i cannot believe my 4 year old daughter said this, i was so embarrassed!!

Older lady using a cane - This is an older lady using a cane to help her get by
United States
June 9, 2007 12:26am CST
Okay me and my daughter went early to the laundrymat today and there was this older lady who was using a cane to help her get around, So were standing next to the older lady waiting for our clothes to be done and my 4yr old daughter looks at me and says "Mommy shes and old lady..she needs a cane to walk around"..OMG! Then my daughter starts walking around like she has a cane too..OMG! Mind you this older lady is right next to us, I couldnt believe I had heard that come out her mouth..I felt my face turn red & hot all at the same time. Im pretty sure the lady heard what my daughter had said but she just smiled anyway. Of course soon as I was away from the older lady I let my daughter know that what she said wasnt nice at all and she is to never say that again about anyone. Has this ever happened to anyone else? Has your child ever said anything about another person that made you want to crawl into a hole and never come out? If so, please share your story and let me know im not the only one this has happened too.
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27 responses
@butterfly39 (3907)
• Philippines
9 Jun 07
It's not your kid's fault. ALl of us go old and your kid is just telling what she observe and see around her. NO hard feelings but sometimes we should aways remind our kids not to do that again and tells them the don'ts and do's in life...soon as they can understand.
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• United States
9 Jun 07
She was defnitely saying what she saw BUT I did indeed tell her that it wasnt nice for her to say that about he older woman. Thanks for your response
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@maryannemax (12173)
• Sweden
9 Jun 07
kids act out what they see and observe around them. it's just natural for them to do that. but parents are the ones responsible in disciplining their kids' acts as well... anne
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• United States
9 Jun 07
I agree..kids are gonna say whatever comes to their mind, they dont know their hurting someones feeling but its the parents that have to correct them when they do say things like that so the kids are not running around shouting out everyones flaws LOL!
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@Modestah (11192)
• United States
10 Jun 07
four year olds have such a knack for a lack of decorum. The elderly woman did probably get a chuckle out of it. there is the chance that her hearing was poor and she did not understand what the child said - but the cane walking would be hard to miss. you will so laugh at this a few years from now. my friend is 73 and she is the guardian to 9 of her grandchildren. one of the little guys (6) mentioned to his teacher that he did not think that grandmother would be able to make it to the spring show because don't you know she is an old girl and will probably die soon?
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• United States
10 Jun 07
Wow your friend is 73 and raising 9 granchildren..thats remarkable! **Applause** There isnt alot of people that would take in 9 granchildren to raise them..she is an angel disguise! *God Bless her* It could be true that the older lady didnt hear it and I hope she didnt but I guess I will never know unless I see her again. thanks for sharing your story
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• United States
19 Jul 07
OH my god. Funny, but sad at the same time.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
9 Jun 07
The great thing about 4 yr olds is that they say whatever they feel like it, and although really embarrassing at the time, it gives you something to look back on and laugh at! My 4 yr old son actually has a lot of tact, surprisingly, like the other day, we saw an old lady at the shop with curlers in her hair. I saw my son look, and pull a slight face, but thankfully didn't voice his thought. On another day, though, we were in the supermarket when quite a large man came in. My son looked at him as he walked past and then commented 'ha, big head'! Now, I'm pretty sure the guy was still in earshot, but he didn't react. Although they do say and do embarrassing things, I'm sure anybody who has had kids uderstands that these comments are just a part of growing up.
• United States
9 Jun 07
OMG.."ha,big head" thats funny! Yea I agree whoever does have kids knows that their young and just blurt out the first thing that comes to their mind when they see someone. If I had heard another little kid say that about the older lady I would have laughed my butt off but since it happened to me I was soo embarassed. Thanks for sharing
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@muscare (3069)
• Australia
10 Jun 07
Yep, I smile when I hear other kids say things, and also know that I can have a laugh at the things my son says, though not at the time, lol! He doesn't have a mean streak,so anything that he says that is rude is not intentional.
