Parenting After Divorce

United States
June 12, 2007 8:31pm CST
I have a ten year old "tween" daughter from my first marriage. My ex and I have not been together for 7 years. It seems that as she gets older, she has more of a difficult time adjusting to coming home from visits and vacations with her Daddy and his family. She is a bit more sassy, and has more attitude. I know that this is difficult for her, even after all of these years. She was really too young to remember what we were like as a family. But there is still a part of her that wishes her Mama and Daddy were still together. Don't get me wrong, she loves her stepmom and her stepdad. She is very close to her stepdad, and he is more of a father figure to her than her own Dad. If she had it her way, we would all live in a great big house, together! I am just curious if anyone else has dealt with this. How do you handle it? I try and be patient, and discuss things with her...just wish I knew how to deal with this.
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@albert2412 (1782)
• United States
18 Jun 07
Your post provides an excellent stoy of why two people should stay together and not get a divorce. It is always better for two people to try to work out their problems together. Two people may think that they are happier living apart from one another, but it is always their children who pay the price for the divorce in either sadness at not being with both mommy and daddy or else in anger and resentment against their parents for splitting up.
@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
14 Jun 07
I had a horrid time with my daughter, now 21, when she was 12 - it didn't help any that dad let her do and have anything she wanted and there were no rules which there were at my house.. she ended up going to live with him just because all she did was make my life miserable and was a bad influence on her younger brother by another marriage.