What is your surname? Do you use it?

who am I? - i am suffering from identity crisis.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
India
June 14, 2007 5:55am CST
i heard that china is running short of names!! billions of ppl only have 100 surnames and so there are thousands of ppl having the same name. wang, lin, yu... all are so common that there is an increasing amount of identity crises. the govt. is apparently trying to solve this by adding the father's and mother's surnames together...its confusing... what about you? how important is your surname, are you aware of its origin? do you keep it in official documents or your first name works fine? now, to all concerned: are you keeping your ex-husband's surname still after seperation?
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@sreevasu (2717)
• India
14 Jun 07
It's little funny with me Mimpi. I am a man of 5'3", but my name in full is lengthier than that.:-) My name in full comes as Sreevasudeva Bhattathiri. Bhattathiri is my surname and it hints my Malayali brahmanical ancestry here in Kerala. In words and deeds, I am not brahmanical, though. Even not religious too.:-)
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
14 Jun 07
i would like to have it in full sreevasu. would you mind? on a serious note, you need not be a brahmin to have your values and judgement in the full running and i know you have yours right. thanx.
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@sreevasu (2717)
• India
14 Jun 07
I won't mind Mimpi, but it not that easy to call me in full. :-) I used to fight for my brahmanism with non-brahmins but I will fight for my non-brahmanism with brahmins.. just for fun. But for sure, I hate these caste classifications.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
14 Jun 07
yes, its degrading one human from another!! who gives us authority to do it, i wonder!!
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• India
14 Jun 07
well my surname is Mascarenhas which is quite a mouthful. haha! n i couldn't spell it right till the age of 5! dunno bout the origin, but when i looked it up, it actually was a portuguese word meaning umbrella. :D
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
15 Jun 07
you have a nice surname, simona. the meaning must be having wider implication, who knows!! thanx for sharing.
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
love your surname..really a mouthful!=)
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• India
15 Jun 07
Good to see such a nice discussion. Now, time to reply: Ans 1: My surname is very important for me as it reflects my caste. Ans 2: I am "Afgaani Pathaan" by caste, I hope it itself speaks about its origin. Ans 3: Yes, I keep it in all official documents. Ans 4: Your last question is not applicable on me..
• India
28 Jun 07
Mimpi, Please give the answer of the questions put across by you. Take care and bye.. Shahid
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
18 Jun 07
that was a perfect, to the point, response. Thanx for sharing shahid. nice to you respond. have a nice day.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
18 Jun 07
that was a perfect, to the point response. thanx for replying. have a nice day.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Jun 07
I use my complete name and try to do so on most of the occasions. My surname is 'Sethi'. Incidently, at my workplace I am called by my surname, my near and dear ones and my friends calls me by my first name. Though I love my surname..yet I feel more happy when someone calls me by my first name (when you are called by your first name...it gives you a feeling of closeness). My first name is more dear to me than my surname (but in office I have adjusted myself with my surname....I cannot ask or request everyone to call me by my first name). Perhaps, it becomes a practice in the offices to call someone by his/her surname. Nonetheless a Very Good Discussion! dpk Have a Nice Day!
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
15 Jun 07
yes deepak, in professional places the surname (or by initials) is more popular and in our country specially for men. women enjoy a priviledge of being called by the first names and indeed, as you have mentioned, it feels good. you are a punjabi, right? my anunt (mamiji) is a punjabi as well. have a nice day.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
15 Jun 07
possible!! i guess, her maiden name is Anita Vohra.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
15 Jun 07
Tumahri Mamiji aur main dur ke rishtedar to nahi hain....LOL!
• Canada
14 Jun 07
I know this sounds dumb but maybe they will have to start putting numbers to the different family names and then all relivitives will be associated with that group of numbers. Is that dumb or a fairly good idea? What do you think?
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
15 Jun 07
no, i feel, that's fairly good idea!! they can introduce something like social security code which is exclusive for one person only. what about you, how often do you use your surname, coffeeanyone?
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
27 Jun 07
may be, you are right..
• Canada
26 Jun 07
Will I am always using my surname for everything. I try not to on the internet though. One has to be careful on here! But it is hard not to sometimes!
@tmlnmr (1850)
• Canada
15 Jun 07
Well mimpi I am married and took my husbands surname which is Moir. In all important documents you have to have your full name on it, first middle and last. When I got married I actually kept my own surname as well but never use it anymore. So my full name would be Tammy Lynn Swain-Moir. Alot of people do this here to keep their family names going. I don't actually know the origin of my last name but might be fun to find out. Before I got married to the person I am married to now I was living with someone else and I had taken his last name as well and when we split up I changed my name back to what it was before.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
18 Jun 07
hi tammy, personally, i think, its important to keep the original surname and then you might or might not keep your partners'. For later on, if someone has to change the surname its a hassle. i have been facing a lot of problem recently. all my documents carry my ex-husband's surname and now i want to change it. thanx for sharing. PS: you have a classy last name.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
19 Jun 07
i just hope that's not a hefty amount!
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@tmlnmr (1850)
• Canada
18 Jun 07
Thanks. it wasn't a big deal with me I had really only changed my drivers license and I just changed it back when it was time to renew it (where my live in was concerned anyway.) Now I would just drop my hubby's name if we got a divorce and change my drivers license again when I renewed it, but I would have to pay for a legal name change for the government documents like my health card and income tax etc...