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• United States
11 Jun 07
LOL I agree they dont say it to be mean they dont know any better and if anyone doesnt understand that then oh well they must be having a bad day :)
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@sedel1027 (17855)
• United States
10 Jun 07
I am sure that lady thought she was cute. At least it is better than what my son did. We were in a store when he was 3 and he pointed at an Asian lady and said "Look she's from China!" really loud. I know the lady heard him because she gave me a bad look. I did tell him it was wrong to do, but to his defense they were learning about China in day care!
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• United States
10 Jun 07
LOL..I didnt see nothing wrong with what your son said, I would have explained to the lady that hes learning about china in day care. Some people just need to realize that kids are gonna say things that maybe they shouldnt say, its part of life. thanks for sharing
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• United States
19 Jul 07
EXACTLY, people should understand children. I mean why get upset or give dirty looks, that's how children learn what's right and wrong.
@susiq445 (13)
• United States
10 Jun 07
One day when my daughter was four, my MIL was reading her the story of Little Red Riding Hood. Upon completing the story my daughter was reciting the story back to her when I heard "Grandma....what a big butt you have!"
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• United States
10 Jun 07
LMAO...Now thats too funny! Im sure your MIL knew your daughter didnt mean anything by it. I swear kids are amazing to me...how they just blurt out the first thing that comes to mind. Thanks for sharing your story
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• United States
19 Jul 07
Oh my god these are too funny, I love this one! haha.
@kitkat1 (1227)
• Canada
9 Jun 07
Well kids can do that to ya believe me i know all about it. I remember taking my daughter to church services over Christmas holidays when she was just small i believe she was about 3 years old. A large Elderly lady was sitting beside her and the lady passed gas and it was a little on the smelly side and everything was really quiet as we were having prayer at the time. Well all of a sudden my daughter said very loudly i might add mom this lady is trying to gas me lol she got that saying off her older brothers but i know i felt about two inches high.
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• United States
10 Jun 07
"This lady is trying to gas me" That is too funny! I would of burst out laughin when she said that LOL I know when it first happens your so embarassed that you wanna crawl into a hole BUT im sure you can laugh about it now. Thanks for sharing your story
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• United States
19 Jul 07
Oh my god, that is histerical! I don't blame the kid! haha.
@Tanika (633)
• Australia
9 Jun 07
Heya, It can be so embarrassing when your children say things like that in public. One time my daughter, who was about three at the time, and I were on the train and there was a bald man sitting opposite us. So my daughter pipes up really loud and says 'That man has no hair!' whilst pointing at him also. He could definatly hear her and was giving us evil looks. I tried to explain to her quietly that is is not nice to talk about other people but she just kept repeating it about five times. I didn't want to be angry at her for her childlike innocence but at the same time I wanted to get the message through that it is not nice to talk about other people. So in answer to your question, I definatly wanted to crawl into a hole when she wouldn't stop telling me and the people around us that the man opposite had no hair. Regards, Tanika.
• United States
9 Jun 07
So you know excatly how I felt at that very moment, Of course they dont mean any harm by saying it BUT I sure did wish I could of disappeared when it was said. Thanks for sharing your story
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@magnet (2089)
• United States
9 Jun 07
When my son was three he saw a man and pointed out with excitement. Look mom there's Fat Albert! He thought that the guy was the cartoon character. I was embarrassed and I told him not to say that again.
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• United States
9 Jun 07
Lmao! Kids are too much, they really are..its like you never know what their gonna say next to embarass you. I look back now at what my daughter said and its funny today but when it happened yesterday it wasnt funny. Thanks for sharing
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@dawnhm6 (48)
• United States
9 Jun 07
You think that was bad? How about this one: A year and a half ago, I brought my boyfriend Tim (now husband) home to meet my kids. My five year old son immediately starts talking to him, which is absolutely amazing. He had never spoken a word to anyone besides close family or people in school. A few hours later when we were all in the living room watching TV my son gets up from the floor and goes to Tim. "You know, I came from mommy's belly. I came out right there!" And he points to my , um, privates. Talk about wanting to crawl into a hole!
