I am really nervous

@stacyv81 (5904)
United States
June 13, 2007 10:16am CST
about telling my friends and family I am pregnant again I am 23, and my guy is 25, I will turn 24 in August. But I have a 3 year old and an 8 month old and I hust found out I was pregnant again, I am really nervous about how the loved ones in my life will respond to this news. Have you ever been nervous about something like this?
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@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
14 Jun 07
i was nervous about telling my family about my second son, i had my first at 17 and my sis spilled the beans, then i got pregnant with my second at 21 and i was nervous, even tho my bf and i had been together since we were 14, it was still nerve wrecking, but i broke the ice when on my 21st birthday i asked for a virgin strawberry daquiri then everyone was clueless and i told them. my third at 23 was easy, cause everyone knew i had been anticipating a girl.
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
14 Jun 07
I forgot to say, Congratulations, and don't be nervous, babies r blessings, everyone will be happy!
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
14 Jun 07
thank you, I hope the news by my friends and family is as well recieved as it is here! Thanks!
@shannon76 (1234)
• United States
14 Jun 07
Well first of all, congrats girl!! That is awesome to hear (I hope to be pregnant soon). I wasn't really nervous of telling anyone I was preggo the first time cuz I knew no one could of been as shocked as I was!! hehe But why do you think they will react badly to the news?
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
14 Jun 07
well, the first time I was pregnant everyone was soo excited! The second time, some were a little weary even though it was 2 years later. This one is 8 months after I had my second and me and my guy have ben going through it lately, we havenet really been getting a long that great, and have been technically not together for a while, and well, we've been having problems, so It will come as a huge surprise and I am nervous, and yesterday my guy said he was nervous about telling people too. A lot of people say. "Is that it now?" "Are you done" So, I dont know, I mean I always wanted 3 or 4, so I am happy. Just worried about judgements and reactions.
@shannon76 (1234)
• United States
14 Jun 07
Don't worry about what other people think. The only thing that matters is what you and your guy thinks and no matter what other people will tell you (they might say not so nice things) that baby will bring happeness.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
14 Jun 07
Well congradulations. Don't get nervous smile and tell your family the great news. Happy early birthday I'll be 35 this August myself.
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
14 Jun 07
thanks, happy early birthday to you too. I am trying not to be nervous, I just dont like being judged. =)
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
14 Jun 07
That's understandable.
@mummymo (23709)
13 Jun 07
I was a bit nervous about telling my family I was pregnant with my second baby! I had been married when I had my first but there had been a lot of abuse and we split! I had been with my partner for almost 5 years when I finally managed to conceive my youngest ( with the help of fertility treatment!) and was a bit nervous they would disapprove as we weren't married. It was fantastic though, everyone was thrilled and they all love my partner as he treated me and my son so well! Sometimes the things we worry about most are what turns out to be joyful for everyone! As for your age and this being your 3rd child - yes you are young but what matters most is the way you cope with parenthood and that your kids are safe, happy and loved! I am sure you will be a fantastic mum to all 3 - Good Luck. xxx
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
14 Jun 07
thank you for the encouraging words, this time me and my guy have been going through some trouble and arent technically even together anymore, though we still live together and such, but that is most of the reason I was worried, when I told my dad he said, I thought you two werent even together, so you know, the timing is a little off, but it'll work out =)
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@mummymo (23709)
14 Jun 07
Well honey there is very rarely (never say never!) a perfect time for having a baby! Yes the timing is a little off but then again if you are happy and able to cope why should anyone else judge you! Don't let anyone else bring you down honey, you and your guy are the ones whose opinions count so just take a deep breath and tell yourself that if others have a problem with this baby it is THEIR problem and not YOURS! I do hope that you and your man can work things out but even if you don't stay together as a couple as long as you are both there for your children that is the most important thing! Good Luck sweety and do keep us updated with how things are going! xxxxx
@tredale (1313)
• Australia
14 Jun 07
congralations, well you will have your hands full. If they love you they will be fine and I hope you have there support you will need it for the next three years at least. I had my 3 and 4th child very close and it was really hard not at first but between the ages on 1 and 2. though now there 3 and 4 they are great fun and friends. Hold tight it will be fine.
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
14 Jun 07
I am hoping so, I was happy that they were so close in age,
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
Why be concerned with what others will think about you being pregnant? Why do you have to please them? Instead, you should tell them with pride and joy that you are pregnant again!
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
14 Jun 07
well, not so much worried about pleasing them I just dont want them to judge me.
@lingli_78 (12846)
• Australia
14 Jun 07
well, i don't see anything to be nervous about... it is a great news actually... as long as you and your hubby is happy, then just carry on... baby gives blessings and happiness... i myself is longing to have one soon... you are lucky to have a third one soon... congratulations...
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
14 Jun 07
Well, I am hoping they are happy/
@shemah (841)
• Malaysia
14 Jun 07
first of all, congratulations. I just turned 24 in may and expecting my 2nd kid. I understand your nervousness, but when it comes down to it, they really don't have much say do they.. i'm happy for you and hope your family will feel that way too!