• India
18 Jun 07
My surname is "SINGH" but I never use it bcz there is no surname in my highschool marksheet and certificate. So now I cann't use it bcz it would not be considered legal and I really don't want to use it noe bcz now I am quite happy with my presenr name and don't want any alteration in it.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
19 Jun 07
really! generally, in india, one has to usehis/her surname in documents. how did you manage? i guess, you must be having some title to replace it!
• India
16 Jun 07
my surname is kolarkar and i use it in every document. i belong to maharashtra state in india, where you can find the widest variety of surnames...... so if there is shortage of surnames in china and they need it badly, chinese people are most welcome to borrow from maharashtra india.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
18 Jun 07
thank you ranjeet.
@yanjiaren (9031)
5 Oct 07
I am diorced from my first husband and still not yet oofficlaly married to my new one. So I still legally carry my ex husband's surname. I would like to take on my new one's surname as I like it It is a Chinese surname. YAN I like the sound of it and it is very simple lol. So let's see if I do ever get properly married to him then I will use it, otherwise I will go back to my maiden name lol.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
10 Oct 07
Yanji, I am sure you will be properly married and get the YAN as your surname. You take care.
@maribea (2366)
• Italy
18 Jun 07
here in Italy women use their name, but they can add their husband'r surname to their maiden name or they can choose to introduce themselves with their husband's name, but legally they keep their name. of course there are some surnames that are more common than others, like Rossi or so on but we don't have problems like the ones you are describing about China. Suppose we are profiting by immigration, too. This is creating new variety in our society and is creating new colours, new couples and new surnames, too. I must admit I find East Europe surnames very difficult to pronounce because of the lack of vocals but languages are so beautiful that we can only learn from each others
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
18 Jun 07
that's an intersting perspective. in our country, wefind mixed surnames which is but the result of colonisation by the britishers, portuguese and dutch. we have an interesting mix of customs, colors and surnames aswell. thanx maribea.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
25 Jul 07
My surname is Ji. We have more than one hundreds of surnames in China. We don't worry about lack enough surnames because we can have different names.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
26 Jul 07
yes, different names with different spellins can solve the problem out right. thanx for sharing william.
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• China
26 Jul 07
You are welcome, friend.
• India
15 Jun 07
Well my surname is Pisharody. Its a malayali surname. I dont know what it means of the significance of it. But i do use it at official certificates or at other relevant places. The origin of the surname is from some native place in kerala i suppose.Also something to do with the temples and stuff.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
15 Jun 07
thanx sri for sharing. i have heard of this PISHARODY, donot know when though!!lol.. have a nice day.
• India
15 Jun 07
the third line is actually - I dont know what it means nor the significance of it. Sorry for the typo ;)
• China
15 Jun 07
I am from China, my surname is Yin, yes more and more people maybe use the same name, because now we used to adopt father's name and given name be used mostly common Chinese characters, later people will use longer name, for example, use father's name and mother's name for their own children.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
15 Jun 07
great to have you in this discussion. i wanted some real chinese to affirm my post. you just confirmed it, alexyin. tell me, will it really solve the problem?
• China
19 Jun 07
Yes, it is really
• India
4 Oct 07
My surname is Dias, well the chinese government has always had confusing policies so I'm not really suprised about their latest policy. I am not sure about my surname origins, but most probably attributed to portugal. My surname is very important to me as many more people know me by my surname then by my first name and then after that, my first name and surname together kind of have a ping to it ! Lol, i really love my name you see :D so i cant stop praising it !
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
5 Oct 07
Yes, you do have nice name. One should be proud of it - like the way you have said. Thanks.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
15 Jun 07
I am not bothered about Surnames to be honest I have kept the Ex Husbands Surname but only because the Kids have asked me to as they did not want me to have a different Name from them To me my first Name is just fine
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
18 Jun 07
i really appreciate your thoughts gabs. thanx.
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
Hello mimpi. Chinese surnames are normally short and limited only. I happened to have Chinese blood and using Chinese surname. In my high school days, its pretty common to see 3 or 5 similar surnames in each classes. Our teacher called us by our first or second names instead. All my documents bear my surname. I don't think there's any other way that I can lengthen it, LOL. I heard though that you can have the option to change your surname if you change your citizenship. I'm not 100% sure about this though.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
15 Jun 07
hi bunny! even i retain my surname on all important documents, to lengthen it..lol.. fun apart, we have to, i have not much of a choice there. smiles..
@Woodpigeon (3710)
• Ireland
15 Jun 07
I guess that would be very confusing for the Chinese! I wonder, will they start using strange first names or extra middle names for identification purposes? I use my own family name rather than my husband's. It is a matter of my own personal family pride, plus I prefer it. I just think it sounds nicer. He ought to use mine ;-)
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
15 Jun 07
good point!! you are like my sister. she asked my bro-in-law to take up her family name when insisted on to change her surname during marriage. that didnot happen but she she succeeded in keeping her maiden name.
@abrarr (1246)
• Pakistan
15 Jun 07
my surname is abrar and as u can see my profile i' am presently using it, infact i use it everywhere i need it!!
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
15 Jun 07
thanx for sharing.
• India
15 Jun 07
well my name is payal mazumdar..and it's quite an uncommon name obviousely along wid d surname..but only my name wudnt work coz many ppl also have it...
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
15 Jun 07
that's a nice name, you are a bengali and so am i. great to hear from you payal. smiles...
• China
15 Jun 07
i love my surname for ever.so,i always use my surname
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
15 Jun 07
thanx.