Do you ever feel like that none of your friends understand you?

@ma_belle (1358)
United States
June 9, 2007 10:32pm CST
Sometimes I feel detached from my friends. Do you ever feel this way? How do you get over it?
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12 responses
• United States
10 Jun 07
I feel like I can't be myself with alot of my friends and that bugs me. I also feel as I get older good friends are hard to find and finding friends is a challenge as well with where I come from.
• United States
10 Jun 07
yeah at some points i do feel this way and the way i deal with it is that i tell them how i feel and sometimes they get get mad about it but to me its better than holding this grudge against them. Sometimes you're not gonna always have someone that will understand i guess thats kinda the thing that comes with being a individual
@twilight021 (2060)
• United States
10 Jun 07
As another poster tated, sometimes I don't even understand myself. One thing I've noticed as I've grown a little only is that you seem to have certian friends for certian needs. There are your old friend, who you grew up with who understand more about where you came from and what happened to you in your past. Then there are your new friends who know you for who you are now and don't have any pre-concieved notions about who you might be. Plus, if they are friends who you made as an adult, they know you as an adult, rather than still seeing you as a kid or teenager. Lately, I have also felt a little detached from my firends. It seems that everyone is going off in seperate directions. I am also pretty stressed right now, and I think I have been withdrawing a little bit. When I start to feel detached I try to find the friend who I think my best understand what I am going through and talk to them. If I can't find someone I know who can relate, sometimes a place like Mylot can be a good resource. Even if it's someone you don't know personally, it's nice to know there are otherout there who are going through the same things as you are.
• Latvia
10 Jun 07
sometimes even i myself don't understand my personality.. but i've great friends that almost always understand me.. :)
• New Zealand
10 Jun 07
I think we all feel detatched or mistunderstood at times by our friends. I usually find its because I've withdrawn and left it too long to contact them, I tend to do that and get lost in what I am doing and forget to make a point of contacting them. I've been very fortunate and have good friends and family who generally understand me.
@elisa812 (3033)
• United States
10 Jun 07
Yes, I definitely feel that way at times. Because of my husband's career, my life is much different than my friends' now, because there are frequent moves and separations. It can be really hard for others to relate to it, and sometimes feels like nobody understands what I'm going through! When that happens to me, I sometimes find support forums online where I can talk to others in the same situation, or I talk to my husband about it and that makes me feel much better! :)
@binny29 (1527)
• India
10 Jun 07
ya i do feel man times that i am not with my best apl and i do feel that th way i think they dont
• Malaysia
10 Jun 07
Well, sometimes I felt like that but I rethink about it again. In those lot of numbers of friends that I have, there must be few numbers of them won't be that way. I did analyze it and will find them to share my inner feeling with. They must be in the same feeling with us. Trying to find the best trusted friend to share their life and problem with. So, whenever they do need me, I'll be there for them in any time and any where..
• Singapore
10 Jun 07
Yes i feel the same too..either they dont pay attention or don noe wat u r talking about...they are only there for u when they need something from u, till now i don a have friend tat i can rely on except for my husband my confidante.
@psyche49f (2512)
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
Yup, there were times, from my colleagues...I feel bad of course, but I just ignore them. At my age, I realized I don't need anymore other people's affirmation..I do what I need to do, especially at work. At least after "that" incident, I was proven to be correct. I'm referring to a case in which a student filed a case against us....when our lawyer stepped in, I realized that I was right, and my colleagues, who did not believe in what I did, were proven to be wrong. But I did not confront them...I guess it's enough for them to realize that I have also made good decisions relative to the case....
@chenee08 (591)
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
yeah, sometimes.. it upsets me really... i thought they are the person who will really unserstand me coz they kow me for years now.. sometimes i wouldn't talk to them for days.
• United States
10 Jun 07
Especially when they try to guess what im trying to say or im thinking and fail.