say thank you to the person and smile. but most of the time, i comment back using lines like "no. not really. but thanks" or "oh, it was nothing. but thanks". okey, i seem silly. i just don't know how to really handle compliments at all. but saying thank you is the best way i can make the person feel their compliments are accepted... anne
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
9 Jun 07
I usually say some dumb comment after a compliment too..LOL
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
10 Jun 07
Well I don't really feel awkward I go Shy as I never be used to getting Compliments to be honest I was only used to being pulled down all the time by my EX Husband and now I find it hard to believe when People pay me compliments to be honest I think they are just being nice
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
11 Jun 07
When you've had someone pull you down or just didn't get compliments like I did with my family it is hard to accept them
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@aidonia (4209)
• Greece
9 Jun 07
Beethoven - So many good composer ..who you choose.
I fell little shy each one time someone gives me a compliment even if i know that he is right.I mean they are sometimes anyone can give you a compliment just make you fell better or because he want be polite,but also sometimes that just he say the truth,even if I know I fell little awkward don't knowing what I must say...
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
9 Jun 07
I know you always feel you have to say something nice back to the person...right?
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• India
9 Jun 07
I feel embrassed when people compliment me. At the same time i feel that i have to do much better to save that compliments.
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
9 Jun 07
In other words you feel you have to do something to really deserve it
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@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
One thing I learned from a mother's friend is to accept compliment with graciousness. That we shouldn't feel awkward nor be embarrassed. I can easily do that except that there are some compliments are too shallow and not sincere. If someone complimented you, flaunt it, LOL!
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
11 Jun 07
That's a good one...flaunt it...I'll remember that!
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@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
10 Jun 07
I did get many compliments as a child from my mom and my dad. I did like it because it made me feel good. My son and my brother and my mom always give me compliments to this day. It still makes me feel good and I in return always give them compliments. It makes me feel good to give compliments also. I think if a person deserves a compliment, then I should give it to them. My husband doesn't give compliments very often, because when he was growning up his family didn't ever compliment him.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
11 Jun 07
So does your husband feel awkward if you give him a compliment?
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
9 Jun 07
I accept with a smile and a little shy hehehe, I'm not eally shy person but I feel it'is to much if they will say in public or with people I dont really know. It is okay wiht me with friends around coz we our friends gives compliment to each other.
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
9 Jun 07
No--I even feel embarrassed if a friend says something complimentary to me--
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@miaolin (397)
• China
9 Jun 07
At the beginning,I felt embarrassed when someone gave me a compliment.I don't think how good I am and how perfect my work is.So I always try to avoid it.But now I can handle it easily.One reason is I change another way to think.Maybe my work and my character are really good,otherwise,my friends won't give me compliment and praise me.The other reason is I have been accustomed to it.When you heard such words frequently,you will ignore it and consider it as common as other words.
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
9 Jun 07
Well since I came from a family that didn't go out of their way with praise I still feel awkward about compliments
@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
9 Jun 07
I came from a family who didnt give compliments out. So when I get one I feel happy and thankful for it. I dont think we give each other enough compliments today. Your a nice persone pyewacket and you deserve to be complimented.
@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
10 Jun 07
You know I was wondering that too.LOL
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
9 Jun 07
Are we from the same family TerryZ--LOL--You know sometimes family can be the worse to deal with..And awww...now you're making me blush..
@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
9 Jun 07
I used to feel very awkward, until someone told me once that it offended them that I acted that way - brushing off their compliment. It made me realize that (sincere) people deserve a "thank you" or show of your appreciation. I usually will say "Thank you, that was nice of you to notice" or something like that.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
9 Jun 07
I usually will say thank you too...it still embarrasses me though to get a compliment
@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
10 Jun 07
Don't be embarrassed, you probably deserve the compliment! Hold you head up and be pleased that there are nice people in this world that will acknowledge it.
• United States
9 Jun 07
You know, I think I react much the same way you do. It's refreshing and flattering to hear, no doubt, but there is still something that makes me feel a little bit weird when I get them. It's because I am still not really totally used to hearing them, so a lot of times that I still don't feel right getting them. I try to accept them easily... and I am honestly getting better. But it's still hard sometimes.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
9 Jun 07
Like you I also feel weird with compliments--wonder why we should feel that way? Doesn't make sense at times
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
11 Jun 07
This is too easy too respond to...I don't get them...lol. I'm pleased if someone says the garden looks nice and my friend always tells me I "look nice" when I'm dressed to go shopping but he also has a habit of staring at my boobs when we talk and I have to say "My eyes are up here, mate". So that cancels out the compliment I reckon. But I don't feel awkward...I just know how to dress, like you know your artwork is good.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
13 Jun 07
You're a bit of a sweety yourself.! Thankyou. Nah, I didn't blush but my smile was unusually BIG and I could feel my cheeks stretch. LOL.
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Just like in your avatar??? LOL--ah hah..now I know why you choose it
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
11 Jun 07
Oh ho--that's funny..."My eyes are up here"---LOL Aw--you don't get compliments much?? Well let me compliment you then...from knowing you here at MyLot I can sense a warm, sensitive, truly genuinely lovely person...ah...did I make you blush??
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• Philippines
9 Jun 07
no i don't feel a bit embarrssed when somebody gives me a compliment... you must be proud of it that there is this someone who gives you a compliment...
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
9 Jun 07
I guess I should feel proud about a compliment but will still feel awkward about it
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
yeah you're right sometimes yuo'll feel awkward about it....
• India
10 Jun 07
no way. i feel proud wen som1 compliments me. although wen ppl keep on saying the same thng again n again in frnt of same set of ppl, yes tht time i feel lik running 4 cover!
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