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• United States
9 Jun 07
Thats is too funny! I would have looked at my watch and said " I think its way past your bedtime" Maybe your son knew this guy was the one so he said something that could test him LOL! Kids say things sometimes that if it happened to anyone else we would laugh our butts off BUT since it happened to us when its said we just wasnt to disappear from the situation. Thanks for sharing!
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• Canada
9 Jun 07
The problem with children is that often they don't realize what they have said wrong until after they've already said it. I doubt she would have said it had she known it wasn't nice before. All she was trying to do was to illustrate to you what she knew. That is NOT to say I agree with what she did, because I do not. I don't blame you in the least for getting embarassed.
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• United States
9 Jun 07
She would of defnitely not said it if she really understood how it could hurt someone else's feelings, But she knows she shouldnt say things like that now. Thanks for your response
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• United States
9 Jun 07
i think ALL kids tend to do that. really though, your daughter was simply making an observation. when my son does this, i simply apologize first to the person, and tell my son 'thanks for noticing, but that he doesn't have to voive his thoughts ALL out loud all the time'. people have been good about it, but he's still young so i think they think he's just cute. but i know as he gets older he'll start blurting out more and more. i get red in the face too, but i just constantly apologize, and people at least appreciate that. they know kids are kids. but there are those who get pissy over things like that as well, but i just think those people don't have kids, they just don't understand and are just grumpy 90% of the time, oh well ya know!!! lol!!
• United States
9 Jun 07
Thats exactly why I tell her she shouldnt say that because there are people out there who are grumpy and might get offended by what she says but just like someone else had mentioned before..Anyone who has kids or grandkids know they say whatever is on their mind..you just have to let them know its not right. Thanks for sharing
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• United States
9 Jun 07
i feel ya! i just tell myself if that one grump of the day is a complete a*s about it, i write it off, give them a dirty look, and usually we don't ever run into them again, (hopefully). i wish more people were open-minded but there's not tons who are!!! you're doing a great job as a mom! keep doin what your doin honey!!
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• United States
9 Jun 07
Thanks..your a good mom too! Kids are kids there gonna do and say things that are alittle crazy but if people dont understand that then thats there problem, as long as you let your child know to never do that again then your fine.
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• United States
16 Jul 07
im 16 and my mom told me like 5 days ago that i embarrased her so bad when i was 4 my dad was in jail and we used to go visit him and this lady had no hair and i said look mommey that lady is bald i cant tell if she is a man or women and she is fat too and i was pointing at her my mom said nicole lynn jackson and shoved my hand down and i pointed my hand back up and said but mommy she is so blad and fat and i cant tell if she is a man or lady this women started to cry and ran out my mom said she fest so bad i am not a certified babysitter and i have took many classes on child behavors and i feel that around that age they noticed thing before they did not know how to judge they did not notice the diffrence there heart was pure and genuine but that is the age we start judging people we notice the diffrece i hope it helped i know alot about children phycoligy and behavoris i help through my baysitting right and wrong behavoirs and im kinda like jo from super nanny lol i treat the kids with love and respect and i evaluate the family and ask the parents if there child has any problems with like obeying or sleeping some even wont eat so yeah if you ever need my help just ask me i am here for you and your daughter babygirlmd15@yahoo.com
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• United States
19 Jul 07
awww in a way it's cute, but yeah it's sad that some people's feelings do get hurt. that's the only sad part about children and their innoscence. when they say stuff watch out because you never know what's gonna strike.