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
14 Jun 07
thank you so do I !
@tsnadeer (89)
• India
14 Jun 07
pregnancy is the gift from the god,you should happy with your kids they will make you enjoy your family life if we are nervous for such kind of matters we will never get time to enjoy our life
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
14 Jun 07
that is true, and I should be enjoying this pregnancy as of yet, I am not sick as I was the entire other two, So I should enjoy feeling good. You are right/
@nitzel (79)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
I haven't been in a situation like yours, but I must say gather up your courage and just go ahead and tell him. A baby is a blessing. Maybe there will be violent reactions and mixed emotions, but the most important thing is that you're honest. You need your loved ones during this most wonderful occasion in your life.
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
14 Jun 07
yes, I am hoping they will view it as a wonderful occasion as well. I mean they all tell me I am a good mom, so I think another one wouldnt be that bad, but they seem to like to judge...
@pinklilly (3446)
• Australia
14 Jun 07
You poor thing I'm sure you will be fine and your friends and of course your family would be happy for you... Is he the father of your other two? I was nervous with my first OMG I was totally freaking on how my family would act, but it wa fine... My second was a little dawnting but not as bad as I thought, but if I had another I would be freaked about breaking the news to my family... Friends are fine.... Once it's out in the open that it will be fine, it's your choice, your life so they should only be happy for you.....
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
14 Jun 07
yes, same guy for all three. I thought everyone would be excited about my second, but I got some mixed reactions, and it was 2 y ears later, so that is part of the reason I am worried now after only 8 months.
• United States
14 Jun 07
No, I was never nervous about telling my family that I was pregnant. My family and my husbands both are really into babies, and we can't wait to see who the next person in the family will have the next baby. If you are happy about it, I don't see why they would not be happy, too.
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
14 Jun 07
well, his side mostly they hav made a lot of bad choices in their lives, and they love to judge other people, and I just want people to be happy about the baby, I dont want to be judged ya know?
@carlaabt (3506)
• United States
14 Jun 07
Congratulations! I was a little nervous telling my family when I got pregnant with my son. I was 22 and my husband was 20, and we had just been married for a couple of days when he was conceived. I was nervous because I knew that certain people in my family would talk bad about us and say the baby wasn't my husband's (We hadn't even seen each other for 3 months, until 3 days before the wedding), etc. Sure, some of them did, but the people who are important to me were excited and happy for us. I was a bit po'ed at my mother in law, though. Some ladies from her CHURCH convinced her that the baby couldn't possibly be my husband's, and she told my husband he should leave me. Well, as soon as she saw the baby she changed her mind really fast. He looks so much like my sister in law (and my husband some, too) did when she was a baby that there is no way he could ever deny him.
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
14 Jun 07
His mother is the one I worry about telling the most, because I am sure I will get a big bla, bla,.bla speech from her. But I'll let him tell her =)
@jbb316 (1779)
• United States
13 Jun 07
To be honest, it is your life, your body and your family. And if you decide to have 3 children or 6 that is your responsibility and your business. Unless your family has to help take care of them or pay for them then it would be different. But if not then who cares what they think. If they like it fine if they don't fine!
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
14 Jun 07
no, in fact my second has separation anxiety and no one will even watch her, so no one has to help in anyway take care of them. If they want to watch my son, they ask, so you are right, It is my life and my body,.
@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
13 Jun 07
Oh hell ya.... With baby # 6,7,8 lol......But with 6 and 7 they were planned with #8 it was a total surprise but I am Happy and Hubby is to I think thats all that should matter!!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!! Stacy
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
14 Jun 07
That is what I think, I mean, I am worried for their reaction, but in the end everyone will be happy, and its not like they have to take care of them...I love kids, I have always said I wanted a bunch of them. The other two were kind of planned this one was a surprise, but I am happy.
• Canada
15 Jun 07
we had children at an early age, they grew up together and became close, be proud that you can bear children,and don't worry what anyone else thinks about your pregnancy
@superchook (1786)
• Australia
14 Jun 07
I hope they will all be happy for you as they should be. If they are not, then that is their choice and they will regret it later on. I hope everything goes well for you.
• United States
14 Jun 07
I totally understand!! My youngest child's dad and I were nly together a short time before i ended up pregnant. We hid it from both our families for almost 5 months. We were afraid they would be mad cuz together we had 4 living with us...(he ha custody of his 2 older girls, an I have my 2 sons) But in the end it wasnt as big of a deal a I tought it was going to be. good luck and just rememeber....This is your life! lol
• United States
14 Jun 07
Congratulations Stacy!!! Don't worry about what anyone has to say as long as you are happy with your pregnancy! You are the one who will be pregnant, give birth and take care of your children so, they simply have to deal with it if they don't like the idea. Hugs and kisses my friend! Magdalena
• Kottayam, India
14 Jun 07
Pregnancy is not for nervousness , but for getting a cute little boy/girl. A third at this age no problem, as you already managed for two.But for the next one you should take care. Consult your doctor,and your immediate relatives and take firm decision.