Is A friends Ex truly off limits?
By drknlvly6781
@drknlvly6781 (6246)
United States
June 13, 2007 8:48pm CST
About four years ago myself and my children's father were friends with a school mate of his and his girlfriend of ten years. I and the friend's girlfriend were close, but we didn't talk much. I was actually closer to the guy. Just last year, about six months apart, I and my children's father broke up, then the school mate and his girl broke up.
Just recently the girlfriend called me, and through talking I realized that they had broken up. I had never told anyone this, but I secretly liked the school mate for a little while. He happened to call while I was on the phone with her, as they were still friends, and proceeded to fuss at me for never calling him. I responded that I never had the number. She gave it to me and I proceeded to call him. I felt that since he wasn't in a relationship and neither was I, now would be a good time to let him know how I felt. He was interested as well, so we had a short fling
Unfortunately, the ex found out. After we had already called it quits for now she called me one morning and blessed me out for "coming behind her." I let her get all of her anger out, but I thought to myself, "Wasn't it you that broke up with him? Even though you are still friends, why would you be worried about who he dates since you no longer wanted him?" Not many would share my view, but I feel life is too short to worry about who a person has been with before we get together. What do you think? Is a man off limits just because you were friends with his ex?
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@ArmyChick (488)
• United States
18 Feb 08
yes!!! How would you feel if she did that to you and your ex? sweetie there are entirely too many men in the world to even look at a man that your friend knew or dated. there are too many men to follow behind someone you even see everyday let a long talk to on the phone. so what ended up happening to this situation?
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@drknlvly6781 (6246)
• United States
18 Feb 08
Ha! She asked me the same question when she confronted me. I laughed. If she wanted that mess than she could have gone right ahead!!! We weren't that close. As I said in the post, I was always closer to my ex's friend than her. She would call me every once in a while. And when we came over, she always was holed up in her room or gone. She was never someone that I saw every day.
What happened was we dated for a short while, but he had too much going in his life for me to continue being involved. So we went back to being friends.
She no longer talks to me, but she referred me to a business that she is doing, thinking that I was a good candidate. I never joined, not because of her, but because it costed too much.
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@ArmyChick (488)
• United States
18 Feb 08
lmao oh i thought you 2 were friends. girl she dont count. do you. lol
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@drknlvly6781 (6246)
• United States
18 Feb 08
ROTFLMAO. My sentiments exactly. At the time I posted this I was feeling a little guilty, but like you said, dat gurl don't count. I reposted this conversation in another category when I didn't get any responses, and a lot of people said the same thing.