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• United States
19 Jul 07
OMG! I would of been so embarassed if I was your mom LOL! But you were a kid and you didnt know any better..thats a funny story though. Thanks for responding
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@maryannemax (12173)
• Sweden
9 Jun 07
oh. i understand why you felt so embarrassed. i will, too if your daughter was mine. hehe. but atleast you taught her after that what she did wasn't right. and i hope she listens to you and not do it again. i am not a mother yet. but a friend of mine who has a son made her embarrassed one day. my friend's employer came over their house to visit her. and the employer wanted to hur my friend's son. the son pushed her away and said "go out. go out!". my friend really felt ashamed about it and when her employer went home, she talked to her son telling him what he did wasn't good. gosh... kids!... anne
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• United States
9 Jun 07
Awww..yea alot of kids just dont go to anybody it has to be someone they really know. I agree when your child says something like that you have to let them know its not right otherwise they will get out of control with the comments. Thanks for sharing your story
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@maryannemax (12173)
• Sweden
9 Jun 07
yup. talk to them in a polite manner. not necessary to shout at them. they can understand you quickly. good to know you're a good mom... anne
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@dlkuku (1936)
• United States
10 Jun 07
You brought back memories, when my son was around four or five, he went up to a man who I knew and asked him why he was so fat. I wanted the floor to open up and swallow me. Fortunately the man was a school teacher and was used to children, and their questions and he answered my son with good humor. I apologized of course, and talked to my son afterwards.
• United States
10 Jun 07
LOL! See the people who have ever had or dealt with kids know that they say things they shouldnt sometimes..its not their fault. It was very nice of the teacher to answer your son with humor...more people whould be like that. Its funny because couple years from now another mom will be on here asking if anyone else's kid ever said something that was embarassing and Ima be on writting about this LOL! Thanks for sharing your story
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@KissThis (3008)
• United States
9 Jun 07
My daughter did something like this when she was about 3 years old I think. I was taking her one day to see her cardiologist. In the same building there are many different doctors. Anyway we were waiting for the elevator when a lady came up next to use in her wheelchair. As we were getting on the elevator this lay was in front of us the next words I hear out of my daughters mouth was " Mommy, that lady is really fat. Not a little fat but a lot fat." I couldn't believe my ears. I was shocked. I have always explained to my children that some people are bigger or smaller then they are and that they shouldn't say anything about the way that someone looks. I explained to my daughter in front of the lady that what she said wasn't nice and that I thought she should aplogize to the lady. My daughter told the lady that she was sorry for what she said. The lady just ignored her as if she wasn't there. I picked up my daughter and we walked away. I did the best that I could in that situation.
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• United States
9 Jun 07
I do believe you did the best you could in the situation you were in..the lady should of maybe understood that it was a little girl who said this and she didnt mean any harm, the lady should of also accepted your daughters apology..but oh well some people dont understand kids will blurt things out. You did the best you could..and im sure your daughter will never say that again but I know exactly how you felt.
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@lillake (1634)
• United States
9 Jun 07
I don't understand why this was a problem. Was it not treu? did she say it in a hurtful manner? Children often say what they see, it is how they process the world around them. Her saying the woman is old and walks with a cane is no different than saying the sky is blue to her. that is just how children are. The woman just smiled, she probably has children and grandchildren of her own and understood how children are. I would not have shamed my child for her statement.
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• United States
9 Jun 07
I understand kids are going to blurt things out of their mouth that they see around them but what she said could of really offended the older woman. I told my daughter that what she said wasnt very nice and luckily she didnt hurt the lady's feelings (atleast I hope not) If I dont teach her now to not yell out something everytime she see's someone who looks different from her she is going to think its okay to point out everyone who doesnt look like her and thats not right! Thanks for your response!
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• United States
19 Jul 07
Hahaha that's too funny, but yeah at the same time embarrassing for us. My youngest daughter then was like 4 too and my oldest fell from a few stairs and we went to the emergency room. Her nurse, I mean I have to admit was a woman, but definitely it was hard to tell what she was. She had a femenine voice, but yet raspy. At the same time, she carried herself like a guy. Ok, here comes the juicy part, lol. My youngest has always been opinionated and she still is to this day, she will tell you how it is although I've explained it too many times, that sometimes it's just better to keep things to yourself, lol. The nurse comes back to bring my oldest a blanket, and my youngest goes; "Are you a man or a woman?" Oh my gosh, my face just fell to the ground, my body became stiff of embarrasement, like I just felt as though if I brushed it off like it didn't happend it would be best, lol. The nurse was a good sport though. She explained to her that yeah my daughter was right, she did have guy short hair and she's not all that lady likeish, but that she indeed was a woman. I think she probably went through that before since her answer just came out like she rehearsed it and had practiced what to say. Indeed our kids say the darndest things. ANOTHER CUTE ONE: my friend took her daughter when she was probably 3 or 4 also to the ice cream parlor. The guy at the counter was so friendly and asked her "now what flavor would you like princess?" She answered so polite as well; "chocolate like your face". My friend nearly dropped to the ground with embarrasement. The guy just thought that was cute. At least he was a sport too.
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• United States
19 Jul 07
Yea its normaly for kids that are young to say the first thing that comes to there mind, they dont know they might be hurting someones feelings otherwise they wouldnt say it BUT as long as we teach them right after its said then it will be fine. Its the people who DONT have kids that we have to watch out for because they DONT understand as much as we teach our kids they shouldnt say certain things young kids are gonna say whats on there minds. (you can see from a previous post LOL)
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• United States
19 Jul 07
Lmao yes girl I did!
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@SmokePiff (437)
• United States
12 Jun 07
thats lil kids for u. if they think it they goin say it. in september my sister had a baby shower (same place meli did) and i was standing outside with my cousins somking a newport. then my lil cousins come out and there was another party goin on downstairs. and my lil ignorant racist cousin (7 years old) says extra loud where the heck all these mexicans goin when there was like 5 or 6 of them walking towards the door. i wanted to slap the fire out him. not sure where he gets all the racist things he says from. just can't wait til he says something to the wrong kid and gets beat up cuz he thinks he's a THUG even though he from the burbs
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• United States
12 Jun 07
LMAO! the part about him thinking he is a thug even though hes from the burbs...that is too funny!
• United States
12 Jun 07
u should see him he'lll put his wave cap on and start jail posing. he's a nut
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@bkfuels (1606)
• Canada
19 Jul 07
I am sure the old lady understood it was just an innocent comment from a child. I myself have noticed something and said it out loud then thought Oh no I did not just say that. Sometimes even as an adult we mouth the thing that we see knowing it is wrong. Try to live with that if the person hears it.
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• United States
19 Jul 07
Im sure as adults we have all said something we shouldnt of..I know I have before said somethings I should of said out loud but we can only learn from our mistakes. Thanks for responding
• United States
18 Jul 07
What a sweetheart! It's amazing how kids can be so innocent and naive about their own words or behavior. I'm sure she doesn't think badly of a person who is old or has an affliction. She is simply pointing out the obvious. However as moms, we are always worried that our children will say things to hurt other's feelings. I am sure that the elderly woman was not offended. Chances are, she has grandchildren of her own and understands perfectly the unpredictable nature of children and the words that come out of her mouth. Mine has never said anything too bad in public. But, I am constantly having to remind her not to speak so loudly of family business while she is in the back yard. I guess I am secretly afraid that the neighbors will judge us badly if they hear her talking about private matters. Besides it's none of their business anyway. Don't worry, Gorgeous, most kids grow out of the blatant stage very quickly. Be sure to get lots of video footage so that you can embarrass her later on! Just kidding. Be well, my friend and drop by sometimes. I miss you at my chats.
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• United States
19 Jul 07
Oh beautyqueen I totally understand about the kids not talking about the families business..I swear they will tell a stranger every little detail that happened that day LOL!(Its so funny though) I will definitely be stopping by your discussions..you always have such good ones. Take care